Update: 'I told her she is not going anywhere': Uncooperative traveler refuses to end trip early, then demands to be taken to Hawaii

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Jun 21, 2023 11:00 AM EDT

These vacations to Italy and Hawaii sound incredible, so it's a shame it didn't work out as the vacationers planned. 

Traveling with your friends always seems like a good idea until it's actually time to go. You really find out who people are when they're under stress, and if you've ever traveled at all, you know that things never go completely as planned. 

Vacationing, as relaxing as it is, involves a lot of moving parts and planning things in advance. Depending on what you do, the planner has to book tickets, flights, and hotel rooms, plot out a course if they're driving, and then pack food, clothes, supplies. Taking five days to visit a tropical island always sounds so idyllic when you're sitting around dreaming about it, but it takes hard work to make the dream a reality. 

Alongside the prep work, things can and will go wrong when you're abroad. Luckily, most of the time you'll end up remembering the bumps in the road as a funny memory years from now. But in the moment, issues like your car breaking down in the middle of nowhere while you're all starving and sweltering in the heat, is just a recipe for fights to break out. 

It seems that these two women traveled together and now they know that they aren't meant to do that together. Well, at least one of the friends took away that message. 

Next, these friends also had some travel drama: they couldn't decide who should get which bedroom at their Airbnb.

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    Font - AITA for wanting to go home early from vacation AITA I (33F) went on vacation with my friend (36F). My friend lives about 500 km away from me and is virtually on the way to our destination, so I picked her up and we went on to Lake Garda in Italy, which was also another 400 km. We had agreed in advance that we would stay for 4 days at Lake Garda with the option to extend by one day. We had a great time, saw a lot and did a lot of shopping. On our second to last day, I asked her if we want
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    Font - On our departure day, my mother called me early in the morning and told me that due to a storm, my apartment was under water. Because of this, my vacation mood had dropped to zero and I just wanted to go home. So I asked my friend if we could maybe please go home after breakfast, for the reason just mentioned. She was not enthusiastic at all and totally uncooperative. I then proposed the compromise that we go home at 2pm so she has enough time to shop. We have to check out of the hotel ar
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    Font - she gets home, because I'm leaving now. Finally she agreed and we finally left. Here already the next problem began, she did not want to go so early from the vacation home and now nevertheless extend or go only tonight late home. Then I reminded her that I need at least 5 hours more until I'm home, depending on how the traffic is and I do not want to extend or drive later. Thereupon she was totally cranky and in a bad mood. Normally you can drive around the lake via the expressway, but th
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    Font - restaurant with terrace over the lake, lots of flowers, so the total Instagram dreamland. As an answer I got that she is not hungry and she does not want to stop here. So we drove on and I was punished with the silence treatment. Which is more of a punishment for herself, because of the two of us she is the communicative type who always has to talk, I can also just say nothing and listen to music while I drive without making me uncomfortable. Shortly after the Italian border she yells at
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    Font - The mood was still not the best. Finally we arrived at her home at around 9 pm. I helped her to bring in all her luggage and said goodbye to her and told her that I will contact her when I arrive at home and we will talk on the phone in the next days. Due to the traffic situation, I also finally arrived home 7 hours later where I was greeted by pure chaos. I wrote to my friend that I arrived home well and will get back to her later. In the afternoon after a detailed damage analysis I sent
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    Font - go on vacation with me again if I make such a drama out of everything. I'm starting to really doubt myself and wonder if I'm the problem here or if I should rethink my friendship with her. Was it really too much to ask to go home "early"? For general info, I am an extremely calm person, even when I get upset I am not the type to yell at other people. I always try to find a compromise so that in the end everyone is happy. However, I increasingly feel like everyone's doormat when I don't wa
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    Font - Update: AITA for wanting to go home early from vacation | ALTA UPDATE: Thanks everyone for your kind words and advice. I want to give you a small update. So I am in the middle of remodeling my apartment. I had to throw out 90% of my furniture. The only room that's not affected is my bathroom, so yay. Fortunately my insurance will cover the damages. While the remodeling is going on I will live with my parents.
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    Font - Now to my "friend". She was giving me the silence treatment for the last week. So I called her yesterday. Not once did she asked how I was doing or how the situation with my apartment went. It was like a 10 minute rant about me being a bad friend and letting her down. So that was the point for me that broke the camel's back. So I told her that I don't see a point for us to continue this friendship any longer. Since I'm the bad friend, hear my sarcasm. That's when her next rant started, an
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  • 09
    Font - big airline and get special benefits and discounts for vacation, so I had a 3 week vacation in Hawaii planed. But not specifically with her, she just assumed I would take her. After all that drama I definitely don't take her with me anywhere, not even around the next corner. So I told her she is not going anywhere, and after our recent vacation she said herself, that she doesn't want to go on vacation with me, so I am taking her by her own words. After that she totally flips out and and s
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    Font - nickis84 17 hr. ago Dang that girl was messed up! She really thought you were going to take her to Hawaii after she called you a bad friend and ranted at you for 10 minutes! That is some delusional entitlement! Make sure to post lots of your Hawaiian vacation on social media after your remodeling. Your former friend can drool and know she could have been there had she only figured out how to act like a civilized human being.
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    Font - CrazyPossible7693. 16 hr. ago Good for you no need for people like that in your life I'm much like you when trying to avoid confrontation but I'm glad you stuck up for yourself
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    Font - BatesyBoy92 13 hr. ago Should send her a link to this and let her see how many people recognise how she is a bad friend, see if that makes her realise. Also enjoy the trip to Hawaii
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    Font - Comfortable-Focus123. 15 hr. ago It hurts to lose a friend, but I think that she was not really a friend - just a user. I'm sure you will have no issue in finding a friend to take to Hawaii.
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    Font - Random_user_of_doom. 15 hr. ago Oh boy, when I read your first posts title I thought Oi, leaving several days early, probably non refundable stuff, but she made all this drama because of a few hours? Anyone not dating "sure let's go right after breakfast so you have time to sort out your flat" is not your friend, I'm glad you dropped her. Hope you have a blast in Hawaii and that the remodeling makes your apartment even nicer! Just hope no personal stuff was damaged.
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    Font - OkieLady1952 · 14 hr. ago Way to go! So glad that you saw her for the person she is. It's a shame that she couldn't appreciate the person you are but she has no idea what a friend is. I'm proud of you. You go on vacation to Hawaii and have a great time. Let me know if you need somebody to go with I'll volunteer.
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    Font - Agitated-Jaguar3012. 7 hr. ago Ew. Take your mum...or shopkeeper...the the mailman...anyone but her. She's awful. I'm sorry.
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