‘That was the final straw!’: Woman Refuses to Help Raise Sister-In-Law’s Child After the Pregnancy Was Announced at Their Wedding

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Sienna Varady
Feb 14, 2024 8:00 AM EST

A girl's wedding day is the most amazing day of her life. It's the day she marries the love of her life and shares the celebration with her nearest and dearest friends and relatives.

This is the story of a really irritated sister-in-law. OP is ecstatic about both her impending nuptials and the attendance of her young nieces and nephews. Let me clarify by saying that OP is a proud aunt who can't image getting married without her adorable little lovebugs by her side. Finally, the big day was drawing near, and everything was going according to plan. But as soon as OP catches a glimpse of her sister-in-law, her happiness swiftly gives way to fury… It seems that the sister-in-law felt that white would be the ideal hue to wear for the event. Even worse, following the reception, the sister-in-law whips out the microphone and announces that she needs to make a statement…

So, be sure to read the story below if you're interested in learning the specifics of what transpired! And when you're done, read the story about the man who demands his father's mistress walk him down the aisle!

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    Now technically, my John and I didn't say other people COULDN'T wear white but it's usually a given in culture that only the bride wears white. I tried my best not to make a big deal about it because at the end of the day I was marrying the love of my life, but I guess my look said it all because Becca came up to me and said there was a reason for this and that she'd had special surprise for me.
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    AITA For Not Attending SIL's Baby Shower?
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    Throwaway Account I (32f) have two nieces (5 and 3) and a nephew (6mo) through my siblings who I love an adore. I planned and hosted the baby showers for each pregnancy, took time off of work to help care for the mothers, and presented a blanket for the baby with their name on it as well as a Push
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    Present for the moms. I also love to spend time with them and plan out outings or sleepovers at least once a month because I want my siblings kids to know me. My (then fiancé but now husband) "John" (36m) and his family know how much I love them and I have a pic of
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    my nieces and nephew as a screensaver on my phone. When my husband and I were planning the wedding it was a given that my nieces would be flower girls and I insisted that they were white dresses like me and little tiaras like mine. On the actual day of the wedding John's sister
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    "Becca" (30f) wore a pink dress to the ceremony but came to the reception in a white dress. Now technically, my John and I didn't say other people COULDN'T wear white but it's usually a given in culture that only the bride wears white. I tried my best not to make a big deal about
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    it because at the end of the day I was marrying the love of my life, but I guess my look said it all because Becca came up to me and said there was a reason for this and that she'd had special surprise for me. After the speeches, cake cutting, and first dances Becca took the mic from the DJ and made her special announcement.
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    She started off by saying how wonderful I was and how great of a brother John was, and that she couldn't think of a perfect gift to welcome me into the family for months. Then "as if by fate" the universe granted a perfect gift for me and announced that she was
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    pregnant. People on John's side started to applaud because they knew how hard Becca and her husband were trying for a baby but mine were ticked off as much as I was. There was a brief argument between my family and Becca but she defended herself insisting that her
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    announcement was a gift as I did technically say that finding out she that would give me a niece/nephew in future would be. I did not want my wedding to end like this so I just told everyone to forget it and keep the party going but my sisters knew to keep Becca away from me.
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    John apologized and insisted that he knew nothing about this and I believed him and we went on our honeymoon. Since then I have not initiated contact with Becca at all, haven't asked about her or the baby, and did not help with the planning of her baby shower when asked. A
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    couple weeks back I received an invite to her shower but didn't respond until the day before saying that I couldn't make it because of work. I guess my absence was noticed because Becca's husband called me
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    saying how disappointed she was that I didn't attend and just opted to send a gift. I said I had work, which was true, but he and Becca felt that I should've made more of an effort like I did for my bio nieces and nephew. AITA?
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    Trevena Ice 19 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [25] NTA. Would have told them, that her speach was out of line at your wedding. And although it might have sounded perfect in her ears, she should have seen how
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    much it upseted you and appologice for it. As she didn't, they can't expect for you to let everything drop for them.
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    The_Bad_Agent 19 hr. ago Supreme Court Just-a [108] NTA Becca chose the path of your relationship. She can deal the absence her behavior inspired.
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    11SkiHill 18 hr. ago Partassipant [4] Becca is getting her just desserts. Husband knows she's a j k too, and that's why he had to call you. But you are a smartie pants. Don't get involved in her
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    drama. Smile nod and avoid. Smart. That way she can't attack you. If MIL says something to you look blankly at her and ask "what"? Let her stumble over her words. Be very vague about all your
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    family plans.....make sure hubby knows too. Very vague. Because you have SILSS number..... just avoid her. Because she is awful
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    Full_Prune7491 - 12 hr. ago Partassipant [1] I would pretend to have forgotten SIL was pregnant. Then tell them you didn't realize she was pregnant. Then ask when she announced it to you? Then let it slowly soak in it was done at your wedding.
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    Two-Branch Partassipant [1] 19 hr. ago NTA, I'm sorry she did such a selfish thing at your wedding. Her good news could've been celebrated any other time and she deliberately attempted to make your special day about
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    herself. It sounds like she hasn't apologized or reached out so you definitely don't owe her your time or energy for her celebration.
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    TossingPasta 16 hr. ago NTA. But I suggest you brace yourself for the incoming firestorm when you don't do squat for Becca's child (I'm actually sad that you even sent a gift because Becca didn't deserve one). I hope the next time they ask why you aren't involved in her
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    child's life, you be honest. "You have never apologized for stealing the spotlight at my wedding. Your announcement was not a gift to me, it was simply you ole and trying being an a to make my wedding reception all about you. At this point, there isn't any
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    point in apologizing because you aren't sorry. You showed me who you are and I am keeping that knowledge with me at all times. I have no desire to spend time with you."
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    Professional_Ruin953 15 hr. ago A ole Enthusiast [5] You sent a present?!?! I would have sent an invoice for half the wedding because it became a shared party from the moment she made her announcement. NTA and you're a kinder person than me.
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