Bride Refuses To Walk Down The Aisle With Her Parents' Lover By Her Side

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May 28, 2022 6:00 PM EDT

In traditional Western weddings, the father of the bride generally walks her down the aisle. It's meant to represent the exchange of a daughter from her father's family to the groom's. Even though it's an old-fashioned tradition at this point, many people find it beautiful and meaningful, and therefore still uphold the tradition. In today's 'Am I the A$$hole?' post, OP is a bride that is alarmed about how her parents want to switch up that tradition. When she was a teenager, her parents got involved with another man, and now all three of them are in a relationship. Her parents asked if their lover could walk her down the aisle along with her father. Even though she respects their relationship, she ultimately said no because she doesn't consider him to be a father figure in her life. In our opinion, she's definitely in the right, but her parents are disappointed that she doesn't want to include their lover. Scroll down for all the details. 

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    Human body - r/AmItheAsshole. Posted by u/MomAndDadGotABF 19 hours ago AITA for refusing to let my mom and dad's boyfriend walk me down the aisle?
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    There's a lot to unpack here. 

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    Font - So, I (24f) am graduating from university in like just under a month so my fiancee and I have started planning our wedding. My mom and dad had me fairly young, they were both twenty and up until I was thirteen, they both argued and yelled at each other a lot. Then all of a sudden they just stopped, things got better between them, they both got a lot happier and we started doing a lot more family activities. Us three would watch a show every night, we'd go to the movies or a restaurant or
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    We're happy to hear OP's childhood improved overtime. 

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    Font - Then when I was 14, they introduced me to Brian (33 now, 23 then) and told me that he was their boyfriend and they'd been seeing him for a year and he was moving in with us. Things got so weird after that. Like we stopped watching shows every night, on weekends if we were going some place it'd either be me and mom and dad stays home with Brian or me and dad and mom stays home with Brian. The only thing that stayed the same were the little parties for good grades. It
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    Organism - was so weird being around Brian alone but even weirder when he'd get affectionate with mom and dad in front of me and I honestly stopped bringing my friends over after one of them saw him and dad getting into it on the couch.
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    Font - But he always made my mom and dad happy and never gets in my way if I'm sad and I need to cry to dad or cuddle my mom, so why would I do anything about it? Well, my parents came to me with this genius idea that my dad and Brian should both be the ones to walk me down the isle, saying Brian was kind of like a stepdad to me. But he wasn't, yes I'll say he's family but he's not any kind of dad to me. I made it clear that I only want my dad to walk me down the aisle. They asked if I could giv
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    Organism - My fiancee said he supports me but my cousins are staying out of it cause they always found the situation weirder. Maybe I'm wrong though cause Brian means a lot to my parents so if I'm the asshole here, please let me know.
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    Font - sapphisticated_heaux - 19 hr. ago 234 Partassipant [1] NTA. As a polyamorous person, your parents are being very selfish. Brian will likely never be to you what he is to them (relatively speaking) and they shouldn't try to force it. That's inappropriate and is only going to make your resentment worse. If it doesn't happen naturally, then it doesn't happen at all.
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    Rectangle - ChapSteve711 19 hr. ago Professor Emeritass [78] NTA. It's your wedding. If they want Brian involved, let them have a vow renewal ceremony.
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    Font - Blueheron77 19 hr. ago Partassipant [3] NTA - Your day, your way. You've handled their weirdness with much more grace than I would have.
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    Font - TopRecommendation273 - 19 hr. ago Honestly OP, NTA. it is YOUR day! And you are SO lucky your parents are still coming to the wedding as well. I've seen so many stories like this where the parents refuse attendance because of these things. I agree with you and your decision to have him not walk you down the isle. Yes, Brian is your parents lover, but in NO way is he a father to you. If I was in the situation I'd think of him as a "really close family friend", so your point is valid.
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    Font - hptvforever 19 hr. ago Partassipant [2] Whose comfort is more important at YOUR wedding? YOURS or your parents and Brian? ΝΤΑ
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    Font - True-Tomatillo-4720 18 hr. ago Partassipant [3] ΝΤΑ Your parents, albeit good for them for finding happiness and no disrespect for those in a poly relationship, but that is so rude of them to think that Brian should join you and your dad in walking down the isle. Good for you for sticking to your boundaries as that is an incredibly awkward request, and their response to your rejection to said request is incredibly selfish, that you were rejecting THEIR bond with Brian. No.... it is your w
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