'You can't show up like that!': Bride Demands Sister Cut Off Her Long Luscious Hair Before Wedding Day

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Sienna Varady
Jan 9, 2024 6:00 PM EST

A bride is never upstaged by anyone on her wedding day. Whether she likes it or not, she will be the focus of attention. She'll stand out from the crowd with her stunning white dress, hair, makeup, and radiant aura that comes with being young, happy, and in love. But occasionally, a person's fears take precedence over reason, and that's when things usually take a turn.

The girl in the next story happens to be the bride's sister. The bride has given each bridesmaid a list of regulations and expectations that they must abide by in order to continue being a member of her bridal party. However, even though OP loves her sister deeply, after carefully reviewing the list, she has decided not to give in to her sister's ridiculous demands. To be more precise, on the big day, the bridesmaids must have short hair to guarantee they won't overshadow the bride on her special day. It goes without saying that that failed to pan out, but read the story below to see how OP handled her nightmare of a sister! And when you've finished scrolling through the screenshots, check out the story about the groom who prioritizes his best friend over his bride here!

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    Sister is losing her mind over my hair being too long for her wedding.
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    Sister is losing her mind over my hair being too long for her wedding.
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    So my sisters getting married soon, like a couple months, I'm happy for her, the guy she's marrying is a cool enough person and they work well together. She asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding party and I accepted. Then she started
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    listing her requirements, some understandable (Like wearing longer sleeves to cover up my tattoos, I'm fine with that), but one of them was really weird and felt kind of pointed at me, everyone in the wedding party must have
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    shorter hair than the bride by at least 6 inches. Now, my hair is super important to me, it's a significant part of my identity and I really love it, it's knee length and I take super good care of it. My sisters is to the middle of her back,
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    so about two feet shorter than mine, she has longer hair than her friends aside from one who agreed to cut her hair, I did not. My sister freaked out when I said I wasn't gonna cut my hair, I offered to wear it up, she said that would distract
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    people from her and that she wanted all her bridesmaids to wear their hair down, I assured her no one would be distracted because of my hair, our mother agreed with me and tried to assure her as well, I offered to just be at the wedding
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    instead of in the wedding party and she began throwing a temper tantrum. Eventually I just left and said we could figure this out when she calmed down. Later on I get a call from her fiancé who just says. "Hey, I know you don't want to cut your hair, I'm sorry about that.
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    Could you just do it for your sister? It'll grow back." And obviously I told him I'm not cutting like half my hair off for one day just to spend years growing it all back out. He sighed but said he understood and apologized but my sister is still
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    being unreasonable. I'm annoyed by the whole thing and I really don't want to deal with her s t, if she's gonna freak out about this, I worry what else she's gonna freak out about. Edit: So I got another phone call from my soon to be brother in law,
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    he was like "Hey she hasn't stopped crying for like thirty minutes can you please just cut your hair?" I told him no and also that I'd be dropping out as a bridesmaid and just going as a guest. He sighed again and basically said "Yeah, I kinda figured that would happen.
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    I'm sorry about this." At least he was nice about it but she keeps sicking this poor man on me lol. Edit 2: I got a phone call from the bride herself, she was crying and said fine I don't have to cut my hair or be a bridesmaid but to please
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    wear it up. So at the very least she came to some kind of compromise, I think she was expecting me to feel bad and come around cause when I said, dope I'll just be a guest then
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    she began crying harder and hung up. I hope it's over, probably isn't, I'll probably not hear the end of this anytime soon, but at least i can hope that she's given up.
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    Superdummo · 10 mo. ago I'm not sure why anyone would think asking someone to alter themselves in a way that will take years to return to the original state for 8- 12 hours of 'IT'S MY
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    SPECIAL DAY' is reasonable? But when are bridezillas ever reasonable... you may need to decide between your hair and being a bridesmaid/the relationship with your sister.
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    punziebridesmaid OP. 10 mo. ago She's a very entitled person, our parents babied her so much when we were kids because she was the youngest. They regret it now because she's still acts like she's a princess at 23
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    LadyGoldberryRiver. 10 mo. ago She can't tell you what to do with your body mate, and that most definitely includes your hair! Sounds as though she may be a bit jelly and not want people to comment on your lovely 'do.
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    Honestly, I would decline being a bridesmaid if I were you. It's a shame if this is the hill she wants to die on, but I def wouldn't be giving in. She is being very unreasonable and entitled.
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    Edited to add: this has unreasonably irritated me on your behalf. By your description, if I were one of her bridesmaids, I would have to have a long bob to make her happy.
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    and Original Archer5984 10 mo. ago This is asking TOO MUCH and frankly, your sis sounds unhinged. Idk why this needs to be said, but Brides are not entitled to carte blanch modification of the wedding party.
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    Demanding participants make permanent changes like pierce ears, remove tattoos, or undergo cosmetic surgery for your wedding is a HARD NO! Asking people to cut their hair, completely change the color is also a big NO.
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    Telling bridesmaids to start tanning, for a sun kissed glow is also a NO. This lady needs to get a grip and realize her wedding is a single day and not a life style. And for that ONE day she can
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    determine dresses, and some other surface level esthetics, but that's it. Any changes that cannot be easily and immediately be undone after your wedding is wildly overreaching and smacks of entitlement.
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    (But TBH, I can't help but wonder if this hair thing goes deeper considering they're sisters and all.)
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    dangineedathrowaway. 10 mo. ago I think your sister envies your hair and doesn't want you to have longer than hers at all. That's why she threw a tantrum when you offered to back out of being a
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    bridesmaid, since she can't make demands of how her guests wear their hair. Having you as a bridesmaid obligated you, in her eyes, to follow her rules. Once you cut it, she could always have longer hair than you.
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