Entitled Mom vs. 'Unreasonable' Teacher: Mom wants son to miss test for a pep rally, teacher refuses

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    Font - AITA for telling a teacher she's being unreasonable? My son, Ollie, is a senior and on ASB. They had organized a homecoming pep rally scheduled for this Friday. They've been prepping for a long time. There is a dance routine and a teacher vs student basketball game.
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    Font - Last week, Ollie tripped over a chair during the night and tore a ligament in his ankle. Obviously he can't participate in the rally. They can't really continue with the program as planned with my son out. They really tried. The teacher in charge asked other seniors if they wanted to take my son's spot but they declined because they didn't want to look stupid doing a dance routine with four days prepped.
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    Font - That's when my 11yo son Brian said he wished he could take his brother's place. I thought about that and realized it was actually a good idea. He does a lot of gymnastics and picks up on "choreography" quickly. I had a talk with Ollie who wasn't sure. I spoke to the teacher who asked my son to do some of the choreography and he impressed her. She said she would talk to the other students about Brian taking the spot of Ollie.
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    Font - The students thought the idea would be funny and everyone agreed to it. My son would actually be paired with Ollie's girlfriend. The teacher told me that the rally is scheduled towards the end of the day on Friday so Brian would have to miss three classes - two for prep, one for the rally. I spoke to two and they were fine with it. Whatever work they do on Friday can be made up on Monday.
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    Font - The 3rd teacher, language arts, said she wasn't okay with his skipping class to go to a rally at the high school. That's not a valid excuse to miss class so she won't let him make up a test that she was going to schedule. He would have to get a 0. I told her that it's not like he's skipping school to go to park. If two teachers and the high school is okay, then why can't she? She said she doesn't play favorites. I told her it's not playing favorites, it's being reasonable. Would she have
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    Font - I decided it wasn't worth this much drama and my son getting a 0 on a test in the 6th grade wasn't going to ruin his life. I could be a dad and go over her head but I d won't. She did email me today and asked if I decided if my son was going to skip class to go to the high school rally. I replied he's skipping class because he has a "doctor's appointment." So he'll make the test up per her "rules." What is she going to do? Leave class to see if he's dancing in the rally lol?
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    Font - stannenb 16 hr. ago Pooperintendant [64] What is she going to do? Leave class to see if he's dancing in the rally lol? Assuming this is really, you must think teachers are stupid and don't talk to each other. YTA. 1.5k Reply Share
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    Font - fallen243 12 hr. ago In the US public school teachers don't get to determine what is or is not an excused absence. If the parent calls the student out it is an excused absence. 1.4k Reply S
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    Font - arisomething 12 hr. ago This isn't necessarily true. A lot of schools have actual standards for excused absences. Just because your parents pulled you out of school doesn't mean you get to retake a test. 418 Reply
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    Font - 1708 bambina821.15 hr. ago Can we please get a few things straight? I'm speaking as a recently retired teacher. 1. The school administrators, not teachers, determine what's an excused absence and what isn't. Schools have policies in place. 2. When the administration decides, per school policies, that an absence is excused, teachers MUST allow students to make up work.
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    Font - 3. It's rare to have every student in a class show up on a test day. There's almost always ate least one kid out due to illness or a school choir concert or something. Teachers routinely create alternate tests when they create the original test. 4. Yes, the teacher has to proctor the kid(s) who missed the test. I spent many, many lunch times and after school hours doing this. It's part of the job. It's also why it ticks me off when people say teachers have short hours. I was there 10 hour
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    Font - 5. I always hated it when parents pulled their kids from classes for extraneous reasons, but it was not my call to make. It isn't Brian's LA teacher's call, either. (See #1.) OP, you should have gone to the principal first, not the teachers. I'm just about positive the principal would have given it a green light. NTA (except for the lying part). 674 Reply Share
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    Font - k4skd 9 hr. ago I'm so confused at the YT A comments! My mother was the kind of parent who would make me go to school no matter what and more than ten years later I still get annoyed thinking about it. One test in 6th grade is really not a big deal. Makes me wonder how old these commenters are. 294 Reply Share
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    Font - jenguinaf 8 hr. ago I'm also confused by all the YTA comments, I know it's contraversal but gasp sometimes personal growth and educational opportunities occur during school hours and can be a better use of time. My mom was strict AF when it came to attendance but when we were in early elementary school there was going to be a full solar eclipse and my mom called the school to ask what they were gonna do their response was cancel recess and keep everyone inside to protect our eyes. She wen
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    Font - Some teachers are just inflexible atsholes. I had one in middle school who graded on attendance even excused and acted like she was benevolent for not grading a student down who missed school for her FATHERS FU FUNERAL after he died unexpectedly from a heart attack. She literally acted like she was doing her a favor. 148 Reply Share
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    Font - saltysaltedsal. 16 hr. ago YTA. The teacher had a test assigned for that day hence why the two other teachers allowing it has no bearing on whether the third teacher was unreasonable. Making up classwork/homework is nowhere near as intensive as trying to schedule a makeup test date/time. All you did was teach your kid that it's okay to lie to get what you want and make other people's lives more difficult for the sake of your own personal gain 474 Reply Share

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