‘What Is SHE Doing Here?!’ : Son Mortified When His Parents Invite His Ex Girlfriend to Breakfast Without Telling Him

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    Font - Posted by u/Infinite-Poetry-659 15 hours ago AITA for not telling my son that his ex- girlfriend would be having breakfast with us? I (46m) have a son (18m) in senior year, who was with a girl (18f) for two years from his school and they recently broke up. His ex girlfriend is well-mannered and intelligent, me and my wife both adore her. Her parents are the same. They broke up at the end of October after they went to a lloween party and she broke up with him. They have despised each other
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    Font - ex girlfriend, she was crying and mumbling. She was going on about her mother and it was all incoherent. She was clearly inebriated and i calmed her down, she was asking me if she could stay in the guest bedroom for the rest of the night and i told her that she can stay however long she saw fit. Me and my wife included her into breakfast the next morning even though she felt embarrassed and my son joined us, but was clearly flabbergasted by seeing her and was about to leave, though i enco
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    Font - As soon as she left, he got upset at both of us and was wondering "why she was here for breakfast?" and he told us that we were immensely invasive of a space in his life that is fragile and that i don't respect his boundaries by letting her stay without his knowledge. He told me that i should've at least warned him that she would be here. I was wondering if i was the asshole for letting her stay, encouraging her to stay for breakfast and proceeding to not tell him as he was greatly upset
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    Font - rabbitolo 15 hr. ago Partassipant [1] YTA. It's your son's ex, why are you maintaining a relationship with them? It's weird. You also don't know why they broke up, so for all you know you invited your sons abuser to breakfast. 7.4k Reply Share
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    Font - thegreatmei 30 13 hr. ago S4 & 2 More She may be 18, but she's still a teenager. A teenager who called a trusted adult for help when they needed it. I do think that OP should have warned the son what was going on. Especially as he doesn't know the details of what happened with the relationship. I don't think this is a set of parents who is overly invested in the kid's relationship. I think it's an adult who did their best to help a vulnerable teenager in what was a potential emergency. Do
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    Font - don't think it's quite 'maintaining a relationship' with the ex though.. OP didn't even recognize the number when the ex called. He didn't reach out or go looking for her. He extended a helping hand ( TEMPORARILY) to a distressed teenager who called for help. 12.7k Reply Share
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    Font - codeverity 13 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [10] Yeah, imo the issue here isn't that OP still has a relationship with the ex, the issue here is that he didn't tell his son. 4.0k Reply Share Pale_Cranberry1502. 13 hr. ago The problem is that it was the middle of the night, so he would have had to wake up son to give him a heads up so that he wouldn't be blindsided. I can see why they didn't turn her away. I'm assuming she got in over her head
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    Font - and didn't feel like she could call her parents. You don't turn away a vulnerable 18 year old when you get a call like that. OP doesn't say if she had Grandparents, Aunts or Uncles who she could have called instead. I'm assuming not, if she resorted to her ex's home. 1.4k Reply Share
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    Font - smudge_the_kitten 13 hr. ago So slip a note under his bedroom door if you don't want to wake him at the time. "Your ex-gf called us in the middle of the night, drunk and begging for help. She slept in the spare room so you might see her in the morning. Just writing this note so you don't get a shock. Love, mum & dad". Too easy. 2.1k Reply Share

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