Wife Doesn’t Like Husband Bringing Dirt Into the House but Refuses To Give Him Soap To Clean Himself, Soap Opera Ensues!

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    Organism - "Your wife, on the other hand, is TA and it sounds like she has some bigger control issues. Hint: It's probably not just about the soap!"
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    AITA because I make my wife dig through the trash. I will not say my wife is OCD because I have no training to make such a diagnosis. She is however incredibly about so much stuff. I can deal with most of it. There is really only one thing that bugs me. She doesn't understand that the soap dispensers need to be refilled.
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    Font - There is a bathroom just inside the back door that I use on my way into the house. I like to use it then wash my hands and my face after a long day at work or after a day of working in the garage or on the yard. This requires soap. My wife likes liquid soap dispensers. No problem I can live with that. Except that when they are empty she forgets to refill them. So I have to use another bathroom in the house. Then she gives me bringing dirt into the house. for
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    Font - I bought a sleeve of bars of soap to keep in that bathroom. She threw them away because bats of soap are gross. I bought replacement dispensers. She gave me wasting money on refillable soap dispensers. for She buys liquid soap by the gallon. But she doesn't store the stockpile in the same place all the time.and when I go looking for it she gives for disorganizing her me pantry/storeroom.
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    Font - So now whenever I runout of soap I just toss the dispenser in the garbage and go get one from the other bathroom. Then when she gets home she gets upset because she has to dig the dispenser out of the garbage to refill it. I've asked her to leave me a gallon of soaping the bathroom. She won't. I bought my own gallon of soap. She found it and hid it wherever she hides that
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    Font - She says I'm being an throwing away the dispensers. I say it's her fault for not refilling them. I even drew a line on the one in my bathroom so I can give her a weeks warning that I need a refill.
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    Font - Eak-the-Cat 8 hr. ago. edited 8 hr. ago 3 & 12 More I think a lot of the people voting y t a aren't reading the whole post. Honestly, I was reading through this going: "Dude, why is it on her to refill the soap you use..." and then I reached the end of your post and... holy hamburgers, batman!.
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    Font - To summarize for those in the back of the room: • Situation: Wife doesn't want OP tracking dirt through the house when coming in from the garage or the yard (fair... I wouldn't want to clean up that mess either) • Solution: OP enters through the garage when dirty and uses the bathroom that is right there to clean up (good solution!)
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    Font - • Problem: There's never any soap there to clean up with (Ooops, now that's a problem but easily fixable) Attempt to Solve #1: OP tries to keep the soap dispenser full by taking ownership of the soap issue and refilling it. (Seems fair, after all... if he's the primary person using that bathroom it would make sense for him to "own" refilling the soap.)
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    Font - • Failure #1: Wife refuses to let OP keep refill soap in the bathroom, stores the soap refills elsewhere, won't tell OP where she is storing it AND gets mad at OP when he tries to find it... you know, to solve the problem. (Ok, now it's getting a little weird.) • Attempt to Solve #2: OP buys a separate soap refill so he can refill as needed. (A little extreme, but still a workable solution.)
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    • Failure #2: Wife finds and hides the soap refill that OP bought (Um, ?) Attempt to Solve #3: OP buys some bars of soap to use in just that bathroom (Ok, another valid solution.) • Failure #3: Wife throws out the bars of soap because she finds bar soap gross. (Seriously, WTFing here.)
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    Font - ● Attempt to Solve #4: OP asks wife to keep the soap in the bathroom full (I mean, what else can you do at this point if she is actively preventing you from taking care of it yourself?) • Failure #4: Wife refuses (facepalm) • Attempt to Solve #5: OP buys new, pre-filled soap dispensers and swaps them out whenever the old soap dispenser runs out (Rather wasteful, but at this point what else can you do?)
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    Font - • Failure #5: Wife calls OP an AH for being wasteful and keeps digging through the trash to recover the empty soap dispensers (dude, how many empty soap dispensers do y'all have at this point?)
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    Font - In this case, no... you're very much NTA. And you have a lot more patience than I do... I would have lasted about to where she was throwing out the bars of soap (and she complains about waste?!?) instead of lettign you use them to wash up. Your wife, on the other hand, is TA and it sounds like she has some bigger control issues. Hint: It's probably not just about the soap! 43.9k Reply Sham
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    Product - dart1126 9 hr. ago Pooperintendant [59] NTA this soap opera is borderline insane. 9.5k Reply Share
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    Font - sappho2869 8 hr. ago I'm wondering if this is borderline emotional abuse. He's been proactive to placate her strict rules, and she intentionally sabotages all his efforts. 2.7k Reply Share
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    Font - ay fire_goddess119 hr. ago ΝΤΑ What wrong with her? Why is she hiding soap and picking fights over it? Do you guys need marriage counseling, or does she need her own therapist? This makes no sense. 7.4k Reply Share
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    Rectangle - booboounderstands. 8 hr. ago "I bought my own gallon of soap and she found and hid it wherever she hides that is why I read this sub. Thank you. NTA, by the way. 43.2k Reply Share
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    Font - SecretJealous4342. 9 hr. ago NTA. What does she want. From your post it seems like you tried a lot of reasonable solutions. Good luck. 3.1k Reply Share
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    Font - tinkrbell1437 NTA - You have tried several reasonable ways to address the issue and she sabotages each one. If throwing them away is the only way to get her to refill the container, so be it. 9 hr. ago That being said, y'all really need to talk this out and figure out what exactly is the problem. This has got to be deeper than just not wanting to refill the container in that bathroom. 1.9k Reply Share
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    Font - Unable Duty78098 hr. ago NTA. My gut reaction two sentences in was 'Why don't you just refill the soap yourself' but after reading the entire story your wife is unreasonable. 1.8k Reply Share
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    Font - Billmatic- 8 hr. ago NTA - whatever is wrong with your wife isn't insignificant. who tf throws away bars of soap because they're gross? and then taking and hiding the liquid soap you bought so you could replace it yourself? baffling behavior that is nonetheless bat 1.0k Reply Share
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    Font - WideGrappling. 8 hr. ago Do you always get treated like a child 728 Reply Share littlebitfunny21. 8 hr. ago I am hoping you aren't a parent since children should not be treated like this. 303 Reply Share
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    Font - scrapfactor 7 hr. ago NTA. 1. She doesn't refill them. 2. She doesn't put the soap in the bathroom so you can refill them. 3. She doesn't like you going through the house to get more soap. 4. She doesn't like you getting more soap yourself. 128 Reply Share

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