‘He’s behaving worse than our kid’: Inconsiderate Husband Acts Like a Child During Christmas Family Photoshoot, Wife Turns to Reddit and Sparks Discussion

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Dec 24, 2023 3:00 PM EST

Every single person who is married or in a long-term relationship will tell you one of the most important things you need to work on as a couple is how to compromise. We would say it's as important as complimenting each other regularly. If each person in the relationship keeps thinking of themselves and how they benefit from the other, we can tell you right now, it will not work out. More than that, we believe a strong relationship is also built on the ability to engage in activities the other enjoys, even if it's not your personal cup of tea. It might be annoying or weird and even flat-out boring, but if it makes the person you love happy, then why not do it?

That's why it makes us a little bit sad to hear of partners who will not do the little things to make their significant other happy, like the OP's husband in this Reddit post. Not only did he disrespect her wishes to get a nice family photo for Christmas, but he went as far as coming to the photo shoot and completely ruining the photos that were taken. From reading her side of the story, it seems to us that he definitely needs to learn a lesson or two about compromising in a relationship.

Keep scrolling for the full story and for the comments debating what OP should do for their Christmas pictures next year.

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  • 01
    He ruined Christmas pictures 2 years in a row
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    We've been married 3 years and have a 16 month old son. I really wanted to start a tradition of our own when our son was born so we get Christmas pictures done. Last year, my husband gave push back on matching outfits, I get it, it's
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    cringe. We agreed on similar colors and planned outfits days in advance. Day of, he decided to wear a stained shirt and jeans and a baseball cap and refused to change. When we get there, he didn't smile in any picture. He was slouched over in almost of them, looking miserable. He thought
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    it was the funniest thing ever and posted them everywhere even after I expressed frustration about it. He told me that next year (meaning this year) that he would take it seriously.
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    Well, this year I asked for him to wear a sweater and to smile and act like he liked his kid. Those were the only requests. He once again changed his outfit right before leaving and didn't smile in a single
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    picture. He made the photographer upset by his unwillingness to smile or even stand up straight. I get the pictures back today and he looks legitimately angry in them. I ask him why he did it again and he just laughed? He thinks it's not a big deal
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    because they're "just pictures" but I've expressed multiple times how badly I wanted this tradition and how much I love pictures of the 3 of us since there's not many. I don't understand why he's done this 2
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    years in a row, our relationship isn't. perfect but nowhere near the point where he has to look miserable in family pictures.
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    All I wanted this year was to have beautiful family pictures to show and frame because I didn't get them last year. I let him know how much it meant to me that they looked good and how I want to be able to show
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    our son these when he's older. The photographer even refunded me some of the money because she saw how hurt I was and how difficult he made the experience for everyone. I'm so embarrassed and frustrated.
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    UPDATE: I posted the pictures on Facebook with a silly caption since he said they "weren't a big deal" anyways. He got upset and said that it made him look like an
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    which led to me telling him that he made himself look that way. He ended up apologizing, giving some sorry excuses and saying he'd make it up to me.
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    I told him I'd like to take our son and get pictures with Santa and he said that we can all go since we're a family, I stupidly said okay because I thought we were on the same page of the emotional significance family
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    photos mean to me and he apologized. $40 later and I have another set of pictures that need to be edited, he gave a partial smile at least. The man must enjoy seeing me cry, that's the only conclusion I
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    can come up with. I hope y'all have a better holiday season than I have had so far!
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    coffee_cats_books. 2 days ago Next year, have pictures done of just you & your son. If he complains, remind him that he made it clear that he doesn't care about the pictures or your feelings about it. If he wants to
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    be a miserable, passive- aggressive jok, he can sit on the sidelines. Make it a mother & son tradition. Don't let him ruin this for you.
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    0157h7 2 days ago Why wait for next year? If the photographer was frustrated they might be willing to help do another session just to spite him.
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    trenchfriesaregreat 1 day ago As a photographer I can confirm that if a wife called me with this issue I would definitely be open to reshooting with just her and her kid.
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    Beagle-Mumma - 2 days ago Exactly on point. By his actions he's telling OP he doesn't want to participate in this tradition, so don't include him!
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    bobbymcgeeandme 2 days ago Next year photoshop Ryan Gosling in.
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    captain-oblivious. 2 days ago Have someone Photoshop him out and frame the photos without him
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    Beagle-Mumma - 2 days ago Theres a sub for exactly this; maybe OP can ask there?
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    savethingsthatglow OP · 2 days ago I'll just say he chooses some really stupid hills to die on.
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    Unfair_Finger5531 2 days ago I don't know how you find yourself able to speak to him after stunts like this. It would just exhaust me to the point where I would have nothing to say to him.
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    ohmamago 1 day ago 20 Years+ My husband never liked getting his picture taken. It felt awesome when he agreed when our daughter was just 4 months old. They came out fantastic.
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    The following year when I started talking about it again, he immediately just shut it down. "I don't understand why some families do this. We don't need professional photos." HOI, we were broke and couldn't really afford it, so I just let it go.
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  • 28
    A couple of years ago the kiddo was approaching 13 and he turns to me and says, "I really wish we had more family photos, but I guess it's my fault that we don't, huh?"
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    Without missing a beat I said, "Yes, you're the one that that up."
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