'I am not the golden child, I just wasn't a pain in the ***': Delinquent daughter accuses kid sister of being favored, gets put in her place

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Apr 1, 2024 1:00 PM EDT

I know all too well that sometimes siblings are treated differently for a good reason. It can sound cruel to give privileges to one of your children but not another, but when one kid has constantly abused privileges and cannot handle any level of responsibility, it's no wonder that they'd be treated differently than a kid who has proven they can hang. That doesn't necessarily mean that one kid is favored over the other. It just means that they've earned trust while their sibling hasn't. 

One younger sister recently went viral on Reddit after she was accused of being "the golden child" by her dropout sister. She was sick of being labeled as such because the only reason she was favored was because she always getting in trouble. Subsequently, her older sister called her a jerk and fled to her room. While the majority of Reddit sided with the so-called "golden child," one poster was skeptical of her side of the story. 

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    20 r/AmltheAsshole u/Hall_Known ⚫ 1d AITA for telling my sister I am not the golden child I just wasn't a pain in the ass
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    My sister is a mess, she was a lot growing up and each week some issue would appear. The could be as simple as a tantrum, or mom/dad getting a call from the school. I'm short she was a lot. Not to mention therapy for her basically drained the family dry. I was giving more freedom since my parents trusted me. I could go to mall by myself and they knew they wouldn't get a call from security about stealing. That happened before.
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    So they trusted me and gave me more freedom to do stuff. I have literally watch her get a chance to prove our parents can trust her and then up. Our relationship isn't good. My dad gave me his old. car for my last year of college. I need it for an internship. My sister made a comment that of course the golden child gets a car.
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    I snapped and told her I am not the golden child I just wasn't a pain in the . That the fmaily has drained themselves dry for her multiple time and to keep her mouth shut. She called me a jerk and ran to her room.
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    rebootsaresuchapain • 1d Enthusiast [9] I'm almost 50 and my older brother calls me the golden child. He spend his childhood playing truant, getting picked up by police, stealing from family and ending up in boarding school. Our mother wasn't the best, she was a very self absorbed person and my brother has the same personality. (Our dad was always at work but did his best when his was home). I have told him that I am the golden child. Not because they actively favoured me, but because | wasn't i
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    Hall Known OP. 1d I don't get why she doesn't understand that her. actions greatly affect how she was treated Like seriously she will give an example and my first thought is didn't you do something week before that ✩ 4.7k
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    rebootsaresuchapain. 1d Enthusiast [9] Selfish or mentally unhealthy people don't take responsibility for their actions. They look to others to blame than try and fix themselves. 2.3k
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    sheath2 23h Yup. I have two half siblings who absolutely refuse to take any responsibility for their actions -- they're a victim of circumstance, someone is playing favorites with someone else, someone is out to get them, the other person is lying, it's not their fault because they have mental health issues, on and on and on. And usually they'll swing from one excuse to the other for the same incident when they see no one believes them. ... 596
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    Lower-Elk8395 • 23h Honestly, people have called me my Dad's golden child in recent years...but thing is, I really am not. If anything, our Dad connects to my middle brother so much more, and for years they had such a friendly relationship... Problem is, my brother used that relationship to get into trouble daily and bleed him dry. To this day he is still financially abusing our Dad. I think the last straw was when Dad had to leave his job because my bro was treating me like his personal slave w
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    ArtfullySnarky • 1d . NTA my brother does the same He is constantly late to literally any event, dinner, etc. He lies about our family to make himself look like the poor, abandoned child that no one wanted to his friends and online like he's a black sheep dying for the love and affection he never recieved as a child. He complains that our dad bought me car, and ignores that he also bought him one, and goes on and on about me being the "golden child" and him begging for scraps to anyone who will
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    COLGkenny 1d • NTA. Certified Proctologist [28] She called me a jerk and ran to her room. SHe sounds like she perpetually makes herself the victim no matter what happens. Stick to your guns and go LC with her. She is clearly a toxic person. Reply 1.2k
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    Initial_Dish6682 • 1d Ran to her room?wait how old is she? ← 215
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    Hall Known OP. 1d She is 23 and I am 21. She is living at home, I was visiting for Easter. I live on campus most of the time ... 610
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    stinkyundercarriage • 23h . Let me guess, she's unemployed too 254
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    venturebirdday • 1d . Our family is a sociopathic brother (who was a violent teen drug dealer), a sister who lived under his spell (she was not totally out of control but she was not nice), myself (a very self-contained person), and a younger sister who to this day is kind and gentle. My mother LOVED my little sister. My older siblings still woe about how nice my mom was to her, mind you my mom has been dead for decades, and I reminded them of how evil and cruel they were as teens. YUP, just lik
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    SexualYogurt • 1d NTA, my sister is similar. She totalled three cars in a year and was annoyed that I bought a car off my Aunt because she needed (another) car. She got addicted to cocaine, and was 10k in debt. Parents paid it off, and she threw a fit when my parents helped pay off my student loans. These kinds of people are parasites, only wanting what makes themselves feel better, be that their own success or others misery. Reply 646
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    Hall_Known OP. 1d Oh my sister is in debt, dropped out of college and I think it's like 25k ... ↑ 300
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    NTA EchoMountain158 • 1d Partassipant [1] Every time she pulls this quote one of the chances she blew. "Of course the golden child-" You "hey remember that time mom and dad tried to trust you at the mall alone and we ended up in court because you decided to shop lift?" Reply 384
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    Zafi1013 23h NAH-I think you're missing your sisters perspective, so let me share mine. I was the scapegoat kid, and from the age of 5, I got to see my younger golden child brother treated very differently from me. This only ever fueled my "outbursts." I was regularly pushed to my emotional breaking point by my mom and brother after being taught no emotional regulation. They would wittle away at my patience until I snapped, and then I'd be blamed for my reactions (usually cited as poor behavior/
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    was given were always made very clear that they didn't think I'd prove myself anyway, and I never did. There was always some confrontation or issue that had me feeling hopeless and falling back into my role. I will fully admit I was a pain in the . | stayed out late, skipped school, skipped therapy, threw tantrums, and just in general, by the time I I was 15, I acted like an . I also felt completely alone and like they only looked at me when I did something wrong. Let me be clear: I hated my bro
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    the credit was all mine. My now husband had to calm me down and got us out of there. We went NC with everyone after that, and my brother still says I'm just stubborn and overdramatic for it. Now, my story is not your sisters story, and this may not be the case for you, but I'd be willing to bet that it's similar. You may feel like your sister is a hellion who was given every chance, but she clearly sees this differently. You don't know how your parents speak to her behind closed doors. You can't
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