Mother gets back at childless ex-husband who pressured her to have kids early: 'I want to send him a "Happy Birthday" message from me & my son'

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    "I am feeling petty [...] knowing his arbitrary deadline is here"
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    r/pettyrevenge. Posted by u/little_Druid_mommy 16 hours ago My ex's arbitrary deadline for having kids is coming up & I want to use my toddler to wish him a Happy Birthday.
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    So, my ex-husband (29m) & I (28f) haven't seen one another in about 3 years & before that we hadn't seen one another for about 2 years before that to finalize our divorce.
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    We were high school sweethearts, each other's first EVERYTHING, & got married right before I turned 21.
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    We disagreed on when to have children. He wanted to start right away, but I wanted to wait until I was 25, to get ourselves situated in life. This led to him cheating, admitting it & then leaving me. He told me he didn't want to be the 30yo with a newborn.
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    When I saw him last, it was to handle a banking issue we both thought was resolved when we separated. I was heavily pregnant with my son when I saw him last, at 25. When he saw my very swollen belly, you could see the sadness in his eyes. We were cordial & he congratulated me & my response was, "Yup, pregnant right when I intended to be, if I were to become pregnant," his face fell a little more.
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    Now, he & his new wife have yet to have kids, they married right before the banking issue happened. In all the years we were together, I couldn't tell you when c℃ we actually used a cm & I wasn't on birth control. Looking back on it now, I have a feeling my ex is infertile, though I couldn't tell you if, in fact, I am correct in my assumption.
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    Well, I want to send him a "Happy Birthday" message from me & my son on his 30th birthday to twist the knife in. He absolutely SHATTERED me, I tried desperately to save my marriage & I am feeling knowing his arbitrary petty deadline is here & there isn't a child in sight.
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    My son is my world. I have an amazing partner, who would move heaven & earth & trek through for me & our child. In the end, I did luck out. That doesn't mean I don't still harbor some ill feelings & want to make it known on a day that I know my ex will absolutely remember.
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    I want to do it SO BAD, but then again I'd be a terrible mother to use my child in this fashion...
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    Forsaken Flour - 19 hr. ago The best revenge is to live well and not focus on the past. If you did decide to be petty, it would only prove to your ex that you're still not over him. If I was your current partner I would find it super disrespectful and think that you're still hung up on your ex. 7.3k Reply Share
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    look2thecookie. 19 hr. ago You came to the right conclusion in the last sentence. You'd be involving your child and his new wife in your "revenge." You have no idea if your ex and his wife have lost pregnancies or are having health issues.
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    Longwinded_Ogre . 18 hr. ago This seems like a great way to tell your current partner that you're still hung up on your ex. 935 Reply Share
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    Ok-Zombie-001 · 18 hr. ago The revenge was him seeing you heavily pregnant and him still not being able to have kids. Using your kid to wish him anything is too much.
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    peeingdog 18 hr. ago What you're suggesting isn't petty revenge, it's advertising to the world that you haven't moved on from that relationship. People who are happy with their lives aren't thinking about the people that have wronged them in the past. The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference.
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    cachalker 18 hr. ago You've already twisted the knife. Anything else, at this point, is more than petty...it's malicious and vindictive. And yes, it would be terrible to use your child this way. Not to mention disrespectful to your current partner. It'd certainly make me wonder why you're still so hung up on your ex that you'd use a child in such a vindictive way. I recommend therapy to find out why you can't seem to move on.
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    Specialist-Rope7419. 19 hr. ago Don't do it. Your child with your current partner does not deserve to be used as a petty revenge tool. Do not weaponize your children. And stop letting him live rent free in your head and move on. 195 Reply Share
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    manwoodlover. 18 hr. ago Only a complete psychopath would use their child as part of their revenge, no matter what the situation was. Love your best life and let him live the life he chose. 153 Reply Share

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