‘You’re just jealous': Bride Attempts to Ruin Guest’s Dress During the Wedding Because of the Color, Even Though She Approved the Dress Months Before

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Feb 21, 2024 9:00 AM EST

Some brides think that they are the only ones who are allowed to look pretty at their weddings. It gets to a point where it doesn't even matter what color your dress is, and how far it is from being white, the moment you get a compliment at someone else's wedding, you are an enemy in their eyes.

Like the bride in this Reddit story, who tried to sabotage a guest's dress, even though she personally approved it beforehand. The OP (original poster), told Reddit she was invited to a wedding and was really careful with her dress choice. She ran it by both the groom and the bride, and they both happily approved it. However, during the wedding itself, the bride was extremely displeased with OP and even sent her bridesmaids to try and ruin OP's dress. Too much? we think so…

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  • 01
    AITA for 'upstaging the bride' with an outfit that was approved prior to the wedding?
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    It was my first Western wedding, so I was careful about avoiding any culture gaffe. I'm friends with the groom & asked him for the dress code. It was dressing up to our nines in neutrals & pastels. I have this
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    lovely saree that fit the bill. I sent him a picture & he said it's perfect. 5 months before the wedding, I met the bride with many other of the groom's friends at a bar. I
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    showed her pictures of the saree to ask if it was appropriate. I also told her I'd be happy to buy a new outfit if it wasn't. So whatever she says will go. She said it was
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    delightful & she'd be glad to have some 'culture' added to her wedding pictures (lol ikr?) The day arrived. Friends stayed in the back for the ceremony, so there weren't many eyes on me.
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    For the reception, the bride changed into a gown that could be best described as greyish white. It was the same fabric as my outfit. The majority & outer layer of her gown was still
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    white. Only the embroidery was the same colour as my saree & the underneath fabric had a hint of the same grey as mine (thus making it greyish). The groom, his mother, & our
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    friends complimented me for how nice I looked. The groom's mother especially loved it as she kept coming up to me to compliment me more. She's
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    half-Indian & was brought up in the country. She too had worn a saree for the special day & seeing someone else in it seemed to be sentimental for her. The bride & her
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    bridesmaids, though, were a different ballgame. The bride gave me the stink eye. A bridesmaid tried to spill her drink on me. Another commented if my outfit was
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    going to turn out white in the pictures. When we showed up to get group pictures done, I thoughtlessly ended up standing next to the couple. The bride made moves so that I ended up at the very corner by
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    the time the photographer started clicking. As we stood in a group for the bouquet throwing thingy, the maid of honor asked if I'm going to try to catch it like I haven't gotten enough attention for the day.
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  • 13
    On our way back, I asked my friends if my behavior or outfit was inappropriate. They didn't think anything of it. AITA?
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    Fragrant Economist386 · 1 day ago Craptain [175] NTA. You just met a school of mean girls. There is no telling what such people will get up to. I think you had taken every possible precaution with your outfit, in fact much more than most people would have.
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    CoachOk618 OP. 1 day ago • edited 1 day ago And that was such a cultural shock for me. Hospitality being one of the highest virtues is an idea that's hammered into
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    us as kids. Not even exaggerating, we're taught 'Guests are akin to God'. So it was unsettling to have the host and her friends be so obvious with their disdain. That's half the reason I didn't even react to any of it.
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    The other half being the cultural commonality of it being inappropriate to get confrontational & create a scene at a wedding lol.
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    queenlegolas 1 day ago Partassipant [1] Forget that, was there any damage to the saree after they tried to ruin it? That is expensive too! NTA Tell the groom.
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    CoachOk618 OP. 1 day ago • edited 23 hr. ago Haha no, a friend moved me out of the way just in time. A bit of splatter did end up on the edge, nothing a saree-specialist dry cleaner can't fix.
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    PS. Not telling the groom a thing. I don't wish to put him in an awkward position or be the source of drama in a newly wed couple's life.
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    tsweetsie edited 21 hr. ago Partassipant [3] 1 day ago . NTA. I won't lie, I was a little concerned about the color when I clicked on your pictures link. But if the bride approved it, she doesn't get to change her mind on the day of... Of
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  • 23
    course you were going to get attention on the day for wearing a saree and adding "culture" but she made a mistake. Oh well. I never understand brides who want everyone else to never
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  • 24
    get complimented for their outfits. Sure, it's their wedding day, other people can't look nice? Dress code should be burlap sack then, I guess? I'd probably recommend going for a saree nowhere near white
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    for western weddings going forward though. :) It'll save an "accidental" drink spill in future.
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    2tinymonkeys. 1 day ago Huh? How on earth is she even surprised? She saw the pictures... she approved the dress beforehand... And now all of the sudden she's upset with your outfit?
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  • 27
    NTA. You asked her and she approved the outfit. She should have spoken up when you asked or even a couple days later would be okay too. But not giving you the stink eye on the big day itself after having approved and known of the dress.
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    CoachOk618 OP. 1 day ago . edited 1 day ago Ngl I would have worn something else even if she had said something the morning of. We drove to the wedding to a neighbouring city, so I had all of my and my friends' wardrobe at disposal.
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    Accomplished Nose9541 1 day ago NTA, it sounds like the bride was being really friendly and kind, but as soon a other peoples' opinions came in she second-guessed the choice she made about your outfit. Her
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  • 30
    friends were being abominably rude and had no respect for your feelings. Sounds like a bit of cultural peer pressure around color choice.
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    WomanInQuestion. 1 day ago NTA - sounds like the bride was a bit jealous of the positive attention you got from her MIL
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