'I love my job but honestly that attitude is making me sick': Boss insists on mandatory unpaid weekend team building trips

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    Font - My boss is making me feel guilty for not wanting to participate in weekend "team buildings". Hi everyone! I started working in a new company a few months ago, and i really love my job. The team i'm in is very "tight-knit". They like to go out for drinks, they like to go on vacations together, they organize team buildings very often. I was part of one team building 2 weeks ago, and now they are organizing a weekend (friday - sunday) trip away, however they don't allow any families and spou
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    Font - Let me be clear - this isn't a business trip - its a vacation. Today I told my boss that i like going out with them (even tho most of the times i'm being forced to participate), but i'm not comfortable leaving my spouse for a whole weekend to go partying with my colleagues. I told her that me and my fiance work opposite schedules - he works night shifts and basically the weekend is the only time i get to spend with him, and told her that I'm not comfortable going on the weekend, when i sp
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    Font - Basically she started acting rude, saying that i'm being irresponsible for my job, and that wasn't a family trip - because of people like me we can't be a good team. Also she said that its "unprofessional" to not be able to "live without my spouse" for a weekend. Honestly i felt really hurt by those words because i love my job and put all effort to do it the best I can. But I also love my family and love to spend time them in my free.. I love my job but honestly that attitude is making me
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    Font - 01 FractionofaFraction Your boss needs to look up the term 'unprofessional'. What they're trying to do is make you care about your job more than you care about your family. I can only imagine that they either hate their own home life or they have no family / friends outside of work. Draw a line, do your job and collect as much evidence of their unprofessional behaviour as you can in case of reprisal. 4.7k Jro304. Reply Share Ask if it's a mandatory trip, then tell her that mandatory trips
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    Font - DarkSparkandWeed Any job that pulls the 'we're family' card is 5.3k Reply Share ijustcant555 "We are a family, please neglect you actual family"- nope Reply Share 1.3k
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    Font - wlfwrtr Go to HR and say, "Since we are expected to go on these team building exercises for the weekend I was wondering how we get our hotels paid for and how do we put in for the extra time to get paid. I know it's work related because we're not allowed to bring our SO with us and was set up by our boss." 1.5k Reply Share Not_A_Wendigo. And apparently it's mandatory. Reply Share 338 ...
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    Font - OGablogian Basically she started acting rude, saying that i'm being irresponsible for my job, and that wasn't a family trip - because of people like me we can't be a good team. Also she said that its "unprofessional" to not be able to "live without my spouse" for a weekend. Seems like the start of retaliation. Start documenting everything. Reply Share 484
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    Font - MercuryJellyfish 1. Never, ever, ever explain to an employer what you want to do in your free time. Not a word of detail. 2. Whenever they ask you whether you want to spend your free time doing whatever bullshit they want you to do, tell them that you've love to, but you can't because of commitments at home. If they ask you what commitments, you say that's private and you're not able to discuss it because it involves other people's personal details. 3. Start looking for another job becaus
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    Font - UnoriginallyGeneric The boss tried this a few weeks ago. Boss: We're doing an overnight team building fishing trip, wanna come? Me: Can my family come along? Boss: Unfortunately, no. Me: Am I getting paid to attend? Boss: Nope. Me: That's a no from me. 91 Reply Share
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    Font - fromwayuphigh Holy shit is that toxic. These people are your colleagues, not your friends and certainly not your family. If they want your time, they'll compensate you for it appropriately. 382 Reply Share

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