Unemployed 24-year-old refuses her brother's offer for a $1K Disney vacation because he asked her to babysit his kids for a few nights: 'She said we're trying to take advantage of her'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
May 23, 2024 8:00 PM EDT

Being an adult isn't a walk in the park. Sometimes, you're down on your luck, which significantly limits the amount of fun you can have. I've never gotten that "Your unemployed friend at 2 PM on a Monday" meme because if I were unemployed, I would be in the library day in and day out applying to jobs and freaking out about being a stain on society. Not everyone who's unemployed has the unhealthy mentality I've got. Some people swing on the other side of the pendulum, sitting pretty, no matter how unemployed they are. That's the case with the woman at the center of this story, an unemployed 24-year-old who asked for and later refused a Disney vacation from her brother. He offered to pay the $1K for her to tag along with him, his family, and his sister-in-law's family if she would babysit their kids for a few nights of vacation. She declined and was outright offended by the offer, a reaction that many Redditors found ridiculous. 

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  • 01
    AITAH for only letting my sister tag along our Disney vacation if she babysits some nights?
    via u/Numerous_Bar9747
  • 02
    Im married with a 4 and a 6 year old. I have a sister who is 24. She graduated from college and got a decent first job but got laid off about a year ago and has been living with my parents since. I think she may have had some service industry jobs here and there but generally hasnt worked much in the last year. My wife and I have good jobs but try to be relatively frugal because kids are expensive.
    via u/Numerous_Bar9747
  • 03
    My wife and I are planning a trip to Disney with my SIL (wife's sister) and her husband, and their 5 year old. My wife and her sister are very close and her husband and I are decently good friends these days.
    via u/Numerous_Bar9747
  • 04
    My sister heard about this trip and is really clammoring to go with us. We never went to Disney growing up and she said she's wanted to go forever and really wants to go with us and the kids. She however would not be able to pay her way for the flight/ticket/ and all that. We'd expect to sponsor her it
    via u/Numerous_Bar9747
  • 05
    would all in all cost us about 1k. My wife and I talked about it and decided it would be worth it to us if she would help babysit some of the nights so we could have some just adult time. So we offered her this, thinking it was generous but a win win for all of us.
    via u/Numerous_Bar9747
  • 06
    Long story short she felt otherwise and said were trying to take advantage of her and treat her as a nanny not family. I think this is kinda ridiculous as she's not my kid so in my mind there's not reason to pay for her just because if she's not doing anything to be helpful. Would like some feedback from neutral parties if Im asking too much.
    via u/Numerous_Bar9747
  • 07
    MissSuzieSunshine Oh wow, Nope NTA She doesnt have the ability to fund her own trip and to expect you (not her parents) to fund her trip (when she is the one who has asked to go with you, you didnt invite her) for free is pretty ballsy.
    via u/MissSuzieSunshine
  • 08
    Asking her to 'pay her way' by babysitting a couple of nights is very generous imho. You said it would cost you about $1k to add her, she would need to babysit the 3 kids for minimum 6 hours each night for 5 nights to make that amount. (= $11/child/hour for 6 hours x 5 nights or $200/night x 5 nights).
    via u/MissSuzieSunshine
  • 09
    Yeah, I wouldnt take her for any reason, now, due to her entitlement.
    via u/MissSuzieSunshine
  • 10
    Present-Let-4020 - 23 hr. ago Not in disagreement but 11$ an hour to watch kids is a sweetheart deal if I've ever heard one. Maybe if the babysitter was 12 but even then.
    via u/Present-Let-4020
  • 11
    throwraW2. 11 a child per hour, not total. Its a great Ideal for the sister.
    via u/throwraW2
  • 12
    BaitedBreaths From the perspective of the parents, if my 24-year-old daughter had been unemployed and living with me for a year I'd make her stay home and apply for jobs. She wouldn't get to go traipsing off to Disney World on her brother's dime.
    via u/BaitedBreaths
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    Wandering_aimlessly9 Nta. If she really wants to go with no strings attached she can pay her own way. Problem solved. You're offering to pay in exchange for maybe 10-15 hours of free time. That's like she's making $65-100 an hour. She's spoiled. That's why she doesn't have a job and can't keep one. Your parents created this mess. They can pay for her to go to Disney.
    via u/Wandering_aimlessly9
  • 14
    TemptingPenguin369 NTA. If I were unemployed, I'd take that deal in a heartbeat! Imagine being an unemployed 24-year-old and thinking another adult should treat you to a Disney trip.
    via u/TemptingPenguin369
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    NotCreative AtAll16 NTA. If you have to pay her way, then she can help out or not come. She doesn't deserve a vacation "because family".
    via u/NotCreativeAtAll16
  • 16
    thehighepopt Yeah, free vacation is your parent's job, not your sibling's. I'm going through this with my brother who doesn't get he's a guest in my house.
    via u/thehighepopt
  • 17
    un-affiliated At 24 years old, a free vacation isn't even a parent's job any more. I will absolutely allow my child to live with me after college if it helps her get started in her career, but I won't be treating her to expensive vacations unless I win the lottery or something.
    via u/un-affiliated
  • 18
    DoIwantToKnow6417 NTA And please take the offer off the table.
    via u/DoIwantToKnow6417
  • 19
    grapefruitviolin Ya... it could end up a disaster for them, she's not quite mature enough for this offer sadly. Disney is not cheap these days and I wouldn't want their trip to be ruined.
    via u/grapefruitviolin
  • 20
    DragonScrivner Dude, NTA. Your sister is living on a different planet if she used words like "taking advantage of" when speaking to people she expects to give her a free trip for no reason at all Wowwwww lol
    via u/DragonScrivner
  • 21
    nonlinear_nyc "you're treating me like I treat others"
    via u/nonlinear_nyc
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