‘I didn’t embarrass you, you’re just not a decent father’: Deadbeat dad's Parenting Called Out On Family Vacation After His 18 Year Old Kid Reveals She's Pregnant

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Feb 25, 2024 2:00 PM EST

Welcome ladies, women, girls, goddesses. Family, what can we say about it? The beginning, middle, and end of our worries. Just kidding! Family is an important and integral part of our lives, whether we like it or not. It can give us such blissful fulfillments of love and community, while also causing us the most heartaches and headaches.  

While family continues to be a source of every emotion, mixing families can have an even wider breadth of drama. At least your own family you know you love them, though you don't have to like them. Someone else's? Forget about it.  Combining different families on a family vacation? It's like a comedy film ready to be made. 

Imagine at a calm family dinner, you parents are there, your siblings, your wife, your ex-wife, and all your children from both marriages. What could go wrong? Engendered with the feeling of security because you're surrounded by family, you soon become susceptible to ridicule unimaginable. Read on this hilarious Reddit thread for the full scoop.

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    Posted by u/Life_Development9082 17 hours ago Aita for making my ex husband look bad in front of his family
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    I (49 F) had an ex husband named Jake (53). We have three kids (Kyle 18 F, Karter 21 M and Knox 25 M). When I was pregnant with Kyle he was cheating on me with his assistant Abigail. She was an 18 year old freshman in college at the time. She
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    got pregnant with Lizzie a year later. When I wouldn't take him back we got a divorce and he married her. He then had two more kids with her. He paid child support but that was it and only see them once a month.
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    However if one of the kids asked him for something he'll agree to get it, but wouldn't answer the kids phone calls until he figured I had gotten what they needed. He wouldn't show up to any of the kids sports games or plays. But if his aunts and mom
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    would go then he would be them. His aunts and mom are big time lawyers and he needs their approval. His family is somewhat shallow. If someone isn't in a prestigious position then they'll look down upon
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    them. And any form of gossip is seen as negative and they'll yell at you for making the family look bad. So in front of them Jake would brag about everything he does for the kids when in reality he
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    does nothing. However my kids see their family vacations and at first it hurt them, but they began to ignore it. He told them it was because I take them on two vacations every year and Lizzie only gets one.
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    He just tells his family it was because the kids didn't want to go. However during the Christmas party, Lizzie was talking to her great aunts about the upcoming trip to the Dominican Republic. Kyle then asked what they were
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    talking about. She explained how the family was taking a trip and that their dad said they had other plans. Kyle explained how she had no plans and neither did her brothers so they'll love to come.
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    Here's where the problem start my kids being that far away with their dad never sat right with me so I went with them on vacation. His wife wasn't happy but me and his family are still close so it wasn't weird. So at a dinner my daughter and karter go to a very
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    prestigious college, and my oldest is in medical school. So his mom asked what's happening with all the kids, my daughter then explains how she was chosen for an internship for a tech company and everyone congratulated
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    her. His mom then asked about Lizzie. My daughter told me that Lizzie has been bragging about a secret and everyone thinks that she got into her dream college so his mom was smiling ear to ear waiting to
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    congratulate her. But Lizzie explains that she's pregnant. Everyone's face fell to the floor including Jakes. Everyone began to question Jake and Abigail's parenting. Jake then said that it was all on Lizzie
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    because he parenting was a result of my children's success. I was tired of the lies and explained how he was never there unless his family was there in order to look good in front of them. They then asked if that was true and he tried to lie saying of course not
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    then Kyle chimed in saying that he hadn't even invited them to this vacation, and that he lies about everything and he's a dad. Kyle stormed off and me and my sons ran after her. Later I got a text from Jake thanking me for ruining his family. I didn't text him back. I do
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    didn't text him back. I do feel bad because it probably wasn't the time or place.
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    Careless_League_9494 · 17 hr. ago NTA If he wasn't such a person there would be nothing bad to say about him. It's always wild to me when people blame other people for the
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    people for the consequences of their actions, and refusing to lie for them.
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    Beth21286 - 12 hr. ago If you don't like the truth, the problem isnt the truth.
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    Still_Actuator_8316 · 17 hr. ago ΝΤΑ He dug his own pit and stepped in it
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    ShamaD27 35 min. ago He in it. in the pit and slept
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    bdayqueen 17 hr. ago NTA - Sounds like Jake FAFO'd. I would have been laughing my off at him. But then I'm petty. :)
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    JuJu-Petti 15 hr. ago It's funny because he deserved it.
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    TarzanKitty 15 hr. ago I wonder is Lizzie is pregnant by her married boss? She is about the same age as her mother was if she is in college acceptance season.
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    Bitter Animator2514 · 16 hr. ago NTA well done your children He FAFO and he did this to himself
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    Careless_Welder_4048. 15 hr. ago I'm going to be honest, you have been too nice to that man for far too long. I would have gone to his family over him all the time to get what they needed. NTA
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    oliveoil02 15 hr. ago ΝΤΑ If he wasn't a father the truth would have been different.
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    RndmIntrntStranger 15 hr. ago i am so proud of Kyle for calling out the deadbeat for who he actually is. please do not feel bad for the truth coming out. you need to protect YOUR CHILDREN, not your lying cheating ex. Kyle has it right.
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    NTA bc YOU didn't make him look bad - he did bc truth hurts apparently.
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    Tall_Wall7580 15 hr. ago. edited 14 hr. ago NTA This was a classic case of 'He made his bed and now must lie in it'. It is not on you or your kids to maintain his lies.
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