Finding out that your spouse is cheating on you via text messages they aren't even attempting to delete or hide properly is absolutely brutal… and discovering that it is with that one person you suspected they were attracted to all along is even more gut-wrenching. Sometimes you just know when something is off, and this is exactly the case for OP, who went through her husband's phone and found the one thing she hoped she'd never find… text messages between him and his coworker, saying he had feelings for her.
A physical affair is one thing, but an emotional one is a whole other ball game. To imagine that the person you've been with for years cares romantically for someone else is a tough pill to swallow. Not that the former isn't gut-wrenching, but the two mixed together is just… difficult, to say the least. OP wasn't sure if she should confront the man she was with for 9 years, the man she had a child with…
Women who had been through something similar gave bucketloads of advice; scroll down to read the entire story. For more like this (on a lighter note), here are some hilarious pick up lines that did not pass the vibe check.