'I wanted to do some gaming': Dude asks GF if he can use their home office for video games

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
May 16, 2023 3:00 PM EDT

The internet can't agree on this couple's dilemma: who has the rights to their computer room? 

Living with another person brings all types of new discussions into your life. You suddenly have someone in your life who you need to ask every day, "What should we have for dinner?" You have to consider what you're both going to do each weekend; you must coordinate when you hang out with your friends. When you move in with that person, you end up dealing with 100 little issues that come up every day, and it becomes your day-to-day life. 

This couple is struggling to plan out their time. They're sharing one room where the BF wants to game, and the GF needs to work. But it's not as simple as just telling the BF to get out and game another time, as the OP explains in their post to r/AmItheA**hole. 

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    Purple - 'She said it was important. I still don't see why it has to be done specifically in the office room'
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    Font - The home office has one big desktop computer. This is my own personal computer I've bought with my own money. I use it for work and for gaming. She has her own work laptops. She does not use my desktop computer. She connects her work laptops to one of the monitors in there. Monday she worked there for home office.
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    Font - Tuesday I used it for home office, as well as some gaming in the evening. Wednesday, again she used it for home office while I went to the office. She said she also wanted to use it in the evning to do more work, to which I said I want to use it to game tonight for a couple hours. Mind you, the past 3 weeks I've spent all my time moving us into this house, while she's been down due to medical issues. Finally I have a little bit of free time again and I haven't been able to do any gaming f
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    Font - Heres how I see it:We both had something we wanted to do. She wanted to do some extra work in the evening I wanted to do some gaming for 1- 2 hours How could we best reach that goal for both of us where both of us get what we want?
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    Font - She has a laptop, very easy to just take that to the livingroom/bedroom and I could get her monitor for her so she could work anywhere she wants. For me to unplug the desktop, and other accessories (keyboard, mouse, headset) would be a lot of hassle, compared to the little amount of work needed to set up her laptop literally anywhere in the apartment.
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    Font - Keep in mind, moving in to this place has drastically increased the standard of our living situation, as we used to live in a tiny one room aparment 310sqft for a year, and we both quite enjoy having an office room. Usually she's the one that uses the room the most during the week due to home office, while I tend to use it for gaming. It's been a little more gaming than usual for me lately as I haven't been able to do it at all for the past months due to life stresses.
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    Font - I ended up using it, and she got very angry with me saying I'm a selfish al even though she was home in the room all day, and I ended up playing for 1,5 hours. Am I the as 1?
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    Font - EDIT: Just wanted to add something: The work she wanted to do was to finish up a report that had to be done for the next day, she said it was important. I still don't see why it has to be done specifically in the office room when it can be done anywhere with a laptop.
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    Font - Edit 2: Thanks for everyone replying. It seems I am the and I was unempathetic towards my girlfriend. I will be working on that and be more understand to her needs in the future and make a plan so that we can both be happy. I am the a in this situation.
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    Font - Various-Bridge-325. Pooperintendant [58] YTA, work comes first and you could just have waited for her to finish before starting your gaming. To avoid this in the future, maybe make a weekly schedule of who needs the room and at what hours.
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    Font - archibaldsneezador. Normally I agree work comes first but if it comes to a point where work is dominating the rest of the household that's not really fair. Not saying that's what's happening here but it could get that way if they're not careful. A schedule would be good, or better yet, two workstations.
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    Font - chop1125 A Enthu... Recreation is as essential to a happy life as a high paying job. OP's preferred recreation is gaming. Her work can be done in other rooms or during work hours. 983 Repl
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    Font - FABLEMANOR ΝΤΑ Because she has laptop which can be used anywhere.
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    Font - CarpenterRadio. Partas pant [1] Okay, work comes first, but why does have to be done in a specific room on a computer that was made to be used on the go?
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    Font - Upset-Slide-6195. Why did he have to give up his personal computer when she had her own? She just wants to use the monitor, he offered her an extra monitor. She is the selfish one.
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    Font - Turbulent_Cow2355. Parta: ipant [2] Oh please! As a gamer and someone who works from home occasionally and is married to a gamer and they also work from home occasionally, this isn't a big deal. I've had to work while my husband games and vice versa.
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    Font - They should be able to work or game, side by side. He has a headset, so it's not like she is going to hear the game. She can also wear a headset to block out noise. She also has a laptop and can move it wherever she needs too. That's the best part about having a laptop. You can sit on the couch, at the dinner table, in bed, outside where it's nice out. She's being UNREASONABLE.
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    Font - 13 Mira I'm sorry, but he has a desktop and she has a laptop, which can easily be moved and used elsewhere, so, if they both wanted to use their own computer, it would've been easy for her to work on like the table in the dining room and let OP use his computer which can't easily be setup elsewhere...
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    Font - O Blyxons A Aficionado [13] YTA. You knew her report had to be done for the next day. That takes priority than your gaming which isn't time- sensitive nor is it bringing in an income. To avoid this happening in the future perhaps come up with a schedule on who wants to use the room and when? So you're both happy and can prioritise properly.
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    Font - Raephstel I 100% agree, work comes first. That's a need (assuming you like your income, anyway), gaming is just a want. However, the two options weren't GF working or BF gaming. The options were GF working in another room and BF gaming, or just GF working and BF doesn't game.
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    Font - From those two options, one is a compromise for the GF while the other is a total loss for the BF. I think it's fair to ask GF to work in another room unless there was some legitimate reason she couldn't. If she needed to be in that specific room, then 100% she should be in there working.
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    Font - Sashimiak Exactly. It's unbelievable people are actually taking her side. She's the entitled A here.
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    Font - Haunting-Juice983 A YTA Enthusiast [6] For many people, the best place to finish a work report, is in a dedicated work space If I had a choice between office and couch- I'd go office as it has limited distractions Anywhere else is distracting Let me know how you go when she's redundant due to not finishing work, but you're nailing Minecraft
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    Font - slaincrane A Enthusiast [8] NAH, you have one room, somebody has to compromise. It's not apparent from this situation alone if it was unfair to either of you. On one hand, it's work for her so you could argue it takes priority. On the other hand, you need to game in that room while she can work in another room with the desktop.
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