'This isn't a family reunion, it's my wedding': Bride Takes Off to Her Honeymoon, ‘Abandoning’ Parents at Resort After Wedding

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    "You can't invite these people, mom... I'm leaving."
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    AITA for abandoning my family at an all inclusive after my wedding?
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    We had our wedding at an all inclusive. It was beautiful and since we were having a small wedding it was cheaper than having a big wedding in town. We chose one with very inexpensive flights and subsidized any guest who wanted to come but might have trouble covering the cost. We had 50 guests.
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    The plan was for everyone to come down before the wedding, spend a few days enjoying the sun, and then celebrate with us. My mother got it into her head that this should be a family reunion. She didn't want my new husband's family there so her plan was to contact our side of the family and tell them to shift their reservations so that they would be coming later and staying after the wedding. She also invited other people for after the wedding.
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    As long as they were part of my wedding block that was allowed by the hotel. We actually got a little kickback from a few that overlapped my wedding day. Anyway my mom didn't inform me. But the hotel did because some of the extras wanted the group price even though they weren't going to be there until after the wedding.
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    Anyway my mom didn't inform me. But the hotel did because some of the extras wanted the group price even though they weren't going to be there until after the wedding. I was upset but my mom goes into hysterics if confronted. My husband and I decided to just roll with it.
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    The wedding and reception went beautifully. The day following the wedding I ran into sine family that I had not invited. For a reason. However we ran into them in the lobby on our way to the Airport. My husband and I decided not to have our honeymoon at that resort. Instead we flew to one on the other side of the country. Goodbye Caribbean hello Pacific.
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    My mom blew up my phone wondering where we were. I told her we went on our honeymoon in Baja California. She lost her shot. She had told everyone that I was cool with the plan. I missed the hysterics which I appreciated.
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    She is still upset and said I was ungrateful and childish after all she did. I bit my tongue instead of yelling at her for inviting people I dislike to my wedding. And on my honeymoon.
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    Worth-Season3645 20 hr. ago edited 6 hr. ago Professor Emerits [80] NTA...but I think you need to grow a spine and stop letting your mom have her way because you don't want to deal with her hysterics. Start setting your boundaries. And figure out ways to deal if she gets hysterical. Walk away, just give her the stare or tell you will not listen to her. Next time do not bite your tongue. Because if you do not nip in the bud now, just imagine what life will be like if you decide to have kids somed
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    Facetunethis 17 hr. ago Colo-r Surgeon [30] I don't know if you've had a high conflict mother but sometimes what the OP did is all you can do. Her mother would have ruined her wedding before letting her "get away with this" if she had any forewarning at all. 5.9k Reply Share ... jackieblueideas. 17 hr. ago I mean, she did a pretty big walk away. 2.5k Reply Share
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    dart1126 18 hr. ago Supreme Court Just NTA [100] Anyway my mom didn't inform me Haha, well, too bad for her. She tried to hijack her own daughters wedding for her own agenda/ event. How can she be mad that when you didn't 'know' (as far as she was concerned by deliberately not telling you) about her plans, that you went on a honeymoon somewhere else? Good for you. Your mom sounds like a piece of work and I'm glad you started your married life showing her it's not flying...but, you are. 2.8k Repl
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    fishfountain 17 hr. ago Good for you. Your mom sounds like a piece of work and I'm glad you started your married life showing her it's not flying...but, you are. Yes, I love how you handled this OP Your mum. Didn't inform, expected you to not be told and then just roll with her "better" plan. I love how you left them there. There is absolutely no way she could have expected or spun her way out of it. 551 Reply Share
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    RawChicken Parta Bipant [1] 18 hr. ago NTA... Frankly I would cut her out of your life for like 6 months and make sure she knows why. 608 Reply Share
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    Marzipan_civil. 18 hr. ago Parta sipant [2] Nta. She told all these people that you were cool with it... When she knew you wouldn't be, or she would have told you. 390 Reply Share
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    Legal-Lingonberry577 17 hr. ago Parta ipant [2] NTA - going on your honeymoon is not abandoning your family. Your mother is completely out of line for hijacking your wedding for her own benefit. 296 Reply Share
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    Agreeable_Ad7002. 17 hr. ago NTA - Your mum sounds like a nightmare, you avoided a boatload of drama leading up to your wedding and the day itself and your mum effed around and found out. I say well played. 147 Reply Share
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    KingsRansom79. 17 hr. ago A mole Enthusiast [7] NTA. This is exactly how you handle parents like this. She tried to hijack your wedding and ended up embarrassing herself. Brilliant 126 Reply Share
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    Alarmed Bechamel · 17 hr. ago Part sipant [2] LOL - NTA but, I think OP knows that and just needs validation. Who on earth thinks that a couple wants to spend their honeymoon at a reunion? At best the couple could have stayed for a breakfast or lunch the day after but, Mom didn't communicate or ask. 68 Reply Share
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    Glass_Ear_8049. 17 hr. ago NTA and don't listen to the comments that say you are. Your mother sit herself up by trying to orchestrate YOUR honeymoon. What an intrusive witch. You did a wonderful job of letting her do her thing and not letting it disrupt your life. 22 Reply Share

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