Maid of Honor Skips Wedding to Stand By Her Husband, Who Was Not Invited to the Wedding Because of His Height

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    AITA for refusing to attend a wedding when my husband is not welcome there? CONCLUDED
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    I am not The OOP, OOP is u/aita throawayacc AITA for refusing to attend a wedding when my husband is not welcome there?
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    My (30f) friend (31f) is getting married in August. She invited me and my husband to the wedding already in October when she got engaged. I was asked to be her maid of honor. She didn't have the date imidiately as she wasn't sure how it will be with COVID and now she has the date and she told me she thinks it would be better if my husband didn't come.
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    I asked her why and she didn't want to tell me at first but then she said it is because he is shorten then me and it would look weird on pictures. He has around 165 cm (5 feet 4.961 inches) while I have 166cm (5 feet 5.354 inches). I think the difference is not that big and I offered I woudn't wear heels but she said I must wear them cause I am the maid od honor and bridesmaid will wear heels as well.
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    I said that if my husband is not invited because of his hight I am not coming to her wedding. She said that the day is about her and not about me and my husband and I should respect her wishes about her day. She said that she counts with me as with the maid of honor and I can't do this to her. I told her she is being shallow and that it is either me and my husband or none of us.
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    I talk about it with my husband and he think I am not the and actually would think it would be bad of me to agree with my friend, however he doesn't like her that much (she doesn't know that so it couldn't play a role in it). So I am not sure if his opinion is really objective.
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    I asked my friend and she said I am the cause it is just one day and it is about the bride so I shouldn't make a drama out of it. So perhaps I am because I am focusing on me being there with my husband and not at what the bride wants? the
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    RELEVANT COMMENTS zukolover96 NTA. Are you sure this is actually about the height? Does she have any issues with your husband? OOP Well it is true she used to say he is not good enough for me cause of his interests and look but that was a long time ago. They are not friends but they are not mean to each other or anything.
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    IbeatSARS2x | NTA I can't believe she is demanding this request of you. She is being 100% ridiculous and this is 100% disappointing in her character. Hopefully this is not normal behavior for her because I would question our relationship and she will apologize. Do not move forward with any wedding festivities. Politely and firmly stand your ground. It would be wrong of you to attend, especially as the MOH role without your husband. OOP She was always a bit petty but she never actually demanded a
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    [deleted] NTA and I would completely ditch this person as a friend. OOP We have known each other for a very long time so I don't want to end the friendship but I think that she won't forgive me if I won't come to the wedding.
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    Sure-Peach5391 NTA. And she definitely is. Being asked to be her maid of honor implies you are good or close friends and asking a close friend to exclude - their SO because of something as superficial and disrespectful as this is rude, hurtful and not something a good friend does. Had she expressed that she wished he maybe not be included in some pictures, sure, if it makes her happy on 'her' day. But excluding him from an event because of his 1cm shorter height than you?? I would not want to be
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    OOP I also think 1cm is not much and that is why offered I won't wear heels but she didn't like that idea. She never asked me anything like this before. She said she thinks he isn't good enough for me, but she never demanded that I will exclude him from events (not even back then when he was my boyfriend)
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    VERDICT: NOT THE Edit: Thank you for your voting. I got so many I can't respond to all. I now see that I was not in the wrong to tell her that it is either both of us or none of us. Edit 2: UPDATE After all the support I got there I am making a move. I wrote her a text saying that I understand that wedding can be stressful and she wants it perfect but that it really hurt me what she wanted from me. I wrote that I am standing to what I said and unless my husband is invited, I am not coming. I wro
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    OOP made a Final Update on May 28, 2021 (Next day) FINAL UPDATE: So she finally wrote me, she very rudely told me that if this is my attitude I can /the F word/ off. I was polite in my message and she can't do even that. So we are not going and I don't really want to talk to her after this all. I tried my best to be solve it and to give her a chance. It's sad but I guess she really was a toxic friend as many of you said in the comments.
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    Sunflower-and-Dream • 3d . I am just waiting for the next update with my popcorn... Well it is true she used to say he is not good enough for me cause of his interests and look but that was a long time ago. They are not friends but they are not mean to each other or anything. I guess the bride never got her opinion of OOP'S husband, she just hid it better until her wedding. ← Reply 1.7k
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    chungusnoodlez ⚫ 3d Height requirements are for roller coasters, not weddings. Although with this marriage, def a roller coaster. Reply 666
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    knittedjedi • 3d Gotta Read'Em All she told me she thinks it would be better if my husband didn't come. she said it is because he is shorten then me and it would look weird on pictures As someone with a similar miniscule height difference with my husband, it's just bamboozling that someone could actually use this as an excuse. Reply 289 ↓
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    Amelora 3d ° I can FEEL you dancing Yeah, everyone is commenting about how stupid the height thing is, which it 100% is, but this is also 100% not about the height. Oops friend does not want her husband there for whatever reason, to the point that she is willing to drop the whole friendship over it. To me this reads as either the husband is terrible person and the bride doesn't want to deal with it on her wedding day, or the bride is used to manipulating OOP in to doing what she wants and doesn'
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    ap539.3d Someone cheated, and it wasn't the koala She said that the day is about her and not about me and my husband and I should respect her wishes about her day. This whole "the bride is the center of attention on her wedding day" concept only works to an extent. Disrespect is disrespect, no matter if it happens on your wedding day or a completely random day. ... Reply 100
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    Wonderful_Ad_6089. 3d What I want to know is what pictures is the bride even talking about? The husband wouldn't be in the wedding party and generally you just have pictures done with the wedding party. If it's at the reception and there's candid shots of them together...who cares? Plus OP would probably change out of heels for the reception anyway. This is just a ridiculous non-reason reason to exclude him. ... ← 137
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    missshrimptoast • 3d Screeching on the Front Lawn This is a throw the whole friend out situation Reply 115

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