Husband 'Upstages' Wife In Cookie Christmas Tradition by Streamlining Baking Process

Stereotypes about husbands and wives aren't always true, but they exist for a reason. And one couple's quarrel over a cookie-baking Christmas tradition could definitely be used to prove the validity of certain stereotypes about men and women. u/wirnei339oe3jrj left it up to r/AmItheAsshole to decide whether or not he was in the wrong for "upstaging" his wife by being a more efficient cookie-baker. Though most voted that OP was technically "NTA," many sympathized with OP's wife on an emotional level.

Posted by Mel Dawn

"AITA: For ‘upstaging’ my wife in our Christmas cookie baking tradition?" Posted by u/wirnei339oe3jrj

The comment section

“Yes. OP and wife just have different emotional investments in this tradition, which they have not communicated about effectively.” said u/mwmandorla.

“Because he is an engineer who has ADHD. All of the challenge of optimizing the Christmas cookies is just a picture of how his brain works. OP might not do things the way other people would but that doesn't make him an AH.” said u/christikayann.

"That was exactly my take! Glad to find out I wasn't mistaken. Not even knowing his job and that he has ADHD I could tell just by his writing style and how he went about it. He's an analytical academic type. Nothing wrong with what he did imo it's just his style. Maybe I'm going against the grain but I feel NTA. Personally I wouldn't want to be in that kitchen. But to each his own" said u/yankiigurl.

“I agree with your non-verdict.” said u/araloss.

“Why tho. He made more with a lot of help, so more people could get treats.” said u/Calpernia09.

“She thinks he was working against her. He thought he was working against physics, time, and chemistry. They are talking past each other.” said u/Arya_Flint.

“To me it’s sounds like she didn’t think he could do it or hell even better than her. Also it’s a tradition, do they have to stop because one person is missing for that year? She liked baking & basically gatekeeping it from others. He didn’t do anything wrong with taking it over & trying at it for one time that his wife couldn’t do it. NTA” said u/Reasonable_Chart_768.

“If it’s a tradition you do together, then yeah, you don’t do it on your own. My husband and I apple pick and strawberry pick together every year. I couldn’t see myself going alone. It’s a tradition that we do it together. I’d be hurt if he went without me.” said u/PainterDoodle_1.