‘I don’t want your kid at my wedding': Bride Informs Cousin That Her Daughter Is Not Invited to the Wedding, Cousin Tries to Turn the Family Against Her

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jan 30, 2024 2:00 PM EST

Why is it so hard for people to understand that the only ones who should make the calls at a wedding are the people who are actually getting married? Nobody cares what the bride's cousin or groom's high school friend wants, and they shouldn't even make demands. The only people who should matter, are those who are going to be standing at the altar.

So I don't understand how, in this Reddit story, the bride's cousin was offended because her daughter wasn't invited to the wedding. The reason she was not invited? She threw a tantrum at another family member's wedding because she couldn't be a flower girl, and she's 12. As a result of her daughter not being invited, the cousin tried to turn other friends and family members against the bride.

In a recent update the bride told Reddit what ended up happening at the wedding, so scroll down for the full story. Once you are done, click here for a story of a woman who kicked her parents out of her house because they kept making jokes about her baby.

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  • 01
    AITA for telling my cousin I'm not having a child free wedding, her daughter just isn't invited
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    I (27m) am getting married in the fall to my fiancé (25f) and we've decided that friends and family can bring their kids, since for the most part the kids are well behaved and will be with a sitter for the night so the parents can enjoy the festivities.
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    The only exception is my cousin Linda's daughter Cerrie (12). Linda's entitled and selfish and she's made her daughter entitled and selfish. Two years ago my other cousin, Linda's sister Lily got married and
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    Cerrie ruined the wedding by throwing a tantrum, and destroying the cake because she was jealous that Lily's daughter was the flower girl.
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    Linda recently called me up to "talk" and brought up child free weddings and how terrible they are. Her invitation said nothing about a child free wedding, it had her name, and her husbands name on it and no plus one or anything to indicate Carrie could come.
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    I told her I wasn't having a child free wedding, Cerrie just wasn't invited because of what happened at Lily's wedding. I don't want a repeat of Cerrie seeing she's not the flower girl again and throwing another fit.
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    Linda's since gotten all her friends and the few people in the family who take her side to bombard me, my fiancé and family with texts about how selfish we are for purposefully excluding one child while everyone else can bring their kids.
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    Edit: everyone keeps asking “why invite Linda at all?" My family is very big on "family is everything" "family first" and "respect your elders" if I'd not invited Linda and her husband at all the storm would be much bigger and the majority of my family would be calling me to tell me to invite her.
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    UPDATE: AITA for telling my cousin I'm not having a child free wedding, her daughter just isn't invited
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    I forgot about this account, but here's a small update in case anyone wanted to know what happened with Cerrie and Linda.
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    It's not that fun or exciting. Linda decided to boycott the wedding and got quite a lot of the family to boycott it with her. Me and my fiance got to invite more of our own friends to fill
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    the empty seats and we didn't have the usual family drama that always seems to occur at events because all of the people who created the drama were absent. Emily was not the flower
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    girl, our friends kids each got a small basket of petals to throw around. All in all we had a great time. No tantrums, no cake smashing.
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    And we've not been going to family events as much apart from like Christmas at my parents which is always a small affair with only immediate family, so no Linda and Cerrie.
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    Linda moved on from the wedding onto something else equally as stupid and insignificant, as has everyone else. Cerrie's dad actually put his foot down for the first time. She's going to get held back a
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    year for her poor grades and I think she's going to do some kind of behavioral therapy. I'm not sure it's all I've heard through the grapevine. Maybe she'll get invited to the next wedding if her behavior actually improves.
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    jrm1102 - 17 hr. ago Sultan of Sphincter [663] Looks like you made the right choice - congrats on the wedding and glad it worked out.
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    Emotional_Bonus_934 · 16 hr. ago Pooperintendant [57] What I never understood was why 12 would be upset at not being a flower girl when she has aged out. I was forced to be a flower girl at 6; my sister was 11 and too old.
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    hubertburnette - 16 hr. ago Linda probably promised she would be. One of many things I've learned on reddit (especially AITA) is that entitled people have no problem assigning roles in other people's weddings to themselves and their family members.
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    FuzzyMom2005 - 16 hr. ago Supreme Court Just- ; [139] Good for you for holding the line. Sounds like her behavior didn't improve over the years. And you had a stress free wedding that you enjoyed. As for those who boycotted because one little spoiled girl wasn't invited, well, I guess they showed you!
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    BeardManMichael - 16 hr. ago Partassipant [3] Happy here this all worked out. Wedding melodrama is something you should never have to tolerate so I'm glad you did everything in your power to avoid it. I hope that behavioral therapy is helpful in some sort of long-term meaningful way.
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    Active 2017 16 hr. ago One of a parent's most important jobs is molding their children into adults that are liked and integrate well into society. Maybe your refusal to not back down was the reality check the parents needed.
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    Ok_Fix_2227 15 hr. ago Thank heavens!!! I love to see these type of happy endings -let the trash take themselves out
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    Kmia55 12 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Isn't it strange how the people that create all the drama think they will actually be missed?
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    WinEquivalent4069 · 14 hr. ago . Partassipant [1] Actually this is a good update. All the drama left with Linda and Cerrie. Congratulations on the marriage and for getting rid of toxic family members and their enablers.
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