‘I’m not going to help with the baby if you keep criticizing me’: Controlling Man Puts His Foot Down When His Pregnant Girlfriend Tries to Give Advice on Their Baby, Resulting in Their Breakup

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 11, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the universe. When it comes to dating and marriage, there are some commandments that stand true for any healthy relationship. Without these fundamentals, there's no use striving for the relationship to stay and be healthy. Let's discuss some of them: honesty, communication, respect, and consideration, just to name a few. 

Honesty: the ability and desire to be loyal to your partner behind their back, as well as to their face is crucial for a stable and healthy relationship. You both should feel comfortable sharing how you feel. Communication: being able to openly (and honestly) share your feelings without judgment, shame, or fighting is also a testament to long-term love. If someone feels verbally suppressed, the relationship will fail. Respect: genuinely respecting your partner is key. This means wanting the best for them, and seeing them in a good light. Consideration is the last one, it means you think about them when they're not around, you live your life as a unit, not as an individual. Now read this Reddit thread where a man-child possesses none of these qualities. 

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    r/AITAH 6 days ago Jumpy_Cause_3307 WIBTA if I decide to leave because my partner doesn't want to help with our baby?
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    I am 22F and I am currently 32 weeks pregnant. I am in a relationship and have been dating my partner for 4 years.
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    Today my partner and I were talking about the baby and he was saying that if I am going to nit pick at everything he does with the baby like I have with our dog (he now says that the dog is mine because I didn't let him discipline the dog how he saw fit) then he will give me one warning then after that he will become a couch potato and said he will
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    have nothing to do with the baby if I don't let him do things the way he wants to. I don't want to come across as nit picking or anything but I'm afraid if he's feeding the baby, for example, and I can see it would be better if he lifted the baby's head or was to do something differently that he would perceive
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    that as nit picking and then just give up on us. I almost feel like I have to walk on eggshells because I don't want to accidentally say the wrong thing and set him off. I feel like if he did become a couch potato and did nothing to help out then I would want to
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    take the baby and leave this relationship. But, the thought of doing that makes me feel incredibly guilty. We also own a house together too.
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    TLDR - my boyfriend said that if I nit pick at everything he does. with the baby, and I don't allow him to parent the way he wants, he will become a couch potato and have nothing to do with the baby.
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    two_lemons • 6d ago he will give me one warning then after that he will become a couch potato Ok, so just tell him that if he becomes a couch potato, you'll give him one warning or else you'll replace him
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    with an actual potato? If he has been violently disciplining the dog, save time and just leave.
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    • mangobunnybear 6d ago. NTA from what you say in the replies it sounds like your partner doesn't like that you've pointed out his literal animal abuse. Throwing the dog and physically forcing the dog's head into a hole is not discipline it's abuse full stop.
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    Does your partner think hitting children is ok? If so I would leave him and go for full custody. Try to get him to admit in some form of media that he abused animals and you might have a leg to stand on. Maybe write a list highlighting things that you won't stand
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    for when it comes to raising the child (ie rough discipline, going against doctors orders, things that put the childs life in danger) and if he doesn't agree leave. Show the courts that he didn't agree with keeping the child healthy and his parenting would put the
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    child in danger, neglect (refusing to raise the child) and abuse (rough discipline). I left my abusive ex when he was in prison for unspeakable crimes and when he tried to file for custody his lawyer laughed at him, good luck op.
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    Either Warning3793 • 6d ago Wow, not even born yet and he's already fishing for excuses to let the wife do all the work.
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    celticmusebooks • 6d ago SPOILER ALERT: He's telling you that he's not going to help with the baby. He'll simply intentionally do something bad for your child to provoke you into "nit picking" him and then he'll stop helping. There's a reason a 30 year old man is
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    with a 22 year old woman-- more mature women won't put up with his immature bs. Confront this now. Tell him that if he's doing something that goes against the doctor's advice you absolutely WILL tell him and if that turns him into a
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    couch potato he can move out and pay child support.
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    bythebrook88 • 6d ago Why did you decide to have a child with a man, when you can't even agree together on how to raise a dog? Did you think a child would be easier?
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    Sweedybut ⚫6d ago Ok girl, here's what you need to hear: If he throws a dog around for digging a hole, how long do you think he'll go with a crying baby?
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    Your husband is threatening to either be aggressive or a deadbeat. Again for the people in the back: HE THROWS ANIMALS AROUND.
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    A baby can't be thrown/shaken more than once!! And he expects you to shut up about it??
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    Secondly: he wants you to become a stay at home mom!! This is financial and physical abuse in the making. You are going to have NOTHING and NOWHERE to go to once you give up your job and he is in control of the money. Get tf out, this is a narcissistic and abusive pattern.
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    theworldisonfire8... • 6d ago Him: I'd rather ignore and neglect my own child than be subjected to any constructive criticism, even if I'm in the wrong. What a loser.
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    Please don't be one of those women who put up with an oversized manchild who keeps you around as his bangmaid while you do all the domestic work and he thinks he's perfectly entitled to sit back on his and do nothing because "a woman won't tell me what to do".
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    Sit him down and tell him that you are giving him "one warning" to step up and parent or you're leaving because you can't subject you or the baby to a pathetic excuse of a father who thinks his ego is more important than the care of
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    his own child. Then you get to decide if he can redeem himself or if it's better you just go. NTA but you will be to yourself and your baby if you put up with that nonsense.
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