'He's probably cheating himself': Devastated Girlfriend Is leaving Her Boyfriend After He Randomly Demanded A Paternity Test For Their Newborn Baby

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elina lee
Jan 6, 2023 3:00 PM EST

Say what you want about relationships but one thing you can't deny is that in order for a relationship to succeed, trust is a key factor. If you don't have trust, you don't have a concrete foundation, and if you don't have a concrete foundation - you can't start building. However, once the foundation is finally set and you feel like you have 100% trust in your partner, then you can work on creating a solid relationship by communicating and loving one another. 

But don't get it twisted, just because you trust your partner - doesn't mean he trusts you. Men are easily swayed and tend to look for the easy way out - always and forever. And that's exactly what today's story is about. A boyfriend, a girlfriend, and their newborn baby. She thought she was living out her dream, finally starting a family with the love of her life. He had other plans. Have a read for yourself and let us know what you think about the whole debacle.  

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    Smile - Posted by u/imshattered_ 1 day ago 56 4 My boyfriend asked for a paternity test for our child. As soon as the results come and show he is the father, I'm leaving him. 5
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    Font - I'm a new mom to a baby boy who is my pride and joy and though it's been a rollercoaster adjusting to taking care of a baby, the past few months have been great, tiring but great.
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    Font - I have a bf of 3 years who is the first person relationship wise I have ever loved and I thought we were doing great as new parents but also as partners.
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    Font - Friday, he came home and he asked me for a paternity test. Just like that, it was completely out of the blue. I was putting away the dishes and he asked for one, like he was asking what was for dinner. I'm a different race from him but our child, apart from the skin tone, is literally his mirror image from pictures I had seen of him when he was a baby.
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    Font - I was stunned when he asked and his reasons were that he had to be sure he was the father, he had to have that certainty. All I remember as he was speaking is just immediately feeling pain.
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    Our heart goes out to you. We can't even begin to imagine the pain you must've felt in this moment. Even if someone did get in his head - it's his duty to keep them in check. Honestly failed the vibe check and we say dump his sorry butt 

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    Smile - The man I love doesn't trust me. He would actually believe that I would fuck someone else, cheat on him, and then try to pass off another man's baby as his. I have never ever given him reason to think I would cheat on him. I have tried to be transparent and communicated and it wasn't enough.
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    Organism - He told me he would give me time to think about this, that he wouldn't go behind my back and do this test but for our relationship to move forward, he needs to be 100% sure. He repeated this because he, in his words, "needed me to realize how serious he was".
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    Font - After thinking for a couple of days, I'm going to allow him this paternity test because I have nothing to hide. I never cheated and would have never cheated on him. Once it's proven that he's the father, I'm ending it, leaving the same day and I am going to try my best to be a cooperative coparent with him.
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    Rectangle - In the meantime, I'm coming up with my exit plan, a place to live, and a lawyer to work out a custody arrangement and court.
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    Font - I can't even tell my family or my friends right now because they would go nuclear and my first priority is our child. I hope the test was worth it to him.
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    Font - I'm not asking for advice or reassurance or to explain his side. I just, I'm just realizing this part of my life is now over. What a way to start the new year, huh.
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    Font - BlueDolphins1221 . 1 day ago Did you ask what suddenly made him change his mind? Who is he talking to?
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    Font - rosyposy86 1 day ago I'm thinking a group of friends got into his head and he's not going to expect her to leave, especially as he said, "For this relationship to go forward..."
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    Rectangle - RollOk6411 23 hr. ago Or he's cheating himself and paranoid you are doing the same 41
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    Font - WinterOkami666 Or just looking for an easy escape, because parenthood is too much, and he feels trapped. ● 13 hr. ago He wants to ditch the kid but doesn't want to feel guilty for it.
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    Font - dragonstkdgirl. 1 day ago Well at least she'll already have a paternity test handy to prove it's his kid for child support
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