'What a way to start the new year': New Dad demands girlfriend take a paternity test, comes out negative but she leaves him anyway

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    Photograph - ATERNIDAD ANTAURSE "I'm going to allow him this paternity test because I have nothing to hide [...] Once it's proven that he's the father, I'm ending it"
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    Font - My boyfriend asked for a paternity test for our child. As soon as the results come and show he is the father, I'm leaving him. I'm a new mom to a baby boy who is my pride and joy and though it's been a rollercoaster adjusting to taking care of a baby, the past few months have been great, tiring but great. I have a bf of 3 years who is the first person relationship wise I have ever loved and I thought we were doing great as new parents but also as partners.
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    Font - Friday, he came home and he asked me for a paternity test. Just like that, it was completely out of the blue. I was putting away the dishes and he asked for one, like he was asking what was for dinner. I'm a different race from him but our child, apart from the skin tone, is literally his mirror image from pictures I had seen of him when he was a baby. I was stunned when he asked and his reasons were that he had to be sure he was the father, he had to have that certainty. All I remember a
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    Font - The man I love doesn't trust me. He would actually believe that I would f someone else, cheat on him, and then try to pass off another man's baby as his. I have never ever given him reason to think I would cheat on him. I have tried to be transparent and communicated and it wasn't enough. He told me he would give me time to think about this, that he wouldn't go behind my back and do this test but for our relationship to move forward, he needs to be 100% sure. He repeated this because he,
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    Font - After thinking for a couple of days, I'm going to allow him this paternity test because I have nothing to hide. I never cheated and would have never cheated on him. Once it's proven that he's the father, I'm ending it, leaving the same day and I am going to try my best to be a cooperative coparent with him. In the meantime, I'm coming up with my exit plan, a place to live, and a lawyer to work out a custody arrangement and court.
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    Font - I can't even tell my family or my friends right now because they would go nuclear and my first priority is our child. I hope the test was worth it to him. I'm not asking for advice or reassurance or to explain his side. I just, I'm just realizing this part of my life is now over. What a way to start the new year, huh.
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    Font - Blue 14 hr. ago Dolphins1221. Did you ask what suddenly made him change his mind? Who is he talking to? 11.4k Reply
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    Font - rosyposy86 12 hr. ago I'm thinking a group of friends got into his head and he's not going to expect her to leave, especially as he said, "For this relationship to go forward..." 6.4k Reply S
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    Font - lunamoon1947 - 14 hr. ago Not telling others is a good thing. That way you know it won't get back to him. He can't back track after the results come in. I'm petty. I would also record him saying it and then record him getting the results. Just so you can play back for him in the future. Also if he ever lies and says he never said it. 5.0k Reply Share
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    Rectangle - Druidgoddess - 12 hr. ago (S We can go full reddit on him and claim HE is cheating and thus projecting hence his concern about paternity. 3.7k Reply Share
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    Font - D FreyaDay edited 10 hr. ago S2 11 hr. ago I would be interested to know if he has some kind of anxiety issues related to health or if he has been cheated on in the past. I feel like depending on the context this could be potentially understandable and something you guys could work on in couples therapy. 3.2k Reply Share
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    Font - therealcosmicnebula. 14 hr. ago Sounds like your boyfriend has been listening to the Manosphere. One common belief is that 30% of babies are being raised by men who aren't their father. He was listening to some Bro TM Podcast that hyped him up to accuse you. Because those places tell men all women are bad. So, leave, and never go back. He's lost. 1.1k Reply Share
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    Font - DKDamian 14 hr. ago I'm really sorry. My wife and I have two young daughters together. The thought never crossed my mind and I would think it insane to suggest to her. Just completely bonkers and totally lacking in trust or respect 998 Reply Share
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    Font - WOFaolain 12 hr. ago Was he cheated on before? My son's mother was a cheater. It fu me up for a good while. I finally found a woman who helped me heal after countless relationships that I threw away because I was gutted.. I woulda asked for a paternity test too. If this isn't his past then he's sayin he doesn't want to be a father yet. 815 Reply Share
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    Font - SCA_CH 14 hr. ago . I'm sorry this is happening to you! I'm glad you are doing what is best for you. Once the test is back and you are able to leave, focus on healing and being the best mother you can be. Then go out there and find a partner who is worthy of you. All the best. 756 Reply Share
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    Font - AlaskanPuppyMom. 12 hr. ago S DNA test for the baby. STD test for the man. Seems a fair trade to me. 600 Reply Share

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