Petty Aunt Karen forces fully grown nephew to sit with six year olds at their family reunion: 'This is the adult's table'

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    "She says that until I have kids of my own I'll have to sit at the kid's table"
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    AITA for leaving a family gathering because my family made me sit at the kid table? For context: I haven't seen my full family together in quite some time, so they set up a get together at a park today. The family gathering includes me (22m), my brother (21), my sister (25), her husband (29) and their two kids, my dad, step-mom and her kids (6 and 9) aunt, uncle, my two cousins (15 and 20), grandma, and grandpa.
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    I get there with some picnic items (I brought a quiche and the cups) and see a few members setting up. I say hi and help set up the tables and set the food out. We talk and play games while the others show up. When everyone gets there, we sit down to eat. I sit next to my dad and get a weird look from my aunt as she says to me, "this is the adult's table." To which I reply, "I am an adult(?)." She tells me that the 1st and 2nd generations are considered adult and the 3rd and 4th generations shou
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    According to my aunt, there are children (ages 6-22) and 8 adults (ages 25-75) so I should just sit at the kid's table since it'll be even, but there is plenty of space at the adult table and I don't want to be stuck with 5 literal children. She still disagrees and at this point my uncle and grandparents back her up, so I say, take my quiche back, tell them to have a nice day, and drive away. I get a few texts telling me to come back by my dad and grandparents. I ask if aunt is going to apologiz
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    I feel that I may have possibly ruined a nice family gathering, but feel my family doesn't respect me at all, enough to say that I am still a child and apparently have the same mentality as 6 year olds. AITA?
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    Edit: This really blew up! Thanks for the awards and all the positive comments. And no, this doesn't mean that these bridges are burned. Family is family, but I'll make my own private table with blackjack and Inext time, with VIP access. Last thing I want to say is that you just lost The Game.
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    alsmit250 NTA - I love you took your quiche with you too. 27.7k Share
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    Korzaz OP. It tastes sweeter for some reason 17.9k Share
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    ICICLEHOAX. I hope you ate the whole thing to yourself in the apartment you can legally rent because you're a adult. Next time offer some conversation starters for the kids table, just to run it by the adults. 1. The current political condition 2. Their choice of birth control methods 3. Where they're planning on going to grad school
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    4. Best hangover cure Just to name a few. Honestly, I wouldn't want my 21 yo self hanging out at a kids table cause I'd open my stupid mouth and teach em a few bad words. "Can't contribute" probably more likely "Won't let us make stupid claims with no source" or "Is too politically correct" because they're dropping slurs. 2.6k Share ...
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    HauntinglyEthereal. NTA. Don't act dumb and then get mad when people find out. ew though, your aunt is totally an . They probably want you at the kids table to play babysitter. I would have left too tbh. 9.6k Share
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    Korzaz OP I'm surprised my brother accepted it too. He's 21! I understand my cousin's* situation though since she's my aunt's daughter and it's not like she's going to talk back. If I stayed, there would have been 3 people over 20 at the "kid's" table. What?? 5.1k Share
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    Dangerous_Beans74 NTA, and your aunt owes you an apology. She seems to think that people aren't adults until they... what? Get married and have kids? As an unmarried, childless person in my late 40s I find that exceptionally and genuinely amusing, and even sort of appreciate that she apparently thinks I'm a kid, but also, she's objectively completely wrong. You are an adult not only legally, but by any reasonable standard (except maybe that your prefrontal cortex still has a little growing to do
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    You are NTA, but your aunt is petty and your uncle and grandparents aren't any better. I'm sure they would have been furious if someone had treated them that way at 22. 4.1k Share
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    MiskiMoon ΝΤΑ They wanted you to play babysitter 2.1k ↓ Share
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    Equivalent_Collar_59. NTA. You were just saving the seat at the kids table for your aunt since that where she seems to belong. 1.8k Share
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    Misenica NTA She says that until I have kids of my own I'll have to sit at the kid's table. I can't have children so would I never be regarded as an adult? I'm old enough to both drive a car and then get arrested for it because I can't drive. 1.6k Share
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    -xworder. NTA -- Children cannot go to the store and cook a quiche. Sounds like your aunt doesn't have much to contribute to the adult conversation either. 1.0k Share
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    Major_Stranger. NTA. Aunt is an for drawing that kind of line for no purpose. I would have no issue sitting at kid's table (29m with no children) because I love my nieces and nephew and don't see them enough but you're absolutely in the right to be offended by your aunt remark. Forcing that line is just plain behavior. Anyone pushing arbitrary rule is in my book an Let people live and stop trying to control people's life. 904 Share

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