Bridesmaid drops out 1 week before the wedding, claims she's in love with the best man that she's never met: 'She believed they would get to know each other and wed in the next couple of months'

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    r/weddingshaming • 2 days ago Throwaway_995675 Crazy bridesmaid drops out 1 week before the wedding, then claims she's in love with the groom's best man based on his online pictures and stalks him
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    My (24 F then) )university colleague, Abi (fake names, 24F at the time), and I were supposed to be bridesmaids for our closest friend from uni, Mel (24F then). Mel invited us six or seven months in advance, and we gladly accepted. It's important to note that this was ten years ago when no one in our country used Instagram (we're in Europe), dating sites were solely for hookups, and none of us had a high standard of living. We were
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    students living with our parents. Abi was the type who'd fall in love with someone at first sight and then spend months writing melodramatic Facebook statuses about the pain of unrequited love and how men don't appreciate the kind of woman they could have. She was generally a good friend and part of the group, but we all knew she was strange due to her erratic behavior and "fights" with girls from university who had
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    "stolen her man," even though they had never met her. Now, onto the wedding. The problems began as soon as we agreed to be bridesmaids. Mel is the type of a person who would do anything to make others comfortable, and although she was very excited about her wedding, she didn't ask for much from us. She asked us to buy dresses she had chosen (which literally cost $20 at the time) from a market and
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    wanted us to have white shoes of our choice. That was it! When we started planning the bachelorette party with 15-16 girls, we agreed on how much everyone would contribute. For one reason or another, we had to pay $1-2 more than the amount a couple of times (for cake, decorations, etc.). In the end, a week before the wedding and five days before the bachelorette party, Abi went into a meltdown in our group chat, explaining how she couldn't afford these endless expenses and
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    couldn't keep paying more and more money (I'm not exaggerating about the amounts; this was long ago, and we live in a country with a low standard of living, but even here, this is literally coffee money). Nothing helped, and in the end, Mel was left without a bridesmaid seven days before the wedding, but to avoid drama, she still wanted Abi to attend. Mel found a new bridesmaid at the last minute, and everything seemed fine. If only I knew...
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    Since we knew each other, we had to travel together with Abi and two other girls to the wedding (it was in another city, and Mel even covered our accommodations!). Throughout the hour-and-a-half journey, Abi didn't stop talking about how she was in love with one of the best men (John, 25ish M then) because she had checked out his Facebook profile and decided he was the man for her. She believed they would get to know each other and wed in the next couple of months ONLY BASED ON HIS PICTURES. We
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    laughed because we didn't think she was serious. When the ceremony ended, we all settled at our tables. Abi and I were seated right next to the groomsman's table. For two hours, she kept asking me to figure out a way for her to meet John. She hadnt spoken a word to him in the last 5 hours of the ceremony. Finally, I suggested we simply walk past him and I'd use my position as a bridesmaid to start a conversation and subtly include her before
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    walking away. She loved the plan and was very enthusiastic. She spent 10 minutes gathering the courage and finally told me she was ready to meet John. I said okay, but you know how when you mention someone's name multiple times, they start looking your way. As John started to stare at us, I told her to go, smiled at him so he'd know we were coming over (our seats were such that she was facing away from him). The moment I stood up, Abi didn't move! I was
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    left in the incredibly awkward situation of going over to greet him, introducing myself, and heading to the DJ as if I was coordinating something. It was absurdly embarrassing, and our interaction lasted all of 15 seconds. When I returned to the table, Abi was furious and started yelling at me, "You're just like everyone else; I knew you'd steal him from me. How could you introduce yourself to him?!". I literally blinked at her, not knowing what to say. In the
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    end, I told her to calm down, that she insisted on this nonsense because she couldn't muster the courage to introduce herself, and that I didn't care about John at all (I was seeing someone at the time). For the rest of the evening, Abi didn't speak to me and glared at everyone. Around 4 AM, we returned to our shared room, but some of the others were gathering for an after-party. I was exhausted and told her to go ahead, and I
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    swiftly fell asleep. In the morning, I woke up to the news that someone had been sending melodramatic messages to John all night from a hidden profile! I later found out that Abi had frantically searched for his number, lied about why she needed it, and then spammed him with messages like, "You could have had a real woman, but you chose a dumb blonde," presumably referring to me. Just a note, I have a PhD, and I didn't exchange a single word with John after the
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    unfortunate introduction. The drama was complete, so we all decided to cut ties with her, thinking this would be it. But it wasn't... Three days after returning to our city, Mel called me shocked: "Someone made a profile of John on a gay /dating site, and now his phone is getting flooded with calls!" At first, I couldn't believe what I was hearing, and we started investigating. This profile had all his Facebook pictures, his
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    phone number, and the description read, "I'm only interested in looks because I'm incredibly superficial and settle for very little." Guess who was behind the profile. After the last stunt, John had to change his number, and Abi is still posting dramatic comments online to this day (so I've heard from mutual acquaintances; she blocked me long ago).
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