The Cat's Out Of The Bag: Getting A Pet Without Your Partner's Consent Justifies Retaliation

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    Font - AITA for giving my SO the silent treatment after she got rid of my cat |(24male) absolutely adore cats. I mean I love them more than anything but my SO Sophia (21female) hates cats. We have twins together. I had a cat when we started dating but I put him down a month after we moved in together due to multiple health issues. If my cat was young and healthy she wouldn't have wanted to stay with me but he was old and unhealthy so she had no problem with it. Sophia has a two year old small do
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    Font - Ghast-light 13 hr. ago ● ESH. You're not compatible and you're making each other miserable because you have different expectations for what living together should look like, and it's not going to improve because you both think that your own desires matter so much more than the other person's that you can make major unilateral decisions. It wouldn't be so bad if it was a disagreement over furniture, but you're both making innocent animals lives worse. 4 12K Reply Share ...
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    Rectangle - Spike-Tail-Turtle 13 hr. ago ESH ● If cats were a deal breaker then consider the deal broken on both sides. You guys are a bad couple 4.5K Reply ↑ Share ...
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    Font - Derpazor1 12 hr. ago These unilateral decisions are a big deal. No healthy couple forces their "law" on each other. Big yikes all around 3.1K Reply ↑ Share
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    Font - Myobright2344 13 hr. ago ESH Did you all miss that they have twins together? So it isn't just a question of breaking up with the so or asking her to leave with her dog. They have to coparent together and this is how he communicates and how she responds 42.1K Reply Share
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    Font - kowaiyoukai 13 hr. ago INFO: Why did you decide to pursue a relationship with someone who hates cats, if having a pet cat was extremely important to you? 1.1K Reply ↑ Share
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    Font - gregoryrva 15 hr. ago ESH Just break up and find someone who likes cats.
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    Font - Captain-Yeet- . 15 hr. ago You two are not compatiable.
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    Font - Packwood88 • 15 hr. ago YTA You knew she hated cats and has a dog that doesn't like cats. For some reason you still thought it was a bright idea to bring a cat home WITHOUT ASKING knowing she was going to hate it. Now you're surprised she took it to a shelter? What did you think would happen?
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    Font - Raine Mist 15 hr. ago This relationship isn't going to work out with her
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    Font - Slight-Bar-534 • 15 hr. ago You're seriously asking if you're an asshole? You bring home a cat without SO's ok. You know her dog doesn't like cats. It's unfair she has a pet but you don't...are you 5 ?? Now your having a tantrum by giving her the silent treatment Grow up YTA
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    Human body - BigComfyCouch4 • 15 hr. ago YTA. If you get to make a unilateral decision to get a cat, she gets to make a unilateral decision to get rid of it. And at least she gave you a heads up.
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    Font - AdIntrepid4978 • 15 hr. ago YTA. If cats were a deal breaker for winter if you, getting a cat violated that agreement. You chose to be with a woman who does not want cats. She was upfront & honest. You sound petty "she has a pet".. what? You thought, "I'll get a cat & she won't really do anything". You found out.... Also, did you ever stop to think about why she kept her dog somewhere else while your cat was alive? Perhaps the dog had horrible life experiences with cats. You need to stop
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    Font - Hot-Juice8232 . 16 hr. ago ESH. Both of you sound self-absorbed. Talk to each other.
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    Font - Emergency_Ad_5935 15 hr. ago YTA. She hates cats, so you just randomly bring one home to I guess bully her into accepting a cat? Absolutely wrong to use a shelter animal just to have a pissing contest with your wife. Not to mention is seems there was zero thought into how the animals would be introduced to each other, so extra TA for a complete lack of regard for how this would affect the animals involved.
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    Font - NightsisterMerrin87 • 16 hr. ago YTA. Do not ever get a house pet without the full consent of EVERYONE in the house. She said no and you did it anyway, knowing full well how upsetting it would be for her. If you and her stay together, that means no cats. Deal with it or break up, but violating her boundaries is not a good move.
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    Font - RiddleAA 16 hr. ago YTA - she wasn't perfect about the situation, but surely you can live without picking up a random 3yo cat that you brought home on a whim bc you're annoyed she doesn't want a cat in the house.
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    Font - cypress_clouds. 11 hr. ago Why is it also SO's fault? What should she do instead to be innocent? Just tolerate the cat and ignore herself's and her dog's feeling?
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    Human body - kavalejava 15 hr. ago ESH. That poor cat. Maybe you both should see a relationship counselor, the communication between you two is terrible.
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    Font - littlecloudxo 13 hr. ago She's savage. I love her. Love that for you that she sent that cat's ass packing. Huge firm YTA.

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