‘I’m not going to marry you’: Girlfriend Embarrasses Boyfriend By Publicly Declining Awkward Marriage Proposal After He Makes a Big Scene

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Mar 4, 2024 4:00 PM EST

Proposal is a touchy subject; it's just like other things that require an appropriate set and setting to succeed. Usually expected to be done by the man, and usually the couple talks about those things before the big surprise. Some girls like a grand gesture, where her name is written in the clouds in the sky, or where a whole arena of people are watching and filming. Some girls like something quiet, with no one around. A simple 'down on one knee' gesture. Whichever way you prefer it, as the man it's important to be attuned to those preferences. 

Nothing is worse than getting rejected for a marriage, and especially in public. Pushing your partner to tie the knot will only create more friction. This can be harrowing for both people, while if one had been more patient they could have stayed together. See for yourself in this hilarious Reddit piece.

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  • 01
    r/AITAH. 13 hr. ago Sherlock Holmes Off AITA for embarrassing my boyfriend in public and saying no to his proposal?
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    AITA for embarrassing my boyfriend in public and saying no to his proposal? So I (20F) and my boyfriend (24M) have been dating for 10 months. I'm a college student in Psychology and often stressed then all of this happened just 3 days ago.
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    Our relationship was great, he'd take me out to dinner, visit me every week with flowers and chocolate, even though I told him I don't like chocolate, but he's very sweet in other aspects. He gives me space when I ask for it and only texted me when I wasn't in class. Now, you see why I dated him and would consider the next part.
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    We were at our 9 month mark and he just brung up marriage so suddenly. I thought we were perfect for it because I really liked him. So yes, I engaged in the conversation. I told him I'd be open to the idea but I'd want it to be further back, I made it clear I didn't want it too soon since it's only been 9 months! But he tried saying it's "basically been a year since we started dating in July." And
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    basically just talked me down to it. I told him I hate public surprises or proposals. I just feel forced into saying yes. He even started texting me in the mornings with "Good morning wifey " and it all made me cringe. One day (I remember this so vividly) he called me during classes. It wasn't like him since we already established
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    he shouldn't. I really almost got in serious trouble but thank the heavens that this instructor liked me. In this class, I could not have distractions. After the class, I called him reasonably angry and then it felt like he ignored what I saying then he invited me to dinner. I told him no at first. Then I hung up.
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    Here's the text he left after that fact: "If you don't go out to dinner tonight, it says a lot about how you really feel about our relationship. You're really mad about this call thing when it isn't that serious, some guys wouldn't treat you like I do." At this point I didn't know what to do. So I said yes.
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    He took me out to dinner and was more clingy and romantic than ever. I was enjoying it, the attention. Suddenly, he said I should go to the bathroom and wash my hands/freshen up. I really thought this man was about to leave so I could pay the bill. I never laughed so hard in the bathroom because it felt surreal. I went and came out. When I came out everyone was looking at
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    me. It was nerve wrecking. I go to the table and the waiter is there, so sit down and he wasn't at the table. At this rate, I was ready to LEAVE because he dined and dashed on me and everyone was looking. Then someone pulled out their phone and started recording. I wanted to drown.
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    I pull out my wallet and the waiter puts down the black tab thing. I open it and it wrote 'Bill you marry me?" Yes, it said BILL. Then I turn around, he's on one knee with a ring. I told him no and just ran out. My life flashed before my eyes and noticed some red flags. So...AITA?
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    TL;DR: pressures me into marriage after 9 months, ignored my boundaries, sweet guy with a lot of flaws, orchestrates a cringeworthy public proposal, I say no, I leave & go home. It left me feeling bad and uncomfortable. Hasnt texted me since.
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    Inflamed-psoror5011 13h ago Look. NTA. Several red flags. Glad you saw them and said no. Continue to say no to this man. His clinginess isn't romantic it's controlling and meaning to manipulate you. "Some guys wouldn't treat you like I do” ...? Sure bro because they aren't unhinged.
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    evadhud 12h ago NTA. Remember what you wrote before you consider keeping this relationship together:
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    "If you don't go out to dinner tonight, it says a lot about how you really feel about our relationship. You're really mad about this call thing when it isn't that serious, some guys wouldn't treat you like I do."
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    Bad, bad, bad. This is rotten, controlling behavior.
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    Traveling-Techie 11h ago I'm still back on him bringing you candy you say you don't like. This is what your marriage would be like. NTA
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    anne... 12h ago Edited 9h ago No, honey, you are not an . You really dodged the bullet here. There were red flags all over this post. Please go no contact with him
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    butterfly-garden. 12h ago NTA. Good for you for recognizing the red flags! That was a considerable amount of boundary stomping he did, there.
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    Sinn... 12h ago Edited 12h ago ● ● NTA, you told him you werent ready to get engaged yet and he made it a public spectacle in an attempt to manipulate you into saying yes when he knew you didnt want to yet. He specifically told the people around him what he was going to do and tried to get the
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    crowd to help pressure you, thats why someone started recording. Id reconsider the relationship as it seems he is manipulating you, especially with the age difference.
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    RNGinx3 11h ago NTA. Girl, keep running. He's a walking parade of red flags and has made it crystal clear he's not going to listen to anything you say if it goes against what he wants. Run and don't look back.
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    Leuc... 11h ago Edited 8h ago NTA you are too young to get married at 20. You did not embarrass him, he embarrassed himself. Flag one: he brings you chocolate when you said you don't like it. If he loved you he'd ask what you DO like and bring that. Flag two: trying to talk you into marriage when
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    you said it's too soon. Flag three: when you said it hasn't been a year yet even, and he countered with "we met in July, it's basically a year." Flag four: calling you during class for no reason. Flag five: weirdly threatening you into accepting a dinner invite (?!?!) Flag six: texting you "hello wifey" when
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    you are not, in fact, his wife and already told him it's too soon to contemplate that. Flag seven: proposing to you anyway after you already told him you don't want to get married right now, flag eight: proposing in public in hopes of guilting you into saying yes to something he KNOWS you do not want to do at this time.
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    Chaoticgood790 • 11h ago Girl this guy does not respect your wants or needs and is pressuring you into marriage after 9 months. Has more red flags than a parade
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    UnicornPanties • 11h ago This is hilarious. GOOD FOR YOU NTA. this guy smells like longterm bad news when people ignore your requests it doesn't bode well for the future, red flags indeed
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