‘You need to grow up’: Woman refuses to talk to roommate about apartment issues, gets her mom to text roommate's mom instead

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Apr 22, 2024 5:00 PM EDT

Having your parents solve all of your problems can sure sound like a nice way to avoid everything you don't want to do yourself. We all know how tough mothers can be when it comes to their children, and sometimes it's just easier to let them handle things. But if you are over the age of 20, unfortunately, you are going to have to face your own challenges without your mom by your side. 

The girl in this Reddit story let her mom try and confront her roommate, and it certainly did not make her look like a mature person. OP (original poster), has been living with a roommate for quite some time, and apparently, the roommate has been having issues with the fact that OP's boyfriend comes over to their place. But instead of talking to OP about it like proper adults, she has her mom text OP's mom to try and sort this out.

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    Roommate can't talk to me herself, she has her mom do it.
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    PLEASE READ BEFORE COMMENTING: Ok so I've posted on this subreddit before about my roommate and how she feels like I don't clean enough when the place is pretty much spotless all of the time, except
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    for a few dishes in the sink that I do when I get home from work. There were multiple people on reddit in my comments and in my dms who told me that they think she is
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    trying to manipulate the situation to get me to continue cleaning the place. I stood up to her after months of her having an attitude with me and hardly doing any housework, and after
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    that I got blocked. Since my last post, she hasn't had any issues with the cleanliness of the place. I got a new mop and it does a much better job than the swiffer.
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    In February I met someone and now we are officially dating. He's in college and has a job while I work full time, so the only time we can hang out is in the evenings. He spent the
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    night three nights last week and two nights this week, then he would head home when I left for work. It's not like I can text my roommate and tell her when he's coming over or try to
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    introduce him because I am blocked, but I guess she has an issue with him staying over. Last night, she had her mother text my mom about the situation because for some
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    reason she can't talk to me herself. I was pretty confused because when I got the text he wasn't even at my apartment. When he comes over we stay in my room unless we're cooking, don't hog the shared spaces,
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    and we're not having crazy loud SQ. He even helps me clean the kitchen and living room!! Her mother also mentioned going to management so they can handle this, but our lease says
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    people cannot stay longer than five nights in a row and I have never broken this rule. I personally think it's a bit ridiculous that we're in our 20s and she can't come to me
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    herself, but I wanted to know if I am in the wrong here. I could get it if it was random people every night, or if we were being loud and taking up space in the living room, but literally all we do is watch tv and snuggle.
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    ALSO: last year she would spend the night at this guys place every night because they were hooking up and they weren't even dating. He had two roommates. I don't understand
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    how me having my literal boyfriend over and minding my business is worse than that.
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    mom. I want you to know that that. - very upset. She says new boyfriend had been staying over every night for two weeks and it's making her very uncomfortable. I wish they were able to communicate directly. I don't think any young lady should
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    have to share an apartment with a man she doesn't know. As a mom I would want to know if was doing this. Since I'm not there I directed to talk to management. Please let me know if you want to discuss. I think we can model mature resolutions for them. Thank you and Goodnight
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    Old_Sheepherder_630 · 10 hr. ago If one of my kids asked me to be an intermediary in their roomate conflict I'd say no, then tell them if they can't handle a conversation they should move back home because they are clearly not ready to be a functional adult.
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    Ok-Photo-1972 . 12 hr. ago Block her mom. Don't feed into this . If you know you're not doing anything wrong, then proceed as you have been. If something's truly bothering her she can be an adult and talk to you.
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    icyhotonmynuts. 5 hr. ago I await OPs post when the roommates mom does a surprise visit to ambush OP at her pad.
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    Playful_Original_243 OP · 4 hr. ago I have a big dog so I don't know if that would go too well. She stays locked in my room and I don't leave anything out, so mom wouldn't be able to find anything snitch worthy
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    betproofdenimjckt · 12 hr. ago Tell the mom you WOULD have given your roommate a heads up text if they hadn't blocked you. She clearly doesn't understand the full situation. She's only taking her daughter's side. I've been there best to just get them off the lease and out of the house as soon as possible.
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    ScallionNew5009 · 12 hr. ago unless her mom is paying your roomates rent just do not respond and tt them in person. cut the texting bs cuz clearly they have trouble communicating that way
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    Playful_Original_243 OP · 7 hr. ago She actually does pay my roommates rent lol. My roommate has never had a job and only takes 3 college classes.
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    Shannonahs - 8 hr. ago Have your mom text her mom “a mature resolution would have been these adults talking about it directly, however your daughter blocked mine and they are unable to communicate."
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    Yin379 9 hr. ago Just ignore her.... There's absolutely nothing she can do unless you give her power over your decisions. Give up on trying to understand or make peace. Just ignore
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