Bride Asks Future Sister-In-Law To Be Bridesmaid, Then Strangely Refuses To Reveal Color Of Bridesmaid Dress

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    Font - r/AmItheAsshole. Posted by u/Educational-Leg1046 9 hours ago 33 32 WIBTA If I didn't go to my brother's wedding over a bridesmaid dress?
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    Font - I'm currently in medical school and live across the country from my brother/family. I was surprised when his fiancé asked me to be a bridesmaid because I barely know her, but she wants to have all siblings in the wedding. I made it clear that their wedding was during my final exam week, and while I was able to get an accommodation to take my last two exams early I still wouldn't be able to help much with planning or be present at things like a bachelorette party/bridal shower. She said th
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    Font - There's a group chat that was created months ago that I would read through every couple of days to get updates on things I needed to do, namely to order a bridesmaid dress. Links were sent with three styles to choose from and we would be updated on colors later. So a couple weeks go by and I ask what color to order, bride says she still thinking about it. Couple more weeks go by and she's still thinking... then a couple more weeks. You get the idea. Now it's at the point that if I don't o
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    Font - I asked again yesterday (Sunday) what color do I need to order? Then I'm flooded with messages lambasting me for not ordering a dress yet, from her sisters and my sister and her. My sister called me, told me to "get my sh*t together" and "order a dress already" because my lack of preparedness is causing the bride intense anxiety because she doesn't think my dress will be here on time for the wedding now. She texted me this morning, "don't forget order your dress, love you" with smiling an
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    Font - Still, no one has told me what color! I've scoured the group chat for a mention of dress colors or an image of a dress but only the maid of honor sent a photo of her dress and I don't know if she has a special color. There's thousands of messages so it's not simple to find anything. Everyone else can meet in person so I assume the decision on color was relayed in person. I can't tell if I'm being purposefully excluded?
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    Font - About an hour ago my brother called me pleading with me to work things out with the bride because she's panicking about me. I tried to explain this to him and he told me he doesn't care, its a petty ladies issue, and since I'm not there for anything else this is the least I can do because the bride thinks I don't like her because I wouldn't come to anything. He's taking her side. They know I'm in medical school, I have literally no say in my schedule. And I'm on the other side of the coun
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    Font - I'm fed up with them and contemplating telling my instructors the wedding was moved and I will take my exams at the regular time. I'd have more time to study that way anyway. I haven't told anyone in my family I'm considering this. WIBTA?
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    Rectangle - Suitable-Cod-1381. 9 hr. ago Professor Emeritass [88] I don't understand why they can't just tell you what color to order? ΝΤΑ This is weird
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    Plant - shrimpandshooflypie. 8 hr. ago. edited 4 hr. ago $2 It could be the bride's passive aggressive way of getting unknown sister out of the bridal party and still look like the good guy.
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    Plant - always_amiss 9 hr. ago I'm getting second-hand anxiety just from reading your post. Why is no one telling you the color of the dress???
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    Font - BlueLavender0104.9 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [12] I would send one last message. Short and sweet. I have not been told what colour dress to order. If I have heard by tonight the dress won't arrive and I will have to withdraw. Hope to hear from you.
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    Font - ErisianImpulse 9 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [19] NTA. Focus on your exams.

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