'She had a crying fit': Uncle gives bratty niece leftovers instead of pizza, invokes wrath of sister-in-law

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    r/AmltheAsshole u/Pizza_Thrway • 1d AITA for not making my niece eat leftovers while others had pizza?
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    AITA for making my niece eat leftovers while others had pizza? My (39M) sister-in-law (31F) had her bachelorette party on Saturday. I volunteered to babysit her daughter "Tammy" (fake name, 9F) and my wife's cousin's kids (9M and 7F) at my place while my wife (37F), her sister and their cousin went to the party. Also present were my own kids (11M, 7F and 2F).
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    For dinner, we decided to have pizza. I made the order through an app. Now, I still don't really get what happened, but the order was taking forever and I was unable to contact the delivery guy. The pizza place wasn't helping either. After waiting for 90 minutes, I decided to cancel the order and pick a different restaurant.
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    The reason I'd waited so long to cancel was because this was both my daughter's and Tammy's favorite pizza place. I managed to get my daughter to support the new restaurant by telling her they put ketchup on the pizza (don't kill me), but Tammy was insistent in the first one.
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    She had a crying fit while we were placing the new order. Even after she calmed down, she was still grumpy and short with the rest of us. At first, me and the kids made efforts to cheer her up, but then she started telling us to "shut up" or "leave her alone" whenever we tried.
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    Throughout the wait, I reminded Tammy and the other kids that if they didn't behave, they wouldn't eat the pizza. She still complained about the new restaurant multiple times.
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    When the pizza finally arrived, Tammy opened the box and said, "I'm not eating that ." She said that in front of the younger three. At that, I put leftover chicken pasta in the microwave and told her that was her dinner. She started crying, saying she wanted the pizza and would behave herself, but I held my ground. Tammy didn't eat any of the pizza, but all the others did. My SIL is calling me unfair and cruel for forcing Tammy to have leftovers while the other kids ate pizza. She's also accusin
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    EDIT: To clarify, the pizza arrived at 20h30. The kids had snacks at 18h and a large group lunch before that, so none of them were too hungry.
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    indicatprincess 23h Enthusiast [5] When the pizza finally arrived, Tammy opened the box and said, "I'm not eating that ." She is 9. That's too young to speak this way, and she's simultaneously too old to behave this way. ΝΤΑ
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    Pizza_Thrway OP • 23h From what I gather, Tammy knows what words like that mean, and that she's not supposed to say them. I think that was the nail in the coffin for me.
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    NTA. just_a_girl_23 23h You still fed her so it's not like it was a really unreasonable punishment. (INFO: What did others think was a more reasonable punishment?) Tammy around and found out. Welcome to real life, kiddo! She's obviously not used to people following through on their threats of punishment. Even ignoring the tantrums, the swearing and in front of really little ones justifiably sealed her fate imo.
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    o Pizza_Thrway OP • 22h What did others think was a more reasonable punishment? My SIL suggested that I could have told her about it after she picked up Tammy, and she would have figured something out.
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    just_a_girl_23 22h "Figured something out", sure you will SIL. Your SIL clearly does not punish Tammy and that is why she acts this way, she's used to getting her own way especially if she acts up because it's easier to give in to get her to STFU. Actions have consequences and her outburst had to be dealt with at the time not just "tell her mother and pray for the best".
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    Radiant_Maize2315 22h INFO: was it Alfredo's Pizza Cafe, or Pizza by Alfredo? We're getting hungry out there. We're all accomplices now anyway, so we figured we might as well eat. We would like to order some good pizza, from Alfredo's Pizza Cafe, while we wait for the hostage situation with the bad pizza to end.
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    Apsara7 1d Craptain [185] NTA - this is a good lesson. Don't refer to food as and expect to be served it - esp in from to of younger kids.
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    Girl Dad2023 23h Certified Proctologist [23] What would she want to eat if she didn't want pizza? Did she expect you to order a different pizza? Calling it' 'pretty much ended her chances of getting pizza. She sounds extremely spoiled and entitled. ΝΤΑ
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    Timely Proposal 1821 23h Certified Proctologist [25] When the pizza finally arrived, Tammy opened the box and said, "I'm not eating that ." She said that in front of the younger three Holy Moly. NTA. And I wouldn't accept to watch her again until she properly apologized for using that kind of language in front of her younger cousins. Her overall behavior was poor anyway, and considering her mother's reaction, it's not surprising.
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    Odd Yogurtcloset2891 23h Enthusiast [6] NTA - that was the ideal punishment. If she's not going to listen, complain about the food and announce she's not eating it, then she doesn't eat it. Perfect solution.
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    247Justice 23h Sounds like SIL can find another sitter in the future for her special little princess. I have friends with kids like this and I do not babysit them under any circumstances. There's "kids will be kids" and then there's this bs. SIL created that monster, she can suffer the consequences.
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    TripleJeopardy3 22h NTA. A 9 year old is old enough to deal with uncomfortable situations and stressors in a better fashion. Complaining may be normal, but saying, "I'm not eating that " is out of line and beyond acceptable behavior. The cussing alone is bad enough to institute a fair consequence. But if you have been complaining, now you're cussing in front of the other kids and the adult, and you're saying you won't eat it? Lesson learned. She still got dinner, it just wasn't her PREFERRED din

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