'The Soulmate Scaries': Hundreds of Reddit Users Rally To Emotionally Support 28 Year Old Woman Having A Premature Midlife Crisis

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    Font - Posted by u/fit-ness 12 days ago Please tell me I'm not alone. Everyone my age is married off already (28). All of my friends are married/ happily engaged... even the ones whom which I was almost certain I'd be married before them. They seemed to speed right past me to the finish line. Me? My 2 year relationship might very well be coming to an end this week. This would be my 4th relationship ... failed. Going into a 5th sounds disparaging..... but ending this one I guess is for the better
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    Font - 28 and single sounds terrifying. Who the heck is even left out there? At this point, everyone left is probably going through a divorce, newly divorced, has a kid (boy I am NOT dating someone with a kid again, it was hell), or has some sort of baggage keeping them from dating someone. No offense to anyone out there- I'm sure there's really good ones still left, but they're far and few between. Heck, even my bf currently said this. I think that's another reason why we've stayed together thi
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    Font - UPDATE Holy I did not expect to log into Reddit and see that this got upvoted almost 500 times. Thanks so much for the love, advice and reality checks. Thankfully boyfriend and I had a hard but productive conversation about our relationship and the end isn't in sight just yet. But all of your advice has helped me so much to remain calm in this situation and not be worried about the potential outcome whether we remain together or not. 580 Comments
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    Font - KyleCAV 12 days ago A buddy of mine got married in his early 20's I felt miserable as I was single at the time and a few years after going through a rough relationship. 8 years later they are talking divorce. Do not compare yourself to others no matter what age, just enjoy life as much as you can and if a relationship happens it happens. 183 Share
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    Font - pantymelter360 12 days ago Lol my best friends girl buys her self flowers and then posts on insta with "I love when he surprises me" it's not all what it seems to be 31 Share
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    Font - forgotme5 12 days ago Comparison is the devil 4 3 Share
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    Font - Unlucky_Effect_4804 12 days ago Lol. Some people just HAVE to be in a relationship, or else it's the end of the world. There's nothing wrong with being single. 427 Share
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    Font - pepperpat64 12 days ago I should add that I regret both my first and current marriage. Being single was awesome. 419 Share
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    Font - honeybunchesofgoatso 12 days ago You're 28. Chill. That's young, but everyone at every age is dating. Stop getting stuck on weird markers for when you have to achieve life goals 16 Share
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    Font - PleaseHold50 - 12 days ago The world is absolutely full of men in that age group who have normal jobs, were never married, and have no kids. You literally cannot throw a stick without hitting one. 10 Share
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    Font - J_Neruda 12 days ago 34, never married and don't think it's necessary. Don't let these social norms bend you. Find someone you're happy with and work it out with them but more importantly find a life you're happy with and everything else will fall into place. 6 Share
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    Font - The BigGrab 12 days ago . I'm 37 and divorcing. I got married at 26, and filed for divorce at 36. At 28, I'm sure most people who saw my marriage from the outside would have thought I had found my match. And at that time, I thought that. Life is not a race. Or a list to check off. 6 Share
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    Font - HeliosOakley 12 days ago I am around your age and so are nearly all my friends. Over 90% of my friends and myself just got out of long term relationships, one even getting divorced. You are not alone and we are not old. Even if we were, it's never too late to find happiness again. We'll be fine. 3 Share
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    Font - Shell_N_Cheese · 12 days ago I met the love of my life at the old age of 36 and we had a baby. You've got time. 2 Share
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    Font - C [deleted] 11 days ago Enjoy the single life man 2 ● Share
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    Font - Thong_ripper 11 days ago Met my husband when I was 30 and got married at 35. At 28 I felt the same as you. Take your time. 42 Share
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    Font - Nomadic Daydreamer 12 days ago You're not alone and that's a valid fear. I'm 30 and single. Just got out of a 6 year relationship. It was very scary because I've always imaged I'd be married by 25 and have kids by 30. But now I'm happy being single and I'm so glad I'm not married. I've actually realized that I don't want kids and it was just the pressure from society making me think I want them. Life is not a race. Enjoy each day to the fullest and do what makes you happy. :) ↑ 1 Share
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    Font - Jthemovienerd. 12 days ago Look at it this way, if you were married, it would be to one of the five that you talked about. Now think to yourself, would it be worth being married to that guy just to be married first? 41 Share
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    Font - Kittybegood 12 days ago I'm 31 and getting divorced if that makes you feel any better. Better to be single than be with just anyone or the wrong person. 41 ↓ Share
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    Font - Driving_the_skeleton 12 days ago Girl, you're out there and there's nothing wrong with you, right? There's plenty of people just like you that spent a few years getting their education and career right and spent a few years in the wrong relationships. 28 is not old at all and you'll be fine! Just breathe. 1 Share ●●●

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