'She thought I would never find out...': Wife Leads Double Life, Husband Discovers Biological Child Isn’t His After 5 Years

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Sienna Varady
Jan 21, 2024 8:00 PM EST

You know how they say everything can change in an instant and that life is dynamic? Well, OP appeared to have the 'perfect' life—a spouse, a child, a career—everything was going well. Theoretically, it seemed like he was experiencing the ultimate American dream. But everything changed when OP found out that his wife had been cheating on him for a long time and that his beloved child wasn't actually his child. OP lost his status as a father and a husband in the space of one day.

Not to reveal too much, but OP was deeply upset by his wife's deceit, and therefore, decided to take matters into his own hands! Having said that, read the story below to learn what transpired between OP, his wife, and the child! And when you're done, check out the story about the husband who finds out his wife is in love with her boss here!

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    "He's not my kid?"
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    AITA for suing stopping my child support and to get it back?
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    I didn't know my son was not actually mine until he was about 5 years old and had a medical issue. The results of tests made me suspicious so I had a DNA test done which was when I found out he wasn't mine. I divorced my ex but because we were married when he was born and the time I had to
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    challenge the paternity had passed, I was on the hook for child support. I was a broken man afterwards and withdrew from all of my friends and family. After a couple of years, I started meeting people again and eventually found out the ex was in a
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    relationship with the affair partner and living with him. This broke me again so I went back to my isolation. Another year passed and I slowly came back out. It took some time before I could talk about my past but when I was able to, my brothers lit a fire under me. I found out through friends that the ex moved
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    in with the father of the boy almost immediately after our divorce was finalized and they have been together ever since. My brothers pushed me to talk to their attorney friend which I eventually did. He's a business attorney but listened to my history then gave me his opinion. He
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    then recommended me to his friend in a family law firm. In short, I paid almost 4 years of child support and according to my attorney, I have a good chance of stopping the child support payments and recovering at least some or possibly almost all of it
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    because there is social media evidence that the boy was living with his biological father during that time. The attorney said that we can nail down the exact date they lived together during discovery then we'll have a better picture of how much we can ask for. After talking with my
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    family, I decided to file a lawsuit to stop and recover my child support payments. I got immediate flack from my friends, ex, and her family. I don't care what the ex and her family have to say but my friends who I've known since childhood (they know
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    my ex through me) are saying that they support me in stopping the payments but I'm going too far in trying to get almost $50,000 back. They said it was spent on the boy and I should view it as donation to a good cause. I know I'm angry and bitter but am I wrong?
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    AdmirableBit9142 · 15 hr. ago NTA, he's not your bio kid and therefore not your What your responsibility. ex did to you was callous and indefensible. I'm actually shocked your friends can't see that you deserve to get your
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    money back, cause you got completely taken advantage of. Moving forward, you need to block out what they're saying and surround yourself with a good support system as you go through the process of getting your money back.
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    Your ex to live with the up and has consequences of her actions. In this case it means paying back money that she has no right to.
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    ellastory 12 hr. ago Maybe the friends should donate their own money if they think it's such a good cause.
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    Left-Banana-8275 · 15 hr. ago edited 15 hr. ago NTA- Your ex knew you were not the child's father and still accepted child support payments. On top of that, she accepted those child support payments while living with the child's biological father.
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    The child is innocent in this, but as long as you are sueing your ex, not the child, I see no problem with this.
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    The reality is, the court will decide to reimburse you or not. If the court sees a reason for you to claim your money back, you have no reason to worry.
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    Illustrious_Soft_257 · 13 hr. ago Plus the bio dad was still in the picture, so essentially you were scammed to pay for someone else's child the whole time. They used you.
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    Puzzleheaded-Rip-824 11 hr. ago I'm sure they were laughing every month when that money hit
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    Trick_Delivery4609. 14 hr. ago NTA. I've always heard that you aim for the sky so you can then get a realistic amount. If you aim for a realistic amount, you will get paltry or nothing. So if you ask for stopping payments, past
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    payments and throw in pain and suffering, she might have to at least stop future payments and a partial refund. But this may be a US thing, where people are very sue happy? Go with whatever your lawyers advise.
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    I've heard that certain states don't care if you aren't the bio father, and that if you were married at the birth time, it doesn't matter- you are still on the hook even with DNA. I hope your lawyer advised you on all of that so you are not throwing legal fees and money down the drain.
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    At the VERY least, your lawyers should ask her for a FULL accounting of every penny of that 50k spent. If any was to pay housing for the bio dad or anything else, you case looks even better. So if she can't produce daycare expenses, baby stuff receipts, she will be scr ed.
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    The friends not being supportive of you may know more of her current situation, like she is preggo with her 2nd or they are having financial issues. None of which is
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    your problem. I'd recommend dropping them as friends bc they are not looking out for you. Good luck OP.
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