Wife Threatens to Move Out After Husband Refuses to Let His Step-Son's Puppy Inside, Man's Marriage Nearly Destroyed By Step-Son's Destructive Demon Doggo

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May 24, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Hey, animal lovers and dog pawrents. We all know that getting a dog is a lot of work, right? At this point, we know that the first year or two is going to be chewed-up shoes, scratches on the furniture, and a few priceless items eaten or ruined. Well, that is what happens when you don't train a dog well. The author of this post is a man who married a woman with a 16-year-old teenager, who decided to adopt a large breed puppy in a small house, not train him, and proceed to let the dog destroy the entire house. Can you guess where this is going next?

Oh, yes. The step-father was not happy about this, so he forbade the puppy from coming inside. That didn't sit well with the son, so he moved out, causing a rip in their new family structure. After years of back and forth, his wife chose her son over her new husband and is preparing to end their marriage. All over an untrained dog! Scroll down to read the whole story below, it's a wild ride.

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  • 01
    for refusing to let my step sons dogs inside...my marriage is falling apart because of this.
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  • 02
    My wife and I have been married for apx 3 years. We had both previously been married before, to other people...my first marriage was 21 years, her's was about 9. We got married after dating for about a year. She had a 16 yo son with her. I had a daughter of about the same age that split time with myself and her mother.
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  • 03
    Anyhow, my new wife and her son moved in and she asks if he can have a dog. I had 2 small dogs with me at the time that I had owned for several years. I assumed he would get a smaller breed dog, considering we had a small house with a small yard and 2 small dogs... Boy, was I in for a surprise.
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    When talking about bringing a new pet into the house, don't you think you should have a lengthy conversation about it? Pets are a big responsibility! There are lots of things to consider, and it doesn't look like they considered any of them.

  • 04
    He goes out and gets a dog that, as a 3 week old, already towers over my 2 dogs. The dog is nothing but . He chews up anything and everything he can get his mouth on. I had a sound system with klipsh speakers and he destroys them. He ate a chunk out of my coffee table, chewed up my $700 rug...it just never ended.
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    Well, that sounds like a puppy to us. When you get a puppy, you have to expect some things to get destroyed - it's what they do best! Maybe stop leaving valuable things outside and then the puppy will have less to chew on.

  • 05
    I was very upset by all of this and even more upset when I caught her son setting his phone up to record me when he left the house...to make sure I wasn't mean to his hound. He would also take it upon hisself to review all footage on my outdoor security system...my wife never said to him about any of it. I finally had enough and told them that the dog is no longer allowed in the house.
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  • 06
    He gets I, moves out and has rarely spoken to me since. He shows up to the house to visit his mom, but makes sure to bring the dogs (he went out and got another dog of the same breed as well) and tells his mom he won't come inside because his dogs aren't allowed inside. Granted, I did make the concession that, while he was over, the dogs could stay in the backyard...not good enough, apparently, as he refuses to do that.
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  • 07
    Now, after years of arguing about this, it has driven me insane and i yelled at my wife...now, that is framed as the reason for our difficulties. She is getting ready to move out as I type this.
    via u/Shadowdrinkerx
  • 08
    Distant Nomad 17 hr. ago • If your marriage is falling apart bc of a dog....then it's doomed already.
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  • 09
    JustehGirl 15 hr. ago It's not about the dog. It's about OP and step's relationship and who's side mom/wife is taking. The dogs are just the physical representation of that.
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  • 10
    Quiet_Village_1425 17 hr. ago Just divorce.
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  • 11
    Ok_Play2364 17 hr. ago Let her move out.
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  • 12
    RoyIbex 16 hr. ago You DIDN'T discuss what breed of dog a 16yo could get, you just assumed he would understand that you would want him to get a small breed? I have to wonder why your SS felt that he needed to hide his phone when he left to make sure you didn't "mistreat” his dog. If your wife is packing up to move out right now it's probably best to cut your losses and go your separate ways. ESH.
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  • 13
    MelodicScream · 16 hr. ago eh. Youre gonna get a lot of nt a, but I feel like theres more going on here. You agreed to them getting a dog; did you have any kind of conversation about breed? size? anything like that? If not, then its unfair to be so annoyed that they got a larger breed.
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  • 14
    Puppies destroy things. At three weeks, they shouldnt even be seperated from their parents, but lets say the dog is instead somewhere between three weeks and three months, theyre a baby. Puppies get into things and wreck them, and training takes time and effort. Granted, step son (or his mother who let him get the dog, especially if he was 16 at the time) should be stepping up and covering damages, but destroying things at that age is pretty normal even with a good training schedule.
    via u/MelodicScream
  • 15
    The main thing that concerns me here, and the main reason i cant agree with the nt a votes is quite simply... no one goes to the effort of setting up their phone to record someone, and reviewing hours of security system footage, all to make sure their dog isnt being mistreated unless they have reason to believe you were going to mistreat the dog. Considering
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  • 16
    your open and outspoken dislike of the animal, I get the strongest feeling that you have done, or at the very least said that you would do, something to the puppy. Based on your comments here it really wouldnt surprise me.
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  • 17
    This all seems to come down to a massive lack of communication between you and your wife - especially if he I was 16 when this all started, it is entirely unfair to throw the whole thing onto him. You should have had an actual conversation about the dog. before they got it. Breeds, sizes, who would be responsible for care, training, damages, vet bills, etc. What would happen if the dog didnt get on with the animals already in the household. These are incredibly important conversations to have be
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  • 18
    There also seems to be much larger problems between you and your wife. You consider the house and everything in it to be solely yours. Your wife doesnt seem willing to mediate between you and your stepson.
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  • 19
    For your stepson, it seems like this is about much more than the dogs. How long had you known him before everything with the dogs happened? What steps did you take to talking to him about the dogs before just kicking them out? It seems like he sees your respect for the dogs as an extension of your respect of him. You say hes rarely spoken to you since everything happened, but have you made any attempts to talk to him?
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  • 20
    I always do my best to look at all the sides in these. This whole situation seems like a massive mess that could have easily been avoided with basic communication at the start. I have to say ESH
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  • 21
    Crazy_Mixture3651 15 hr. ago Why did he feel the need to record you or check cameras? Did you lose your cool with the dog?
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  • 22
    Glass_Status_5837 13 hr. ago This entire dynamic sounds exhausting. Getting married after knowing one another only a year when you have teenagers is already going to cause tension with the kids.
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  • 23
    You didn't have a discussion with your stepson about expectations when it came to breed, size, training, temperament etc. Large breed dogs are often working dogs. I have a border collie/Husky that is well over 100 lbs. He's an extremely high energy dog that needs a lot of engagement. He has to be confined when we aren't hone and Co stant training. Working breed dogs have to be constantly reminded who their alpha/master is.
    via u/Glass_Status_5837
  • 24
    Without solid, constant training, these dogs become bored and a bored, high energy dog is a destructive dog. That is why so many of them end up in shelters. You are partially at fault here. When he asked if he could have a dog, you and your wife should have sat down and had a discussion. And you could have used that opportunity to set your boundaries. That the dog needs to be a smaller, lower maintenance breed due to the size of the house and yard.
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  • 25
    Your son failed to train the dog, including obedience and crate training. Young puppies are destructive the first 6 months. They are babies, no different from a human baby or toddler. Babies put things in their mouths, they get into things, they break things. That's why you keep your valuables where they can't get at them.
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  • 26
    You state that your stepson was checking your security footage. Given your absolutely seething description of this dog, I have a hard time believing that he didn't have a reason to check the footage. This was a monumental breakdown of basic communication. And why it is such a bad idea to make rash decisions to combine families before you have gotten to know one another.
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  • 27
    You let this go on far too long. You alienated your stepson. She may be your wife but she is a mother first. She's going to side with her son, lest she never see him again.
    via u/Glass_Status_5837
  • 28
    blue_moon_68 · 17 hr. ago Just get a divorce. Marriage is a joint venture. It sounds like this venture was 'hers' or 'yours' from the get go.
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  • 29
    Flimsy-Field-8321 17 hr. ago You either got the dog's age wrong, or this story is complete 1. 3 week old puppies, no matter how large the breed are still little babies and can not be separated from their moms. They are not able to destroy speakers, coffee tables, etc. They are still nursing tiny babies! I vote for this story is poorly done creative writing.
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  • 30
    HalloweensQueen 13 hr. ago • What's bizarre is people can marry but not communicate. When asked if he can get a dog, nothing else was discussed? Never had more convos on the son's behavior and his dog?
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  • 31
    miyuki_m 17 hr. ago. edited 16 hr. ago It's not about the dog. It's about the lack of respect and the fact that your wife and stepson didn't take steps to correct the dog's destructive behavior.
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  • 32
    NTA. Your wife needed to manage this situation with her son, and she failed to do so. I'm guessing there are other issues that have come up concerning his behavior and those weren't addressed either. If she would rather divorce than deal with her son's ☐ attitude, there really isn't much you can do. The dog needed to be trained or crated so it wouldn't destroy the house. If your stepson can't do that, he can't have the dog in the house. Pets are a big responsibility, and he needs to step up.
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