Man Alienates Stepmom and Siblings for Years, Shocked When No One Helps Raise His Kids

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    Font - This is a bit complicated, I am a stepmom to five wonderful kids. I became their stepmom when the oldest was 9. I adopted all of them but one and that is Nick. He never wanted me to be his mom which is fine. The moment he turned 18 he made it very clear he doesn't care about me at all.
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    Font - I wasn't invited to his wedding, any holidays and so on if he was hosting. My last straw was when he told me that he will come to Christmas that I was hosting if I left. So we are very low contact.
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    Facial expression - Along with that, he has blown up every sibling relationship. He has two girls now and he called me up. This was a surprise and we started talking.
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    Font - After I while he started complaining about not getting help at all to raise his kids. He asked me to watch them on Sunday and step up as a grandparent.
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    Font - I told him the reason the village doesn't exist to raise his kids is due to him burning that village down. He called me a jerk and hung up. My husband is iffy on the situation but told me it's my call since I would be the one to watch the kids most of the time since he travels often for work. So I am posting here. 29.4k 2730 ↑ Share
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    Font - Alarming_Reply_6286. 8d Professor Emeritass [97] What has your husband been doing for the last however many years? Does he have a relationship with his son? How did y'all function before Nick turned 18? Where is Nick's mother? There's too much missing here ... but based on just the information it appears Nick is meeting the consequences of his choices. NTA (maybe?) ... Reply 21.6K
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    Organism - medium_buffalo_wings • 8d Colo-rectal Surgeon [44] Info: How does his father deal with this? Like, did he go to his kid's wedding? What was his reaction when Nick said he'd come home for Christmas if you weren't there? I mean, NTA, obviously, but it kind of feels like your husband should have stepped in here at some point. Reply 41.4K ...
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    Font - zenocrate• 8d Certified Proctologist [23] INFO what is your relationship like with your other 4 kids (or rather, your 4 kids - it sounds like you never adopted Nick)? Also, has Nick ever said why he doesn't like you? As a mom, it seems really weird that he'd want to leave his kids with a woman he clearly despises. Leaning toward not asshole, but I'm a little confused Reply 2.8k ...
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    Font - Self Reintegration . 8d Partassipant [4] NTA. He called to complain he isn't getting help, he didn't call saying he regrets that he messed up his relationships. He wants something from you, he doesn't want you. This sucks, please prioritize yourself and the people in your life who actually care about you. Reply ... 9.6k
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    Font - BaronsDad • 8d Partassipant [2] NTA. If he trusts you enough as a person to help raise his kids, the problem was never you. The problem was always Nick. ... Reply 2.5k
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    Organism - NanaLeonie • 8d Pooperintendant [63] NTA. Your step son burned down the village and burned the bridge leading to the village. It doesn't sound like he ever made any apologies for the brutal slaps in the face he gave you. But now he wants you to babysit? Nope. ... Reply 705
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    Font - Normal-Height-8577. 8d NTA. What does he mean "step up" like you've been failing in your duty?! He made it clear that your presence wasn't wanted and that you didn't have a parental role in his life. If he wants to build that relationship with you for his children, then first he needs to apologise for the times he was an asshole in the past...and then he needs to work on actually building that relationship with you, because humans can't be switched on and off like robots. As it is, his cu

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