‘He cheated on me… So I stole his mom’: Girlfriend gets boyfriend's mom to side with her after he cheats, they form a mother-daughter-like bond even after the breakup

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    "His mom loved me!"
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    The time my boyfriend chronically lied and cheated on me so I stole his mom. When I was 20-23, I was in my first somewhat-long-term relationship, and my first relationship in which we lived together. It was a bit rocky, we both caused a lot of problems in the relationship, but we finally broke up when I found out my boyfriend had been cheating on me regularly. He had
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    also been lying about working an unpaid internship that would have transitioned to a job, which allowed him to spend hours going out with other women and excused his lack of income, so I was partly supporting him financially along with his mom, who he was also lying to. Even though my relationship with him was never stable, his mom loved me and would often openly take my side when we were fighting. She had four sons and no daughters, and she told me she considered me the daughter she never had.
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    lying was uncovered, it wasn't hard to get her to take my side. She was the person I went crying to, and I told her that this is the sort of thing you cry about to your mom, and since I don't have a relationship with my own mom I was glad she was there for me to talk to. She was, of course, furious with him for lying to us both, effectively scamming us out of our money, and for cheating on me. Even when he complained to her
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    about everything I had done wrong in the relationship, she refused to believe him because in her eyes I could do no wrong. She sat him in front of a computer and made him apply for jobs in front of her, then supervised his job search process the way one might supervise a child cooking for the first time. Once he found a job she made him pay us both back for the money we spent supporting him while he was lying to us.
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    After he had finished paying us back and moved out of her place, she spoke to him rarely and was very clear that she no longer trusted him. She even warned his next girlfriend that he was a cheater (and from what I've since heard, she was right to, as he has apparently cheated on other girlfriends since). She and I remained close until she passed away two years ago. She
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    was one of the maybe three people I've ever felt I could be truly vulnerable with, she was the only person I told about a particularly difficult mental health situation I was going through, and I really did start to see her as a surrogate mother. TL;DR: my boyfriend cheated on me and lied to me and his mother to get us to financially support him. When it was uncovered, I managed to get her to unequivocally take my side, and she remained closer to me than to him for the rest of her life.
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    Zakal74 12h ago • Regardless how a relationship between two people begins, it always has the potential to be something truly special. I'm glad that you were both able to be there for each other. I'm sure she really valued the time you spent together. I hope the wisdom and happiness you brought each other lives on in you for a long time to come! 188 Repl Share
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    CoderJoe1 12h ago • You must be a good person to be so cared for like that by his mom. 186 Rep Share Non3yaBusin3ss • 12h ago Ok for starters I dead as thought something completely different because of the wording of the title. However, I'm so sorry OP for your loss, it's satisfying to have the parent of a former (crappy) partner side with you! 120 Rep Share
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    marmitespider · 11h ago • Well played indeed. Your ex bf was/is a hitty person and he totally deserved it 15 15 ☐ Reply ↑ Share meggles 2h ago • You didn't steal his mom, you found yours. 14 Reply ↑ Share
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    Adorable-Substance21 • 5h ago I mean I remember telling my brother's first serious gf that if they ever broke up I was choosing her... But this is on a while other level. Good job - If you are interested my brother and I see each other as t family events, but if I needed him I could call, and his ex and I are friends on SM and chat every once in a while she is his only unproblematic ex ↑ 4 ↓ Reply ↑ Share
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    Strain Accomplished 95 9h ago • You were lucky to have had each other (your new mom and you I mean) And this isn't petty, you didn't seem to be the major flaw in the relationship + 3 + Reply ↑ Share ... Fine-Wonder-5984 • 37m ago You didn't steal his mom. She chose a healthy relationship over her lying hitbag son. зд Reply ↑ Share
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    Fight_the_status_quo • 2h ago This is hilarious but doesn't seem as uncommon as you'd think. My parents have regularly said that in a divorce my parents would go to bat for my sister in law over my brother → ↑ 2 ♡ Reply ↑ Share

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