'You're a good daughter ': Bride expertly handles a difficult parent during wedding planning, creating a shining example of pacifism in the face of a 'Monster-of-the-Bride'

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    "Monster of the Bride"
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    Monster of the Bride- insanity confirmed Monster-in-Law My mom is wild. I love her and will do anything for her, that being said I don't like her all that much. We've
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    had a very challenging relationship and I'm the only family member who isn't no contact because I have a crippling fear of guilt when she's no longer around. That being said- here's what's happened so far. Wedding is in two weeks!!
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    -refused to go dress shopping with me because my step mom would be there (step mom and dad paid for the dress, have been married 7 years, mom and dad
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    have been divorced for nearly 20). Then threw a fit that I went without her after she said she wouldn't travel across the country to go-totally reasonable I couldn't afford to do that either!
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    -spent my entire bridal shower telling anyone who would listen about the dirty details of her version of the divorce
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    -pretended she didn't know who my step mom was when she saw bridal shower guest list and then was annoyed step mom was present (step mom and dad also paid for bridal shower)
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    -told me she hates parties and is only going for me and FH and is glad she won't have to talk to anyone. Our friends are EXTREMELY outgoing and kind and will find people who seem
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    like they feel uncomfortable and try to make them feel included. Great people, really scared she's gonna just not respond OR tell them more about her divorce
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    -excitedly told me she bought a nice white jacket and matching white pearled sandals for the rehearsal. I truly don't care about this one bc I'm not wearing white and everyone will be paying attention to my FH and myself, but I told her not to buy a white
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    or off white dress for the wedding (she showed me several) and find it ☐ hilarious that she's pretending to not know it's a little bit of a faux pas. just needed to yell about it into the void for a second thanks for your cooperation
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    katekohli 16h ago You are a good daughter. Hope that your mother is cross the country from you most of the time.
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    KelliCrackel 5 hr. ago Totally rooting for your wedding to be everything you and your spouse want. Good luck and congrats. I'm sure it will be lovely.
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    whoopiedo 16 hr. ago Oh wow! Just remember that she chooses her own behaviour and therefore chooses any consequences. Any embarrassment she causes will not reflect on you so much as on herself.
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    You don't have to go no contact, that can be difficult. But you can set hard boundaries and put her in her place as often as possible.
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    Minimum State 7256 OP. 12 hr. ago Oh Man I wish I could put into words how wonderful all of my friends, my in laws, and my best friends parents are being about jumping in to keep her occupied/entertained
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    PollyinWA 16 hr. ago You cannot control other people. You can only control yourself. I'm sure most of your friends and family know your mother is rather eccentric and
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    emotionally fragile and won't expect anything less from her. It's been my experience events never go the way we think they will, good OR bad. Ironically, the things that do
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    go sideways at weddings make for the best memories. Your father and stepmother sound like a dream! I truly wish you all the best on your wedding day! ♥**
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    grrlsmom 15 hr. ago Please let us know how the wedding and reception go. Hopefully, there will be nothing except a white dress!
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    Vegetable_Parsley275 9 hr. ago Maybe you could hire a sweet older -perhaps hard of hearing- gentleman acquaintance to occupy some of her time and attention during your wedding festivities. She will have an audience for her antics
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    Frosty_Chipmunk_3928 6 hr. ago My mom is a lot like yours. You need wranglers. Ask a couple of friends to keep mom 'busy' on the day. She will love the attention, and (hopefully) be distracted for wedding.
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    Begs-2-Differ-7GA - 15 hr. ago Mom needs a boyfriend. Trust me. од Reply Share Minimum State 7256 OP. 13 hr. ago She sure does

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