‘We’re done if you don’t get out of that shower!’: Girlfriend Pushed to the Brink as Boyfriend Refuses to Cut back on His Precious ‘Me Time’ and Claims That His Time is More Valuable Than Hers

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Sienna Varady
Feb 26, 2024 9:00 AM EST

It takes work to build a dependable love connection. But keep in mind that even though it can be challenging to keep up a relationship, you should be able to enjoy the fruits of your labor. You should be treated like a princess but with the love and respect of a queen.

The tale that follows is the story of a displeased girlfriend—or, to be more precise, an ex-girlfriend. The Original Poster (OP) has been dating her boyfriend for around four months. At first, OP believed herself to be among the luckiest girls on the plant. Her man is a charming young man who spends a lot of time doing philanthropic work in an effort to assist the less fortunate. He also looks after his physical well-being by working out regularly and spending a lot of time at the gym. Though in theory, everything seems to be going smoothly, things aren't quite that way in practice. The boyfriend is greedy, manipulative, and unwilling to take responsibility for his actions. Without giving too much away, read the story below to learn what drove OP over the edge and how, in the most satisfying way imaginable, she exacted revenge! When you're done, don't forget to read the envious sister's account of how her sister's fiancé first fell in love with her!

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    He cried and said he already missed half of his gym time yesterday and I told him it was his own fault due to his poor use of (shower) time. He continued sitting there, pouting and crossing his arms, sniffling and stomping his feet in the footwell. 40 minutes in, he said "so you really want it to end this way". I said I was fed up with his behaviour so I was fine either way. He continued crossing his arms and pouting while refusing to apologize.
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    My (F19) boyfriend (M24) wasted 2 hours of my day, so I wasted an hour of his and made him cry.
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    TLDR: My (F19) bf (M24) hasn't respected my time in the past, so this time after he wasted 2 hours of my day (for the second day in a row) by showering, I wasted an hour of his day and made him cry in petty revenge. Background: My (ex)boyfriend is very dedicated to public service/volunteering
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    and a hard worker. On top of his crazy schedule he also has a very built physique and is very dedicated to the gym. I found his ability to work hard, take care of his body, all while helping others admirable and physically attractive. A guy that does volunteering and aims to work in public service should be a good guy right?
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    I often found myself feeling like he never respected my time. He would ask to come over on days where I had classes the next morning. He admitted into pressuring me into s al activity. Every time I confronted him with my feelings he would always say "I'm sorry you feel that way". He said I was ignoring him if I didn't respond to his messages or calls
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    quickly, even if my phone was away. In the past I was too clingy because I would message him "too much, and was too demanding by expecting him to take 3 seconds out of his day to message me "good morning" back. He forgot to get me a valentines gift as he had no time so he gave me a cheap (expired) chocolate
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    bar from his car. Eventually he apologized because he didn't know it meant that much to me and bought me 2 sour patch candies and a protein drink. All I asked for was a handwritten note from him :/ Story: Yesterday I slept over at his place. We showered separately. I took 20 mins, he took well over an hour. I had to keep
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    knocking on his door to get him to hurry up as we had plans. He took his sweet time as showering was his "alone time" and we missed our date plans as he had to go to the gym. Today I slept over again. I tried waking him up earlier so we wouldn't miss our rescheduled date. He took 2 hours in the shower and I couldn't
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    go upstairs to knock on the door as his parents were walking around (we haven't met yet) so I had to spend almost 2 hours confined in his room. 1 hour in, I texted and called him informing him of the time (he had his phone in the shower) and said he would hurry up. Half an hour later he was still in the shower. Another
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    30 minutes and he was finally getting dressed. We no longer had time for our date again so he was going to drop me back as he was getting late for the gym. He seemed surprised that I was angry at him. He said I was exaggerating 2 hours but I remembered the time and I event sent him time reminders over text. I was
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    fuming in the car and I told him to skip the gym as wasting 2 hours of my time (the second day in a row) was unacceptable. He said that the shower was his "me time" and he really needed it. He also said he couldn't miss the gym as he had to get bigger. I asked him if the gym was more important than me and he said we could simply reschedule our date for tomorrow.
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    Eventually we reached my apartment. He told me to go inside and we could call and talk about my angry feelings. I refused to leave. I told him that he wasted 2 hours of my day so I would waste an hour of his and he would have to skip the gym. So I stayed in his car for an hour. He tried to leave but I raised my voice at him. I told him he was selfish had
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    no respect for others time and that it was unacceptable. I had never raised my voice at him before or done anything vengeful so he was startled. He disagreed and repeated he was a good person that respected others time. He said he simple "wasn't aware of the time" but I responded with the fact that he had his phone and you can check the time
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    there. He said he lost track of time, but then I told him I even called and texted the time. He went quiet, and started crying, pouting, and stomping his legs. He kept repeating "I've never felt this way" "I feel so claustrophobic” "I want to go to the gym please let me go". I refused. I said if he's feeling claustrophobic he can take a walk around
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    the area but I wouldn't leave the car for another hour. I also told him he wouldn't be late for work so he wouldn't d skipping the gym for one day. He cried and said he already missed half of his gym time yesterday and I told him it was his own fault due to his poor use of (shower) time. He continued sitting there, pouting and crossing his arms, sniffling
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    and stomping his feet in the footwell. 40 minutes in, he said "so you really want it to end this way". I said I was fed up with his behaviour so I was fine either way. He continued crossing his arms and pouting while refusing to apologize. Eventually I got out of the car and went upstairs while he drove off. I haven't messaged him all day and he hasn't messaged me either.
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    This guy was my first real boyfriend, my first kiss, my first everything. We've been dating for over 4 months. I don't know if it's right to throw everything away like this, but I also don't really care. I feel so happy with my small victory! Edit: FYI, he is not on ste ids. Also here the hot water doesn't run out. BTW yes I dumped him!!!
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    UPDATE: He saw the post. Spammed me with calls, excuses, apologies for hours. Eventually I picked up. He said "well y'know a sub about petty revenge is bound to attract a certain audience" I also did another petty revenge against him I downloaded a dating app a few hours after we broke up to shove it in his face. Swiped as much as I could and had
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    200+ likes on my profile after 20 hours. Only matched with two guys though so I did the most bare bones icebreakers, nothing else. (Obviously I'm not gonna hop into a new relationship anytime soon dw!!!) Don't even remember their names. But my ex is PI ED and says I cheated on him lol. He said he felt sick and threw up. Now he is also trying to bribe me
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    back into the relationship with a brand new Nintendo Switch OLED. Says he's a bad person, hurt me a lot, won't do it again, yadayada. Is also repeating the claim that I am a cheater even though we broke up yesterday lol. Also he vehemently denies ever cheating on me.
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    PresentationLimp890 · 6 days ago Leave him. You will go bankrupt paying the water bill.
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    Kat121 · 6 days ago Hon. Four months is the HONEYMOON stage where he should be excited to see you and is still wooing you. He is showing you who he is. Believe him.
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    Bedhed47 6 days ago Showers before going to the gym, will not go to the gym if you are with him. Cries and freaks out when he cant go to the gym. He is f king someone else.
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    SpewPewPew. 6 days ago ^ This reminds me of the tantrums this guy that dated my friend would have, on her birthday for a few years. We'd go out. He would meet us later. He'd have a fit about having to go to bed for work. Then leave after making her feel bad. He had a wife at home waiting for him.
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    supermouse35 · 6 days ago Anyone else find it weird that he showers before going to the gym, lol?
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    SnooCupcakes 7992 6 days ago He was panicking because he was supposed to be meeting someone else and couldn't call/text them.
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    Elle Vetica 6 days ago No one else has picked up on his parents were downstairs and OP hasn't met them yet bit?!? So he's 24, living at home, AND sneaking OP around after 4 months?? On top of his other vast collection of red flags?
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    Girl, please take this as a huge lesson and learn to advocate for and respect yourself in relationships. This guy is flaming hot trash.
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    Excellent_Ad1132 · 6 days ago . edited 6 days ago You are dating a boy not a man. Dump him and find a real man to love. Unless you don't feel that you deserve to be treated like a person. If you don't see the red flags going up, I bet everyone else is. You haven't met his parents after 4 months
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    (1), he spends 2 hours in the bathroom [extreme] (2), he is forcing you to do things you really don't feel like (3). There are probably others that you didn't put in your post, but do you really want this to continue? Dump him and move on. Add to this that he sounds very na istic.
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    forgeblast 6 days ago Seems like you are or were the side girlfriend. He's not going to get better, those little games were just tests on how far he could go.
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