‘How Dare You Book a Trip Without Me?’ : Controlling Boyfriend Throws Tantrum After Girlfriend Books Solo Vacation

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    Font - u/Dense_Can9039 2 hours ago AITA for blowing up at my gf who booked multiple trips without (telling) me
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    Font - So last year January my gf told me for her new years resolutions she was going to travel. She'd been talking about wanting to for years. She told me about a trip she had all planned out and was going on by herself. We just finished studies and started fulltime jobs so we both never really had money to travel before.
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    Font - At the time I was against it because I really wanted us to travel together. So I suggested/insisted for her to not go on the trip and save/use that money for us to travel together instead since we couldn't afford to do both. She agreed. However work got pretty hectic (for me) and I was never actually able
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    Font - to take my vacation days to go on a proper holiday with her. She never expressed any regret or anger about it to me. It just didn't happen. Sucks, but there's always next year right? Anyway fast forward to today and we were again talking about new years resolutions and she dropped
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    Font - the bomb on me that she actually booked MULTIPLE weekend trips for this year already. Without saying anything about to me. I got kind of upset with her and she casually told me I am always free to come and we will still make travel plans together also. Like it's no big deal. I told her that's not the
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    Font - point and expressed a lot of hurt and anger about the fact that she booked it without telling me and seemingly didn't care about my opinion at all. Then she then in turn blew up on me about last year and the fact that I "stopped" her from traveling when I knew that was the one
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    Font - thing she really wanted. That before she cancelled she'd asked me again and again if I was sure we'd go and I promised her we would (which was my freaking intention!) and we didn't, so in her disappointment she decided from then on she wouldn't rely on other people anymore to make her plans happen. Immature IMO because
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    Font - I'm her partner not just people. I do get her disappointment but as I reminded her it wasn't intentional on my part, like completely beyond my control, and she never mentioned being upset or anything about it before now. I would have been happy to apologize or acknowledge her feelings if she came to me about it.
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    Font - She said she didn't mention last year before because she didn't want to make me feel bad and hold it against me because she knew it was out of my control, decided she was just going to go for it in the future if she wanted something for herself and that's why she did it. So I said is that how it's going to be from now on then?
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    Font - Like 0 communication. she isn't required to ask my permission to go but I think it should be talked about. That's how a partnership works. Of course I especially can't stand how she is convinced she did nothing wrong whatsoever and I am the total asshole in this situation for
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    Font - blowing up at her the way I am when it's really the other way around. She's reading this with me. AITA?
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    Font - West-Highway1840. 1 hr. ago 2 Partassipant [2] YTA. Unless she was planning on using your money to travel last year, you get NO SAY in what she does. So let me break this down. You:
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    Font - 1. Tried to control her life because you didn't want her traveling without you by PROMISING that y'all would get to travel together. 2. Failed to keep your promise that y'all
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    Font - would travel together. 3. Are now throwing a toddler's tantrum over the fact that she's not going to take your word that y'all will get to travel together this year (since you
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    Font - didn't keep your word last year) and just decided to book her own trips (which she says you're more than welcome to come on).
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    Font - You sir, are a massive, controlling, jerk of an a shole. If I were her, I honestly probably would have started questioning the relationship last year when you kept me from living my dreams. Get over yourself, you're wants are NOT more important than her wants.
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    Font - DaysOfRoses 2 hr. ago Partassipant [2] YTA when you knew after a few months you couldn't schedule a trip you should have told her to plan something for herself and to go have fun.
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    Font - You prevented her for traveling for a year. I totally get that she's now booked stuff and you can choose which (if any) of those trips work for you. ✩ 2.8k Reply Share
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    Font - Now__Hiring. 24 min. ago Traveling is going to open her eyes to the fact that there's people who don't behave like OP

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