‘You're on your own’: Boyfriend abandons girlfriend at train station after week-long couples vacation, despite prior accommodation agreement

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Eleonora Bader
Aug 1, 2023 4:00 PM EDT

'If he's over the age of 25, throw this one back', said one commenter after reading u/Sufficient_Neat_1409's post for advice about her boyfriend who literally left her at a train station to fend for herself after a week-long couples vacation. I wish I was exaggerating, but nope, that is literally what happened to this poor woman. Prior to going on vacation, where they would meet OP's boyfriend's family, OP's boyfriend told her that she was welcome to stay over on the night they returned, as it would be pretty late once they arrived, and trains were super unreliable. Then, throughout the vacation, he began hinting at the fact that he wanted some… space, maybe? I'm not quite sure, as he lacked the proper communication skills to form one coherent sentence on the subject.

Unforutnately, that led to OP being abandoned at the train station, as he sent her off to buy her own ticket, and said his goodbyes. Scroll down to read exactly what happened after that, and what commenters had to say about it. Then, these romantic dating memes, that actually capture long-term love.

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  • 01
    Font - Posted by u/Sufficient_Neat_1409 16 hours ago My BF left me alone in a train station at 9pm. Am I dramatic for being annoyed?
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    Font - I just got back from a week long vacation with my BF to visit his family. We both live in two different cities which are about 1-1.5hrs away by train. We landed in the airport which was 3hrs away from my place and 2hrs away from his at 8pm.
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    Font - At the beginning of the week, he told me that when we get back home that I could stay at his place for the night since it'll be late and the trains in my country can be super unreliable. However, in the middle of the week, he started asking me about which train I'll get home
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  • 04
    Font - when we land. I didn't want to question it because I just thought he changed his mind since he seemed to have become drained being around his family and I felt rude trying to invite myself to his place.
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    Font - We landed and when we got to the station he told me to buy the ticket to my city. I was honestly quite scared to make the journey since I had a heavy suitcase, it was so late at night, I was in a city I'd only ever been to once, and I had two
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    Font - connections in towns that I'd never been to before either. I ended up getting home at 12:30am and nearly missed one of the last connections due to delays that would have left me in the station overnight. Thankfully, one of my friends was able to pick me up at my
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    Font - city's station and drove me home and they seemed to be really annoyed/angry at what my BF had done. I don't know if I'm just being dramatic but I just felt abandoned by him and that he
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  • 08
    Font - doesn't really care for my safety. I know I probably should have just asked if I could have stayed but I just felt so rude/awkward trying to force an invite when he had clearly changed his mind. Am I being dramatic for being annoyed?
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    Font - briekachu 15 hr. ago It sucks that he left you alone and uncomfortable. But you also shouldn't be afraid to speak up for yourself and your comfort. Communication in a relationship is really important.
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  • 10
    Font - You definitely should have asked him. "Hey, originally the plan was for me to stay at your place because it would be closer and it's late. Are you still comfortable with that?"
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  • 11
    Font - And start a dialogue. You're in this together when you're in a relationship! ✩ 4.1k Reply Share Golden_Mandala 15 hr. ago I agree. It is totally reasonable to be annoyed
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    Font - and he should have realized you wouldn't feel safe taking the train alone at that hour. And some guys need to be told what women are experiencing because they haven't figured it out yet. My late husband loved me and
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  • 13
    Font - wanted me to feel safe, but while we were dating I had to teach him that I didn't feel safe walking alone downtown after dark. It had never occurred to him. Once I
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  • 14
    Font - explained it made sense to him and he was super nice about walking me to my car. But I don't think he ever would have thought of it on his own. 4735 Reply Share
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    Font - harbinger06 14 hr. ago "I didn't want to be rude" Y'all we have to STOP being afraid of being rude when it comes to our safety. Communicate instead of keeping it in to be polite. Sure
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    Font - the bf in this story could say no, but at least you can start making a plan. And he may have said yes, and then OP wouldn't have had to travel alone at night. Now OP, I'm not saying this is your fault. Just that many of
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  • 17
    Font - us have been conditioned to be polite since birth. And there are many times this puts us in danger. Pr use this against us frequently. We have to use our judgement as to when possibly overstepping some
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  • 18
    Font - ridiculous social norm is worth it in order to keep ourselves safe. 882 Reply Share
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  • 19
    Font - Terrestrial T 14 hr. ago I agree with the commenters who said you should have spoke up about your concerns before the night of. HOWEVER, these folks seem to have missed:
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    Font - At the beginning of the week, he told me that when we get back that I could stay at his place for the night since it'll be late and the trains in my country can be super unreliable.
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    Font - He knew and then decided he would send you home in the middle of the night. Trust your gut. This was not okay. It makes him hard to trust his word. It shows he does not prioritize your safety and comfort. Honestly, if he's over 25, I'd throw this one back. 1.4k Reply Share
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    Font - FullyRisen Phoenix . 9 hr. ago I was in a fickle relationship with a guy like this. Yeah, no. He was entirely unreliable in every way, and ditching me a few times to public transport was just the beginning.
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  • 23
    Font - OP, good riddance. He cared more about his own comfort than your safety!! 17 Reply Share
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    Font - freya_kahlo 14 hr. ago If you wouldn't do this to someone you care about - even just a friend - then you have every right to be annoyed. 203 Reply Share
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