'I don’t believe he’s my son’: Man Makes His Wife Get a Paternity Test and Is Enraged When She Brings Up His Previous Affair

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    r/AITAH 16 hr. ago Paternity ThrowRA AITA for insulting my husband after he asked for a paternity test and suggested I cheated?
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    I, 25F, just had my first child with my husband, 29M, of four years. He is white and I am mixed race but very white passing. I was raised by my adoptive parents, however, I have reconnected with my biological paternal family. My biological mother was white and I look a lot like her. My biological father, whom I call my ataata, is Inuit, and we look very little alike,
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    but we are getting closer emotionally. My son looks so much like my ataata and I cried when I saw him for the first time. He has darker skin than my husband and I but he has my husband's eyes and nose. After he was born, my husband was cold and distant, he wouldn't hold our son, he
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    wouldn't show me affection. Even when my ataata came over and I took a bunch of pictures of grandfather and grandson my husband refused to connect with our son.
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    He demanded a paternity test a few weeks ago. I was upset but complied. He is the father, as | knew he was. I told him that I was a prime example of not looking like my biological father and that I felt he was an idiot for suggesting I was cheating.
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    He shot back with: "Well how do I know the man you bring around is actually your dad and not your affair partner?" Yes, he insinuated I lied about my ataata being my dad and that I was sleeping with him.
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    I regret saying it because I had promised to leave it behind, but I said, "Well then say hello to "Sarah" for me." Sarah is the woman my husband had an affair with two years ago. He broke it off and we reconciled but I feel like it was rich of him to accuse me of cheating when he was the one who cheated in the first place.
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    He called me an for bringing it up and now we're not speaking and I've moved into the nursery. I'm considering divorce but also thinking about my words, which were hurtful and uncalled for. AITA?
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    Edit: a clarification and definition. Ataata means dad/father in Inuktitut.
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    Impossible_Ask_3... • 16h ago NTA, how is you bringing up something that actually happened worse than him implying your father was your affair partner and possibly the father of his child? That's disgusting. I'm not sure I could come back from that
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    Efficient-Spinach... • 16h ago Sounds like projecting
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    • Cursd818 16h ago ΝΤΑ This monster accused you of having an affair, defrauding him, and then finally, All while he has previously cheated on you. Why on earth are you even considering speaking to someone so despicable? Get
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    him out of your life at once. He's vile!
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    IllustratorSlow16... • 16h ago ΝΤΑ He is pulling this on you because he's an unreformed, unrepentant cheater himself. I would start digging because I doubt his affairs ever truly ended.
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    Your words were very called for. Your husband is an who accused you of cheating on him with your own biological father All you did was remind him of his very real sins and that you have done nothing wrong.
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    D.. 15h ago Edited 14h ago NTA. How on earth were your words "hurtful and uncalled for?" He IS an idiot. He IS a cheater. And he's an abusive schmuck. Dump him.
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    And he's an abusive schmuck. Dump him.
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    Whereas Majestic... • 16h ago NTA I'd be checking his phone if I were you, he's probably cheating still.
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    Madrugada2010 • 16h ago NTA. He assumes you sleep around because he still does.
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    Top-Bit85 16h ago Your words were hurtful? How? Because he doesn't like you reminding him he cheated? While he accuses you of cheating, in a particularly disgusting way.. What a hypocrite.
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    I'd be out of there. I could never stand to be with him again. I'm sorry OP.

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