'AITA for adjusting the thermostat at my in-law's house and not letting them adjust it at mine?': Family's thermostat battle heats up

Brad Dickson • Managing Editor

May 4, 2023 6:00 PM EDT

Few family arguments get more—well… heated than the arguments that emerge over the thermostat and its setting. With different groups and subgroups of people fiercely insisting on wildly different settings that agree with their specific preferences—things can get cold-blooded.

Speaking of cold-blooded: That's exactly what this guy's lizard-person relatives are. Who in their right mind chooses to exist in 80° F heat when you could just as easily not? These in-laws must spend most of their time basking in the sun on a rock and flicking insects with their tongues.

This guy posted to Reddit's r/AmItheA**whole subreddit to see whether or not he was in the wrong for insisting on a double standard when it came to the temperature settings in his and his in-law's houses.

The majority of Redditors seem to think that he's in the wrong, but after going over the post a few times and weighing up the facts—I think I disagree.

Normally, setting a double standard would automatically make you the a-hole in a situation without exception.

Enter: The exception.

It's hard to say that someone is in the wrong when the argument is with someone whose preferences are wildly unreasonable. Just because you enjoy existing on the surface of the sun doesn't mean other people will.

OP does end up in the wrong here for forbidding the in-laws to change the thermostat at his house when it was his wife who changed it. It sounds like that should have been a private conversation first between the couple; she gets just as much of a say as he does.

That's my take. What's yours? Let us know.

Next, check out this family photo refusal that caused a major meltdown.

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