'Literally no amount of money... would convince me to say yes': Neighbor refuses to compromise on shared fence, regrets it one year later

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Apr 6, 2024 11:00 AM EDT

These neighbors may share a fence, but they certainly aren't friends. They can barely be friendly towards each other! 

You can't choose your neighbors, unfortunately. You may love your home, your yard, and your neighborhood in general, but if you have bad blood with the next-doors, you're never going to be 100% comfortable. There are so many cases of neighbor disputes growing over time to become full-scale feuds. 

No matter how nice you are, there are some people who just can't be reasoned with. They want to be left alone, and they also want to get their way all the time. Compromise? What's that? Nope, it has to be their way or the highway. 

It seems like u/sea0351 and their husband weren't trying to antagonize their neighbors, but they ended up getting into a spat with them anyway. The neighbors had some truly appalling reactions to the people they had brought in to survey their land. The whole time they were working, this crabby neighbor hovered around, trying to get in their faces. He's just looking for a confrontation at that point. 

Next up, this person turned to Reddit for support after their mom botched their birthday, but the message from commenters was loud and clear: "[You're] 30 years old and still acting like an entitled child." 

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    You say no to our fence, we say no to your project. Two years ago my husband and I bought our first house. First on our list was the backyard and removing a laurel bush on the back property line that went 7
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    feet deep and had a chicken wire fence in the back (99% of the roots were on our property). Our yard wasn't big to begin with so we wanted that extra space and so our plan was to remove it and put up a fence that matched the other parts of our property.
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    When I went to notify our neighbors just to be nice (also we weren't asking them to contribute) they were super nice about it and welcomed us into the neighborhood. Two days later we were startled to see the husband neighbor
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    knocking on our back door (trespassing) because he said we didn't answer the front door. He said they didn't agree with the fence after all and that we couldn't cut down the laurels. One of their arguments was that the previous owners didn't
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    mind the laurels (so?). Well my husband and I are both attorneys and decided we weren't going to do the back and forth, we were going to hire a surveyor to come and confirm the property line. Turns out almost all the laurel roots were in fact on our property. So again, we told
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    neighbors we were moving forward with the fence. After seeing the markers they were • My cousin and uncle helped us putting up the fence and and husband neighbor could not have been more standing a foot away from them (on his property) breathing down their necks while they put up the fence.
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    After seeing the markers they were . My cousin and uncle helped us putting up the fence and and husband neighbor could not have been more standing a foot away from them (on his property) breathing down their necks while they put up the fence.
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    Fast forward a year and husband neighbor texts my husband asking to talk. So they meet at the fence. Turns out they have a cedar tree about 7ft in diameter on their property close to the fence that they want to remove but are asking us for the removal to be done from OUR PROPERTY - they need to remove a portion of our FENCE, bring the cherry
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    picker and wood chipper down our driveway to our backyard, and do the entire project on our property because they don't have access to their backyard from the street. Obviously my husband is dumbfounded but still super nice considering the fence drama and says
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    "that's a really big ask" and this neighbor says "why?" And then proceeds to says if we say no then they won't be able to afford the project and then says he's sorry about how the fence situation went and hope we can move forward. LOL. My husband comes and tells
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    me and says he would be willing to say yes if they pay us and sign something saying they are liable for everything stemming from it but I can't stop laughing. Literally no amount of money they would pay would convince me to say yes. So aside from liability
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    factor felt great to say sorry not happening. We received no response and needless to say we still don't have a relationship with them.
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    1quirky1 "Hi there. I was a real to you when you were new to the neighborhood and exercising your property rights. I now need something from you so I'm going to pretend to not be a until I get what I want. Don't worry, I will see your refusal to help as you being the and not a consequence of my behavior."
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    Wisdomofpearl I am petty as but I know better than to be petty with someone I may need a favor from in the future. Apparently your neighbor doesn't know this important life lesson, well maybe now he does.
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    Greenbench27 Glad you said no. My neighbor had a tree removed last year and the tree guys drove a huge piece of machinery through my yard and destroyed my grass. A lot of collateral damage in a tree removal. Not fair to have your yard destroyed for something not done on your behalf.
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