Man Refuses To Come To Sister’s Bridal Party After He Realizes He’s Head Over Heels For His Sister’s Fiancé

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Eleonora Bader
Dec 9, 2022 3:00 PM EST

There are rarely such weird, and frankly, sad stories out there, but boy have we gotten a juicy one for you today. What would you do if you fell in love with your sister's fiance? Not much, except for suffer, we guess. You could, technically, admit your feelings to the dude, but… that's just opening a can of worms that will be very difficult, if not impossible to close. But hey, YOLO, right?

 

While scouring r/AITA on Reddit, we happened upon a confession/call for advice, written by u/helpme__2 (username checks out). He explained that he had, regrettably, fallen in love with his sister's fiance. So awkward. Anyhow, he was in a pretty tough spot… eventually, he came clean, and the dude RECIPROCATED. Yeah, it gets even 'better'… Scroll down below to read the full, dysfunctional story. If we're on the topic of toxic, might as well check out these hilarious memes for those who are stuck in a complicated relationship.

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  • 01
    Font - r/AmIthe Asshole - Posted by u/helpme__2 11 hours ago AITA for refusing my sister's offer to be in her bridal party and not giving an explanation?
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    Font - I (26m) fell in love with my sister's partner. This began around a year ago when my sister had to travel for work for an extended period of time and her partner got into a pretty bad car accident just a week after she left. Without going into
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  • 03
    Font - too much detail about his injuries, he needed someone staying with him and helping him get around for a while. I do freelance work from home to support myself, so they asked me if I could go and stay in their home for a while as her partner's temporary caregiver while he recovered. I immediately agreed,
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  • 04
    Font - wanting to help in any way I could. Her partner and I were already good friends prior to this situation, but living with someone and being there in some of their most intimate moments obviously strengthens a bond even further. We bonded over our many
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  • 05
    Font - shared interests and got to talk about deeper things that were typically off limits in a group setting. By the time I realized my changing feelings, it was too late to distance myself from the situation. I had committed to helping him for the duration of his recovery and a sudden change in my behavior would
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  • 06
    Font - just tip him off that something was wrong and add unnecessary stress to an already hard time. He had expressed feeling like a burden more than once. So, I pulled away the little bit I could and we rode out those last few weeks together before he was back on his feet again.
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    Font - To make a long story short, the period that followed was full of guilt from me and confusion from my sister's partner by my quick disappearance following our time together. He eventually texted me and asked if he had done something wrong during our time together and pissed me off somehow, so we met up
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  • 08
    Font - and I came clean. The conversation was a brutal one and it eventually ended in both of us agreeing we would limit our time together from now on as there was no hope for an actual future for us - it would simply be too weird given the history.
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  • 09
    Font - Fast forward to now. The two of them got engaged somewhat recently and this past Saturday, my sister asked me to be in her wedding as part of her bridal party. I asked her to let me think about it (which already caused some tension) and finally told her yesterday that I was incredibly grateful for her offer but I had
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  • 10
    Font - to turn it down. I'm fine attending as a guest, but being in the party just feels too much. She is now furious with me and is demanding I give her an explanation at the very least, something I have refused.
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    Font - ETA: Addressing comments/questions he did reciprocate my feelings. They didn't have a traditional proposal and my sister is the one who initiated the conversations. In response to inquiries about the status of their relationship now: he told me that he respects my sister and doesn't want to end the
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  • 12
    Font - relationship abruptly with no real reason. he can disclose. He has had relationships with men in the past and she knows this. He and I text occasionally but not often at all.
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  • 13
    Font - IAmSpellbound 11 hr. ago YTA for having an emotional affair with your sisters fiance for sure. Was it just emotional though? Did you sleep together? You already admitted the feelings were reciprocated, why stop now?
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  • 14
    Font - Your poor sister though. She deserves better than this. Grow a pair and tell her the truth. Don't let her marry someone who doesn't love her back.
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  • 15
    Font - pollypocketpussy. 6 hr. ago I swear this sub is so unrealistic. These are two adults who developed feelings for each other and agreed to not act on them because it would hurt someone they both love dearly, and everyone is screaming at OP about hAvInG aN eMoTiOnAl
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  • 16
    Font - AfFair! Bro they weren't sexting or telling each other "if only I could be with you...", neither of them planned on the crush developing but it did and they're trying to handle it like adults. FFS.
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  • 17
    Font - dingdongditch216 . 7 hr. ago This is a better narrative. I was blown away by the "emotional affair" comments after reading what I initially found to be a pretty heartbreaking post by OP (heartbreaking for everyone, including the sister).
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  • 18
    Font - It doesn't appear as if anyone actively pursued these feelings or were complicit in them. There's secret keeping to be sure, but not an affair. In fact it sounds like initial measures were taken to avoid an affair at all costs as soon as those involved realized how serious their feelings were.
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  • 19
    Font - Emotional affair or not, this is by no means a healthy or simple situation, and I think OP's next steps are beyond the scope of Reddit and should be in the hands of a therapist. 90 Reply Share
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  • 20
    Font - TiniestGhost 9 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [23] While you can't control your feelings, you can control your actions. Telling the fiance was selfish and unnecessary. Not telling his sister that the man she's
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  • 21
    Font - about to marry has feelings for someone else (which is in one of OP's other comments but should be in the OP) is unbelievably cruel. That's why OP is an AH. 12 Reply Share
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  • 22
    Font - saucynoodlelover. 9 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [7] Disagree. I think intent plays a big role here. OP didn't admit his feelings hoping to start a relationship with the other man, but to explain why he can't continue the friendship anymore.
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  • 23
    Font - Red_orange_indigo · 9 hr. ago He didn't do anything wrong. This sub has a weird hang up about people openly discussing their feelings with one another- something that many queer men do quite readily, especially because most continue to have former lovers among their friendship circles.
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