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Man Alienates Stepmom and Siblings for Years, Shocked When No One Helps Raise His Kids

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    Font - This is a bit complicated, I am a stepmom to five wonderful kids. I became their stepmom when the oldest was 9. I adopted all of them but one and that is Nick. He never wanted me to be his mom which is fine. The moment he turned 18 he made it very clear he doesn't care about me at all.
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    Font - I wasn't invited to his wedding, any holidays and so on if he was hosting. My last straw was when he told me that he will come to Christmas that I was hosting if I left. So we are very low contact.
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    Facial expression - Along with that, he has blown up every sibling relationship. He has two girls now and he called me up. This was a surprise and we started talking.
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    Font - After I while he started complaining about not getting help at all to raise his kids. He asked me to watch them on Sunday and step up as a grandparent.
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    Font - I told him the reason the village doesn't exist to raise his kids is due to him burning that village down. He called me a jerk and hung up. My husband is iffy on the situation but told me it's my call since I would be the one to watch the kids most of the time since he travels often for work. So I am posting here. 29.4k 2730 ↑ Share
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    Font - Alarming_Reply_6286. 8d Professor Emeritass [97] What has your husband been doing for the last however many years? Does he have a relationship with his son? How did y'all function before Nick turned 18? Where is Nick's mother? There's too much missing here ... but based on just the information it appears Nick is meeting the consequences of his choices. NTA (maybe?) ... Reply 21.6K

    "Husband has a low contact also but it is due to different reason. He didn't have a great relationship with his siblings but they tolerated each-other. Nicks mom said I am out and basically gave up her rights. I have never talked to her and I don't think the youngest has even talked to her. I have no idea what she is up to" —OP

    "INFO: what is the 'different reason' his father is LC? Did something happen during childhood… maybe before you came into their lives?" —u/sarah_schmara

    "He trashed his hunting cabin and refused to pay for the damages." —OP

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    Organism - medium_buffalo_wings • 8d Colo-rectal Surgeon [44] Info: How does his father deal with this? Like, did he go to his kid's wedding? What was his reaction when Nick said he'd come home for Christmas if you weren't there? I mean, NTA, obviously, but it kind of feels like your husband should have stepped in here at some point. Reply 41.4K ...

    "He went to the wedding, he put his foot down on Christmas and told him he can come but I will be there or not come. He didn't come to the event" —OP

    "It sounds like Nick is acting like a petulant child. I would expect that sort of thing when he was a kid, but as a grown a** adult he really should know better (obvious caveat is that we have no idea how you treate(ed) him and can only go by the fact that your have a good relationship with the other kids). But it sounds like his father needs to step in here and have a chat with him." —u/medium_buffalo_wings

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    Font - zenocrate• 8d Certified Proctologist [23] INFO what is your relationship like with your other 4 kids (or rather, your 4 kids - it sounds like you never adopted Nick)? Also, has Nick ever said why he doesn't like you? As a mom, it seems really weird that he'd want to leave his kids with a woman he clearly despises. Leaning toward not asshole, but I'm a little confused Reply 2.8k ...

    "I'm not his mother, never will be is his words. He is the middle child, he never would give me examples but I am too much according to him. My relationship with the other four is great. I personally think he realized he isolated himself from the family" —OP

    "NTA in that case. A parent's love is unconditional, but that doesn't mean there aren't consequences to his actions. And besides, he made clear you're not his parent!" —u/zenocrate

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    Font - Self Reintegration . 8d Partassipant [4] NTA. He called to complain he isn't getting help, he didn't call saying he regrets that he messed up his relationships. He wants something from you, he doesn't want you. This sucks, please prioritize yourself and the people in your life who actually care about you. Reply ... 9.6k

    "Agreed. Nick has no problem having no contact or telling OP to kick rocks UNTIL Nick needs something. Basically OP is a solution to his own problem not a human being that he crapped on for years, destroyed his own relationships and now is reaping what he sowed" —u/NiceRat123

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    Font - BaronsDad • 8d Partassipant [2] NTA. If he trusts you enough as a person to help raise his kids, the problem was never you. The problem was always Nick. ... Reply 2.5k
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    Organism - NanaLeonie • 8d Pooperintendant [63] NTA. Your step son burned down the village and burned the bridge leading to the village. It doesn't sound like he ever made any apologies for the brutal slaps in the face he gave you. But now he wants you to babysit? Nope. ... Reply 705
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    Font - Normal-Height-8577. 8d NTA. What does he mean "step up" like you've been failing in your duty?! He made it clear that your presence wasn't wanted and that you didn't have a parental role in his life. If he wants to build that relationship with you for his children, then first he needs to apologise for the times he was an asshole in the past...and then he needs to work on actually building that relationship with you, because humans can't be switched on and off like robots. As it is, his cu

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