‘Time you pay back what you owe’: Woman Refuses to Give Ex-husband His Money After He Accidentally Transfers Her $18,000, Claiming It’s a Sign He Should Pay Back His Loans

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    AITA for not returning money my ex-husband sent to me mistakenly?
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    A few days ago my ex-husband mistakenly transferred two payments of 8700 and 9275. He did this at around 7:40am in the morning and I didn't notice because I had just worked a
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    double/night shift and was getting ready for bed. So my phone was charging on the nightstand. At the same time my 4 children were at my parents and so I planned to
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    sleep away half the day. I guess he realized his mistake around 8:30am and by then I was dead asleep. I woke up at around 4pm to at least a hundred missed calls and maybe 150
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    texts asking and begging me to sent him back the money. My initial thoughts were to send it back but then I remembered he owed me 12000 and hasn't payed me back since I lended it
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    to him 4 years ago and he's had a million excuses why he can't pay me back and yet I always see him living it up. I kept the amount he owed me and returned only 5975 and told.
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    him I deducted his debt. Since then I've had him call me every book in the name because this was apparently money he was saving to buy his girlfriend a engagement ring, the
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    engagement venue etc so according to him he had to tell her. This then led to it ruining the surprise engagement he planned for the next weekend.
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    His girlfriend has been bad mouthing me and it has caused a bit of a storm with me having to shut down my social media and even his parents who I had a cordial relationship
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    has been impacted by it. I discussed the situation with a friend and colleague and it was overheard by another colleague and he has called what I did a move and I guess he
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    shared it with a couple of other people and now I'm not to sure anymore on whether I am being a atole or not. Is this a a e move? be
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    Edit- The money was loaned to him after our divorce we've been divorced for 7 years and I loaned him the money 4 years ago after he had lost his job and fell behind on bills and his rent.
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    This has nothing to do with his child support payments (of which he is also behind on) and that's being handled by family court/the child support company. There are texts of him
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    asking for a loan and it included a repayment plan and time but he never stuck to it. So there's a legal trail if he ever decided to involve the law but I seriously doubt he would because it
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    would cost way more to sue me and I think I would've won in court since I only deducted his debt to me.
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    Yes he is the father of our 4 kids. I also didn't deduct the overdue child support payments because that is being handled by the courts and I don't want to muddy the water
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    and get myself in trouble. The child support company is aware of his arrears and if I'm not mistaken he will need to start paying soon or they'll start garnering his wages.
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    Edit 2- Yes I could've sued him for the debt but it would've cost me way more to hire a lawyer. Suing someone isn't cheap. Lawyers cost real money and a lawsuit takes real time.
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    Edit 3- When I say "then I remembered he owed me money" you have to understand I had just woken up after having worked a double shift (I'm a nurse) and I was still kind
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    of exhausted when I woke up, I could barely remember my own name let alone anything else so my initial instinct was just to return the money but I quickly got to my senses!
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    buongiornoitaly · 18 hr. ago | Enthusiast [7] To be fair, he has owed you 12000 for 4 years. His priorities should have been clearing his debt and then saving for an engagement
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    ring, especially when he clearly had the money. Also, surely he can find an engagement ring for 6000? NTA, you only kept what you were owed.
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    rare-temp OP 18 hr. ago I think the money also included the cost of the venue and other things for the engagement.
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    squirrelsareevil2479. 18 hr. ago Pooperintendant [51] NTA. Tell everyone who says that you're wrong that if he can afford a "venue", he can afford to payback his debt to the mother of his children. His
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    new fiancee should be pleased to find out his true nature before the wedding. You did her a favour letting her know that he won't repay his debts unless forced to do so. His bad luck on the mistake but good for you.
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    Some_Range_9037. 16 hr. ago | Aficionado [11] OP says he is also behind on his CS, but that it is being handled by family court.
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    This dude has no business dropping almost 18 K on his girlfriend when he is not uphold his commitments to his former wife and children. ΝΤΑ
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    GoNinjaPro 13 hr. ago Who the $18,000 on an spends engagement ring and party when you obviously can't afford it? NTA. That's just irresponsible and stupid.
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    Shozurei · 18 hr. ago Enthusiast [9] NTA. Every time someone calls you out for it, just reply "I did return it. I just deducted the 12k that I loaned him and he's never paid back."
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    SunshineShoulders87 · 18 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [32] NTA - he owed you money and finally repaid it. Additionally, he didn't have to tell his gf anything and just planned for a little bit later, but then he wouldn't be able to drag you through the dirt.
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    So I guess you have to decide how badly you needed your money back and I'm going to guess $12,000 is a lot more valuable than people who take the side of someone like that.

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