AITA: 'I walked out, leaving her with a $600 bill' : Man leaves broke girlfriend stranded at high end restaurant on her birthday after finding out she has a kid

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    Purple - "You have a kid!?" And I kinda just froze while staring at her. Didn't know what to say. This isn't how she normally speaks. The whole thing seemed so bizarre. I couldn't wrap my head around it at all, she has major guilt about who pays for dates but she hid having a kid like it's nothing?? I guess my staring made her uncomfortable though, so she excused herself to the bathroom. While she was gone, the more I thought about it the more I kept just getting progressively angrier. So, mostl
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    Font - Posted by u/Lost_In_The_Clutter 12 hours ago AITA for making girlfriend pay for her own birthday gift I (35m) been dating this woman (34f) for about 4-5 months now. We met online and initially, everything went great. Except one thing... We got this deal going where she plans everything and I pay for everything. I spend most of my time working so her planning for stuff is actually a huge bonus to me. + I make a LOT more money than she does so her paying doesn't really make sense. But still
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    Font - so broke right now". I told her several times that I actually like this setup...stop worrying about it...makes no difference to me who pays for dinner...financial support is not something I require in a partner whatsoever. But still no matter what I said she kept feeling guilty about it. I kinda thought maybe it's cuz she has a pretty decent job so she should NOT be broke but probably has poor money management skills so maybe feels a little ashamed for it or something along those lines.
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    Font - Anyway, her birthday comes and I just straight up asked her if she wanted anything for it. She mentioned this restaurant she's been wanting to go to for a while but it's pricey so she never has...and it's not a big deal if we don't go but blah blah blah I made reservations and we're at the place, everything's going fine till some friend of hers walks in, notices her and stops by to say hi. During that conversation the friend asks about her daughter...At first I thought it was some kind of
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    Font - The friend finally leaves and I ask her "you have kids?" She goes "yeah I have a daughter she's 12 her name is..." In a really non nonchalant tone of voice. So I'm like "wtf? You didn't figure to mention this before? Why am I finding out like this?" And she goes "I don't owe you every single detail of my life"
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    Font - And I kinda just froze while staring at her. Didn't know what to say. This isn't how she normally speaks. The whole thing seemed so bizarre. I couldn't wrap my head around it at all, she has major guilt about who pays for dates but she hid having a kid like it's nothing?? I guess my staring made her uncomfortable though, so she excused herself to the bathroom. While she was gone, the more I thought about it the more I kept just getting progressively angrier. So, mostly to avoid making a s
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    Font - I expected a barrage of angry texts and calls on the way home, but no just 1 message "did you seriously just get up and leave?" Then this morning a long message trying to explain things. At first I didn't really feel any guilt at all. But now I'm less angry, I'm realizing she probably doesn't even have the money for that dinner. Might end up paying credit card interest for it for who knows how long. And it's her kid who's ultimately gonna end up suffering for this. Which isn't fair at all
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    Font - Beautiful-Act6485 12 hr. ago Venmo her the money and move on. The most important aspect of her life was hidden from you for 5 months and she had zero intention of telling you. She wasn't your girlfriend. You were her sugar daddy. Nta Reply Share 9.0k
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    Font - 1Preschoolteacher 11 hr. ago Partassipant [3] My thought before even finding out she had a kid was that she was using him because he would always pay. Who suggests someone take them to a restaurant where dinner for two would be $600 when they would never ever be able to reciprocate. He left because he felt used.
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    Font - The fact that he is concerned that her child might suffer because he stuck her with the bill is the clear sign that he is a nice guy. I do hope he Venmos her the money and moves on. This girl is an idiot and ruined a good thing because she was not honest. 3.0k Reply Share
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    Font - Flaky_Drag1826 - 12 hr. ago NTA, you don't hide you have kids for 4 or 5 months. Period. She wasn't dating you, she was dating your money, and that person you never heard talk before, that's the real her coming through. Edit-At least pay your half of the dinner though...don't stay walked out on the whole bill. 3.3k Reply Share ...
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    Font - NanoPsyBorg 10 hr. ago This. She doesn't need to introduce OP to her child on any sort of time frame, but telling him she has a child before he paid for all of those dates is definitely common decency. The fact that she kept planning dates that she could not afford should have been a red flag as well. 777 Reply Share
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    Font - tat2dbanshee 11 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Send her HALF of the bill and be done with her. People don't "hide" children from someone they are in love with, so she's obvi not that into you. Sorry mate. NTA. ⒸO 1.5k Reply Share gelattoh_ayy 5 hr. ago THIS OP. SEND HALF THE BILL. 464 ↓ Reply Share
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    Font - ihatechoosingnames7 - 11 hr. ago NTA y'all crazy if you think it's in any way ok to not tell somebody you have a kid when you start a relationship with them. F her 810 Reply Share bahumat42 9 hr. ago Partassipant [2] I think its ok for the first couple of dates, but i agree that its a discussion that needs having fairly early on. 109 Reply Share
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    Font - Wierdtrader 11 hr. ago NTA-So lets see. This woman does all the planning in a new relationship and he doesn't think that's strange? She says she feels guilty but she's always broke. When he finds out that she's been hiding the fact that she is a single mom she's nasty about it. Why is the obvious so difficult to see? She was taking advantage of him as long as he was willing to let her. This is not unusual. He's been had. This woman was never interested in him, just his wallet. Now I don't
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    Font - Fluffy_Freedom_3318 · 11 hr. ago NTA! People usually mention their kids after the very first date. Not sure what she was trying to achieve here but you should have a conversation with her about this...and please send her money for the restaurant bill. Your emotions are valid but she is still broke. 333 Reply Share Lost_In_The_Clutter OP 11 hr. ago 457 . I sent her the money b4 even posting here. Was mostly just wondering if this type of thing is considered normal these days. Judging by th
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    Font - Existing-Two-2574 · 11 hr. ago Partassipant [3] FFS. I think she sucks for not telling you about the daughter. 5 months is entirely too long to be dating someone and not knowing that information. However, it was f to leave her with a 600 dollar bill, especially if you also ordered. I would send her money for that and cut your losses. 116 Reply Share
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    Font - beautbird 9 hr. ago Especially her response. "I don't owe you every detail of my life" as if they're debating which flavor of Gatorade is the best. 71 Reply Share

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