Woman Shames Daughter for Divorcing Unfaithful Husband, Criticizes Her for Not Upholding Her Wedding Vows

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    Font - Posted by u/Disastrous_Coyote_22 1 day ago Am I wrong for telling my mom just because she stayed with her cheating husband doesn't mean I have to stay in mine?
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    Font - My (28f) dad has cheated on my mom when I was 17. My mom didn't divorce him because a) she is a housewife. and b) she believed that they can work through with it. Since the cheating incident I cannot look at my dad the same way. I know it eats my mom to this day but she still don't want a divorce. I have a strained relationship with my father.
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    Font - Fast forward to now, my husband of 2 years cheated on me with a coworker. I filed for divorce but he hasn't stopped bugging me for another chance. The divorce will be finalized at the end of September. My mom is not happy. She thinks I should make things work with my husband because in marriage you work things out rather than leave. You know "in sickness and in health till death do us apart". Ever since I started the divorce she has been on my nerve to give my husband a second chance.
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    Font - She then brought up her and dad's relationship. Like how she was the bigger person and forgave dad. And some other bu it about family. She said something that's from the movie "The Vow". Like "I stayed with him for everything he has done right". That's when I snapped at her and told her, the only reason she stayed because she has nowhere else to go.
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    Font - She has been miserable in her marriage ever since my dad's affair and she has been trying to save a sinking ship. I am not a doormat like her. I will not go down with the ship. I would rather save my own life. Just because she forgave her POS husband doesn't mean I have too as well. Her staying with my dad only encouraged me to divorce my husband because I cannot live like her. My mother was hurt. My sister told me she has been crying ever since then. I know I went too far. But was I wron
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    Font - Joodropinn 21 hr. ago In sickness and in health, what about forsaking all others, and being faithful? 461 Reply Share
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    Font - rshni67 15 hr. ago ● Yup, selective application of marriage vows and then demands to forgive to keep up appearances. NTA OP. 89 Reply Share
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    Font - Tempest_CN 17 hr. ago I left my husband after cheating and was the best thing I've ever done for myself-first few months are rough but set up a good support system and you will emerge stronger by standing up for yourself. Our mothers made many choices that we are not bound to repeat.
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    Font - AttorneyLarge7301 1 day ago ● Your mom wants you to follow in her miserable footsteps. She wants company.
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    Handwriting - aconitea 1 day ago ● Yep she likely feels OP not putting up with it is a direct attack on her decisions.
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    Font - rshni67 15 hr. ago ● And it doesn't make her the bigger person. It makes her a person perhaps with fewer options. A bigger person would want a better life for her daughter than the one she endured at the hands of her cheater husband.
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    Font - Zoenne 18 hr. ago If the Mum saw OP's decision as not only acceptable, but correct, she would need to face the fact that her staying was not the right thing to do. She would need to confront the regret of having lost all those years, for nothing.
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    Font - Icy_Curmudgeon 1 day ago ● Not wrong. I would tell your mom that her job is to support you getting your life back together, not criticize your decisions. If she cannot do that, maybe you have one person too many in your life. People that embrace immoral behavior are not people that I choose to have around me.
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    Font - You need positive voices in your life. You are doing the right thing. Your mother is actually tearing up your self-esteem one criticism at a time. She is actually hurting you. You might want to go NC/LC for a while and see a therapist in an attempt to get good advice on moving forward.

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