Sister evicts brother's family from their family home, wonders if she's wrong: 'Last week him and his family were officially evicted'

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Brad Dickson • Managing Editor
May 9, 2024 10:00 AM EDT

Family dynamics are tough, and when it comes to siblings and cousins—as close as you might be—there's a very good chance that as you grow up you'll grow apart as you find your own path's in life. It's one of the hardest things to experience and leaves a lasting impression on you, but maybe you were better off without them. After all, they're all crazy, but you're not… right? Statistics aren't on your side but surely your apple must have fallen a little further from the tree than the rest of them?

Relationships evolve and family relationships with them, so drifting apart is natural despite it's challenging nature. Like any relationship, letting go of that history, emotional connection and shared experiences is challenging but can also bring relief.

I'm sure all of this is what this sister was feeling when she was pushed to the brink and forced to kick her brother out of her house which he had been living in. He had been repeadely refusing to acknowledge her escalating requests that he move out of the home that she had inherited, and she was finally forced to evict him. Now she has appealed to this online community to see whether or not she was in the wrong for doing so.

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    OTICE OF EVICTION ourt Case "Last week him and his family were officially evicted."
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    AITA for evicting my brother and his family from the house I have inherited so my daughter can live there? I(40f) have a daughter "Caroline" (17f), my brother "Adam" (34m) is married and has 2 kids under the age of 5. Back when I was in my twenties our great grandmother ended up with an illness which required someone to take care of her. This ended up being me as everyone else was busy with their lives
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    and I have only recently graduated from uni back then. Due to this when she passed away I have inherited the house she lived in, which is a small 2 bedroom. I have lived there until I got married and me and my husband ended up moving to a bigger property. About a year later my brother asked if I'm willing to rent it out to him, which I agreed to do, but have warned him I will need it back when Caroline turns 18 (She was 3 at the time) since it is very close to universities and city center. Legal
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    About a year ago I have informed my brother about needing the house back as my daughter is going to be 18 and I would like to have some repairs done before she moves in. My brother ignored me, so I have issued him notice to vacate, which was also ignored. As he continued to ignore me, I had no choice but apply for a court order to evict them,
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    with hearing taking place last month. Last week him and his family were officially evicted. Upon getting into the house I have noticed it I in horrible condition and it would take a few months just to make it somewhat habitable, let alone do redecorating or repairs.
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    I have raised this with my brother since he was meant to look after the house and let me know of any repairs, but this talk ended up in an argument where I was called an for evicting him and his family so my "spoiled" daughter can live by herself and not giving them enough notice (they had just over a year to find something suitable). He also said I have inherited the house by "cheating". My parents are on his side since Adam and his family live with them.
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a①hole: I might be an a hole for evicting my brother and his family from the house I have inherited so my daughter can live there
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    tictactoss 5 hr. ago • NTA. He's lived there for roughly 14-15 years paying substantially below market rent prices, which should have allowed him to save a considerable sum to put towards a home of his own. He clearly chose not to, as he had to move in with your parents. His life choices are not your problem. Regarding the state of the home, did you not visit him over the years and notice the deterioration? Or is there 'revenge' damage caused shortly before they moved?
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    thirdtryisthecharm · 6 hr. ago NTA But I don't know why you're raising the issue of repairs when you evicted him. That sibling relationship is clearly fractured and I don't know what you're expecting to get from any conversation.
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    Accomplished Mango209 OP 5 hr. ago According to the rent agreement he was meant to keep the house in a good condition and inform me if anything needs to be done, so I could get it fixed
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    celticmusebooks 5 hr. ago So, Adam has known he had to move since your daughter was three and now she's seventeen-- so that's a math problem. Math tells us that Adam has known for 14 years that he would have to move out of YOUR house. In what loonytunes world is that not enough notice? Curious, was Adam just lazy and let the house fall into disrepair OR did he trash the house intentionally because you evicted him?
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    Dittoheadforever .5 hr. ago You're NTA. they had just over a year to find something suitable). No, he had 15 years to make a plan. He failed to do so. I hope you sue him for the damage.
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    ReviewOk929 .5 hr. ago NTA - The dude had 15 years to figure this out. The only one acting spoiled is the brother who despoiled your house and got to live under market for 15 years....
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    mika_urmum. 6 hr. ago ΝΤΑ You gave him many warnings and he lived in that house since caroline was 3 so he knew what was happening and chose to ignore it. He got himself into that situation and needs to stop acting entitled and actually listen.
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