'I'm leaving you for your brother': Man marries Brother's High School Sweetheart, Parents Expect Their Son to Forgive His Brother's Actions

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Feb 10, 2024 12:00 PM EST

If there's one stability in our lives that's supposed to remain grounded and constant, it's family. Now, that's not always the case. Unfortunately being related to someone doesn't mean you're not going to hurt them, or that you're not an *sshole. Sad but true, our families can be the ones who stab us the hardest, and because of the supposed love and trust, their stabs hurt more than anyone else's. Mix in the expectation of family's unconditional love and support with entering the dating realm, and boom, you've got yourself a recipe for the love expectations you hold for partners. 

Trust breathes in both realms, and it's anyone's worst nightmare to have their significant other leave them for someone they know and love. 

This is true for the tragic tale of a soft-hearted boy, his high school sweetheart, and his back-stabbing brother. Read on to get the full scoop! 

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  • 01
    Posted by u/Narrow_Ring_5943 17 hours ago AITAH for still not forgiving my brother for sleeping with my girlfriend?
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    I(26m) recently went to a family gathering for my dads 49th birthday. But before I get into that you need to know the backstory with me and my brother(23m) This event happened around 3 years ago. Back then, I was dating this girl that I will call C(25f). C and I were high school sweethearts, she was my everything at the time and I thought I was hers. It was around
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    out. I was shopping for deserts for thanksgiving after staying at a friends house since I was helping them move. I came home and couldn't find C or her stuff. I tried calling her but it went straight to voicemail. I tried her location but it looked like she turned it off. I checked my front door cam and I saw my brother helping her move her things into his car and leaving
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    with her. I then tried to call my brother but he wouldn't answer either. At this point I started to freak out and assume the worst. But then I thought my brother would never do that to me. He was honestly like my best friend when we were kids, and even though we drifted apart kind of when I went to college I still considered us best friends since we still talk and go
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    out from time to time. I then called my dad and had my dad tell my mom to call my brother and to put it on speaker mode. My brother answered and when my mom asked him where C was, he said "she's living with me now, she broke up with OP". I felt numb and those words. I thought this was some type of sick joke so I checked
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    his Facebook and Instagram and saw them holding each other and kissing and I broke down. "Why was C doing this to me" was going through my head all night. But then I was angry. How could my own brother, my best friend do this to me? I drove up to his house and banged on his yelling and him to open up. But C was the one the open the door. I wish I could say
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    that I held it together, but I turned into a crying mess once I saw her. Then my brother cam from his kitchen and told C to go upstairs. That's when he told me that they were having an affair ever since I my second year of college and apologized to me for it. But then C just came back from the stairs and said that the whole reason why she left me the way she did was
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    because she was "sick of pretending to love me". I looked at her and realized that that wasn't the person I fell in love with. That was someone else. I then wondered if this was still worth it. I then realized that it wasn't and walked out. I try to not be a problematic person and make a scene when I know what I do won't change the outcome of the
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    situation. Don't get me wrong I was beyond mad at her and my brother, and so cut them out of my life on the spot. Now back to the family gathering, I live in California now and is still single. The family gathering was all right until my brother and his wife walked in with a stroller. Apparently they got married and
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    got busy. I really don't care anymore. I been through enough therapy to know that I'm not the problem, SHE IS. My brother was trying to strike up a conversation with me but I ignored him went back to the conversation I was having with one of my aunts. After a couple of hours I forgot they were even there. But when I was heading to the basement to get
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    some more ice cream, my brother followed me and nearly gave me a heart attack. He then awkwardly tried to apologize for what he did to me those 3 years ago and I walked past him. He didn't approach me again that night but the next day I had gotten multiple text from my mom telling me to just forgive my brother already. My mom and dad are heavy on the
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    religious side and had already forgave my brother. But I can't. He's the entire reason why I have trust issues now. He knew how much she meant to me and still did what he did and expected me to just be okay with it. But I don't think I'll forgive him ever in life. AITAH???
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    NiceFarm568 · 17 hr. ago Nta. You don't have a brother, you have a snake.
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    NogginNotions Never No. 16 hr. ago 2 of them who just so happened to breed.
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    Alarmed_Avocado_2389 12 hr. ago Eh, honestly it's different for parents than kids and siblings. It wouldn't be right to prevent an innocent kid from having grandparents imo despite actions of the parents.
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    But I think OP is 100% in the right to stonewall him for that betrayal.
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    GreyJediBug 14 hr. ago And a Snake-in-Law. Their kid is the only one of those 3 is innocent.
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    cicakganteng · 13 hr. ago Nta. Everyone deals with heartbreak with their own time and way. Your brother & C are the AH obviously.
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    Curben 12 hr. ago Oh can you imagine that honest story growing up How did you guys meet and fall in love while your mom was dating your uncle and I swooped in and We both betrayed him.
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    Now he's a jerk and won't talk to us....
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    Jolly-Sheepherder364 · 12 hr. ago Still a sonofasnake
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    Broad-Discipline2360. 17 hr. ago ΝΤΑ What they did to you was beyond cruel. I would never ever forgive them.
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    nixlplk. 13 hr. ago Cruel doesn't even cover it. That's just plain, sloppy, , type evil. Fuck who needs a nemesis with family like that. The alone to try and apologize after 3 years at a family event. Not 1 on 1 like a man but, to
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    use the event like a cover so he doesn't get the kicked out of him. Coward POS he is! Op should go his exs mom or something.
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    jbuckets44 16 hr. ago Tell your folks that you have forgiven your brother and sister-in-law (even if you haven't), but will still continue to ignore them because actions have consequences (just like in the Bible).
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