'[She] does not like to wait': Boyfriend asks partner to pick up his mother from the airport, partner arrives late because 'the old lady could've waited a bit'

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    Font - GARAGE CARREL 'He advised to be at the airport one hour before. I found that ludicrous and decided to stick with my plan'
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    Font - AITA for being late to pick up my boyfriend's mother at the airport? My boyfriend's mother went to see her relatives on the other side of the country. Her son couldn't pick her up from the airport due to work so he asked me if I could and I said yes. She came in a early flight and would arrive at around 9 o'clock in the morning. It takes me about thirty minutes to get to the airport from my place so I planned to leave at 8:30 to get there just in time.
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    Font - My boyfriend sent me gas and parking money, and warned me that his mother, while being a sweet old lady, does not like to wait and will leave at the very first moment if she doesn't see anyone. He advised to be at the airport one hour before. I found that ludicrous and decided to stick with my plan because I wasn't thrilled about the idea of waiting at the airport. Cue the drama!
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    Font - First I couldn't get out of my parking space because I was boxed in, that took about five minutes from my time; there was traffic along the highway due to a rollover, another extra fifteen minutes, and finally my boyfriend's mother airplane arrived twenty minutes early, gawd!
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    Font - I arrived at the airport at 9:20 but by that time my boyfriend's mother had taken a taxi and went home. I called her to apologize but she only said not to worry because I had better things to do: I didn't, I just didn't listened to my boyfriend's advice!
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    Font - My boyfriend is angry with me because her mother paid $75 USD for taxi. I offered to pay her back but he said because it wasn't about the fare but because his mother is old and wanted someone who he can trust to help her. Ouch.
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    Font - I don't think the situation merits such drama, I mean, it was just twenty minutes and the old lady could've waited a bit. AITA here? Frankly I don't think so but I'll leave the judgement to you.
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    Font - Addendum: I should've added that my boyfriend's mother is an old lady who barely uses her flip phone. Smartphones are very complicated for her. Quite frequently it will be sounding off but she doesn't notice so calling her was not a good option, much less expecting a call from her. She just does what she knows and what she know is to call a taxi on the street and use her debit car. That's why my boyfriend wanted me to pick her up because she doesn't want to wait as she, in his words, want
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    Font - Another addendum: I just returned the $50 my boyfriend gave me. He's not angry anymore but displeased. His mother is OK and doesn't want a fuss. So I guess that's good?" Third addendum: Ouch! But point taken.
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    Font - MissSuzieSunshine. YTA Your bf explained quite succinctly why you needed to be at the airport an hour early. And instead of giving what he said any validity, you decided to do what you wanted for the least amount of bother to you. And look how that worked out. Additionally, WHO goes to the airport and leaves only just enough time to get there without accounting for traffic or delays of any kind?????
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    Font - klurtin YTA Your BF was very specific with his request to be early and why. Planes arrive early all the time and traffic happens. You should have planned accordingly. You owe both the mother and the BF sincere apologies. Also, share this post with BF so he can see how you refer to his mother.
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    Font - esgamex YTA. While an hour perhaps seems too early, traffic problems and planes arriving early are routine. You didn't account for that. Plus the way you talk about " the old lady" indicates you think of her as someone who doesn't matter to you. And your behavior reflected this.
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    Font - darklingdawns YTA - While you didn't necessarily need to be there an hour early, you could've split the difference and left an hour early, giving yourself 30 minutes at the airport. That would easily have accounted for traffic delays and any further parking delays at the airport. Given that your boyfriend was giving you gas and parking money, you really owed it to him to listen to what he said about his mom and make sure you arrived with some time to spare.
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    Font - Mysterious_Silver381. Did you need to be there an hour early? No. Should you have left earlier than you did because 9am is KNOWN to be a time with heavier traffic? Yes. I'm going with YTA because you smiled and nodded at your boyfriend and then did the exact opposite of what you agreed to. You should have said when he asked "I will leave at X time and if that's not acceptable, ask someone else"
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    Font - or ActiveMud1614. YTA "The Old Lady" as you so charmingly called her could have anxiety issues, could have had a history with a relative/friend "forgetting" about her and leaving her to make her way or maybe she is old, tired and out of patience for your (or anyone else's) bulls I wouldn't have waited 20 minutes for anyone either. You looked your partner in the eye and agreed to a certain time all the while knowing that you had no intentions of following through. You Are The A

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