Suspicious Wife Thinks It's Weird for Her Hubby to Have a Female Best Friend, Claiming It's a Red Flag

Anybody that's ever been cheated on can attest that they had a long recovery after the incident. Once your trust has been broken with a person, it's tough to let down your walls again with any future relationships and it can be pretty easy to become perpetually distrusting and suspicious of your future partners. One woman on Reddit, u/Sujenke, a middle aged woman who's been married since she was 22, suffers from debilitating suspicion of her husband, claiming that it's inappropriate for her man to have any female best friends. 

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She takes it even further to suggest that, not only is it not cool for your partner to have any opposite sex best friends, but she feels it's disrespectful to even hang out with a friend who is of the opposite gender if you're alone with them. Woah woah woah. Sujenke might be claiming that she trusts her hubby and that this opinion is out of respect rather than suspicion, but something tells me that's not the whole story.  

Damaged or not, Sujenke's unpopular opinion stirred a bit of a ruckus in the comment section. With people pitching tents on opposite sides of the argument, it feels as if there are a number of people out there who don't seem to truly trust their significant others. Some people value opposite gendered friends, while others agreed that it was sketchy for their partner to engage with opposite sex friendships. 

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Many commenters even joked that there's nothing really stopping them from cheating on their wives with their MALE best friends, because why not ?

This then raises the question about bisexual couples. Are they not allowed to have any friends at all anymore according to Sujenke's “mutual respect” logic? The real opinion that Sujenke seems to be raising is the question about agreed upon monogamy. There's obviously more going on with her relationship than we know, but who are we, as onlookers, to speculate on the general health of a strange woman's 34 year marriage? 

Some people believe that it seems pretty obvious that it's disrespectful to have opposite gendered friends when you're in a serious relationship. On the contrary, that may be overly simplified and frankly a little distrusting. Whatever side of the argument you are sitting on, at the end of the day, relationship balances are delicate, intricate, and completely specific to every couple. For some, trust is second nature. For others, they tighten the leash around their spouses neck sometimes, hoping that keeping them close will help keep them forever.